Christian girls in a sexy world

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Some people may judge you on looks & clothes, but God cares about your heart.


Each day we are being fed messages about how girls and women should be. The world shouts out that all women are and should be sexy. It is in the television shows and movies we watch, the internet sites we browse, the songs we listen to, the magazines we flip through and even on the billboards we drive by every day. The world tells us that the ideal woman is hot, sexy, sassy and on the prowl.

At school the message is no different. When I was at school, social groups were roughly divided by the clothes girls wore. Generally the shorter the skirt and more flimsy the blouse, the more popular you were with the girls and the more attention you received from boys – I gather the world hasn’t changed much since I left school. The message we receive at school is that if you dress sexy and engage in sexual behaviour the more popular you are in the social scheme. It is a case of the “survival of the prettiest”.

However, these messages are not what God tells his daughters.


Your worth and value are not based on your body nor on being sexy. We need to get real about this. Genesis 1:27, 31 and Genesis 2:23-25 express the goodness of our physical bodies which God created. We are made in the image of God and this should be where our value is found. However, we do live in a fallen world where the goodness of creation and relationship have been broken. In our obsession with our bodies and clothing to gain value and acceptance, we make idols of ourselves. We need to realign ourselves with God’s values.

1 Samuel 16:7 expresses that while humans look at outward appearance, God is concerned with our heart and character more than our bodies or clothes. Furthermore, this side of the cross, our identity as Christians lies in Christ and not our outward appearance. We need to be counter-cultural! God loves us (1 John 4:6), has chosen us (Ephesians 1:4) and wants us to be conformed to the image of his son (Romans 8:29) and not the ideal body image. Remind yourself and your sisters that you are a dearly loved child of His.


The Bible teaches quite clearly on modesty and sexuality. Ephesians 5:3 says ‘But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality.’ This ‘hint’ includes both our actions and our appearance. God desires that sex, a good thing created by Him, be enjoyed only in a man-woman marriage relationship. Genesis 2:24 talks of the beautiful union between a man and his wife as does Song of Songs. Elsewhere the Bible warns of the consequences of not respecting the place of sex within marriage such as Hebrews 13:4. Women are encouraged also to dress modestly and develop inner beauty, (1 Peter 3:3-6). This is what God desires for his daughters – not because he is a killjoy but because he loves us and in fact knows what will bring us more joy!


Girls – we need to get real about the effect our bodies and actions have on men. If you dress sexy you may receive unwanted attention, or may become tempted to become involved in ungodly sexual behaviours. Furthermore, we need to love our Christian brothers at all times – not just youth group or church!

Sometimes we would like to argue that it is our right to wear what we want and it is the boys' fault for thinking such “bad” things. This is not Christ-like. We need to lay down our lives (and our rights) to love others and encourage them onto godliness. When we dress sexy this isn’t helping our brothers. Think about what messages you are sending when you are buying clothes and getting dressed. Girls, let’s be real with each other too and point out when your sister may be inadvertently immodest especially when the weather warms up.


Sex and being sexy has a time and place that God is all for – within the marriage relationship. Baring our bodies and engaging in sexual practices belong there. I urge you sisters to wait till then to be a sexy Christian girl. Any hint before then is only damaging to your brothers and yourself. Be girls who seek to love God with their hearts, minds, bodies and clothes.

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  • user


    So true! Girls you need to realise that the way you dress can be a stumbling block to your christian brothers and can even draw them away from God!! Thats serious stuff. The Scriptures call us to honour God with our bodies (1 Cor 6:19-20) and part of this is dressing modestly!! Sure, most people, girls in particular, dress to bring attention to their bodies, because the world accepts that, but God doesn’t!! We need to be different from the word (Romans 12:2) in order to be transformed more and more into Christ’s likeness! God Bless 

    • user


      i agree. Girls are given too much attention on the way they look rather than their personality. We are judged for what we look like and it shouldnt be like that.
      God Bless <3

    • user


      On behalf of all girls who have read this message and have no read it as well. I want to apologize. We ( I included), don’t watch and check to make sure that whatever I am wearing is appropriate. Sorry to all my brothers in Christ.

  • user


    i agree. good hustle guys :D

  • user


    This Passage/Topic Has Truly Been A Blessing . I Can Use This Information And Embrace It Too Help Other Girls : )

  • user


    I know the answer now. People have been debating a lot on this issue. I promise that I will try my best not to disturb the thoughts of our brothers. I don’t dress like that much, but fear I shouldn’t become later. Thank you for your support FIONA DEWHURST.


  • user


    I try to not dress like this and when my friends dress like that I always try to tell them if you don’t want boys looking and talking about you don’t dress like that.

  • user


    If you have pressure to dress like this, maybe you should consider what girlfriends you surround herself with! I know it helps me to be with my friends because we help each other out when it comes to these things.

  • user


    Girls- we can still wear cute clothes that honer God and our bodies. It’s not hard to dress modestly, it’s just that this world and all of the peer pressure can lead to immodest clothing . As well as speech. My mom has always told my sister and I that modesty instead just dressing, it’s the way we talk. Scripture says that what comes out of our mouth is a reflection of our heart. That in includes speech. 
    God Bless.

  • user


    We are called to live as free men, but we shouldn’t carry on living in sin. We are to live as representatives of Christ.
    Whatever we do, must not lead another person to sin, must bring glory to God and edification to those around us, and us as well.
    Live as though there is nothing worth living for except to glorify God.
    If dressing inappropriately falls into ‘causing another person to sin’ then stop and repent.
    God looks at our hearts not at our outward appearance, but that gives no leverage to go around wearing skimpy outfits.
    We are his image, therefore MODESTY is required.

  • user


    I have always been one to dress modestly because of my faith. Where I live there aren’t many guys my age who are Christians with a deep faith in Jesus, so it can be tempting to dress immodestly to impress. But I always end up turning to Proverbs 31:10 “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth more than rubies.” It’s a good reminder that it’s character that’s worth worrying about, not our clothes, not how well we sing, not anything else. One day girls, one day, we will find men who will see all of the choices we make for our Father and they will love us more for making them:)

  • user


    Yeah that is very right. We Christians as a whole are called to be different from this world in every kind of circumstances. Specifically we girls don’t have to be same to other girls with mistreating our brothers with dressing very immodestly…..and Christans l boys don’t have to behave the way other boys behave BECAUSE WE ARW THE MATERIALS OF GOD TO BE USED FIRCHIS PURPOSES. AMEN!

  • user


    This is a beautiful piece,  I’ve learnt something extra to share with my friends in church who aren’t concerned about what message their dressing pass out as Christians.  Thanks Fiona

  • user


    We really need to give a lot of thought to our dressing and the kind of message we are actually passing to others. We are the temple of God. God will not appreciate it at all if we dress in manners that do not please Him but instead cause others to fall.

  • user


    I get what everyone is trying to say but I’ve always felt that we always make it a point to teach women that we have change ourselves for Men.  I personally have never worn anything thinking of impressing anyone.  Quite frankly women can’t keep everyone from becoming aroused, some people have crazy imaginations and if you look too hard you can find anything that is “sexy.”  What about women who were made by God that are naturally curvy or have a big butt no matter what they wear?  And another point is that if you focus too much on if my outfit is going to make some dude aroused or whatever we miss out on what we should be focused on which is Jesus.  I may be wrong but honestly I think everyone needs to take more personal responsibility on staying pure and not falling into temptation.  Maybe I’m wrong but I just thought it would be good for someone to hear a different side.

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