No sex before marriage?
We look at the reasons why you should wait
In case you’re wondering why Christians stick with the idea of no sex before marriage, here are some reasons.
Taking the long-term view
If you wait until marriage, you can know that the person likes you for who you are, and not because you’ll go all the way. If you wait, you can have a good confidence that both you and your partner should be able to resist having affairs if you have been able to resist hopping into bed with each other! If you wait, you can focus on communication skills which will stand your marriage in good stead for the future.
Research shows that marriages that start out as live-together have a higher divorce rate than those that do not.
A good marriage requires good communication. Communication relies on words and body language. Having sex is the ultimate body language. It sends really strong messages to you and the other person. The messages sent are: “I really care about you. I really want to be with you. I want to look after you. I only want you.” If you say these things with your body, but you won’t say them with your words, you are lying to the other person. Marriage is when you say these words with your mouth, and you say them with your body. Lying to people, whether with words, or with your body, has terrible consequences. People who are lied to lose the ability to trust. They begin to lie themselves. If you lie to people, you rip them off.
Sex is precious
Have you ever thought that having sex is like giving the most precious part of yourself away? You need to know that the person you give it to will respect, love and look after you, so you won’t be hurt. Marriage allows you to give to each other with freedom and joy, rather than fear that your precious gift will be rejected.
If you have sex with someone else, you are stealing that freedom from yourself, from your partner, and from the spouses you both might have in the future. Every person you have sex with – you will remember. It’ll be like taking them to bed with you whenever you do it with your spouse.
The physical side
Sex has physical consequences. Sure, you might not get pregnant if you take the pill or use condoms. But then again, you might. Accidents do happen. And when they do, they frequently produce babies. Babies need two parents. Better than that, they need two mature parents. Don’t rip your future children off.
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are also prevalent. People do catch them, and can pass them on. Some can make you infertile.
While you’re single, instead of spending your emotional energy wishing you could have sex now, why not start working towards preparing yourself to be a great marriage partner for whoever you marry in the future?
Is that enough reasons not to have sex before marriage? What do you think?