It’s all good in the singlehood
Using your singleness to impact the world and grow closer with Jesus.
Many of us live with the common misconception that there is something wrong with being single. As if it’s some sort of disease. That if you’re not in a relationship or looking to be in one, then there is something wrong with you.
But have you ever thought of singleness as a gift or a ministry? A season from God that produces growth? A time for you to get know God on a personal level?
The truth is, singleness is a season that can and should be enjoyed. It's a time of freedom, a time to be able to devote yourself to God without interference.
I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife — and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. —1 Corinthians 7:32-35
Making the most of singleness
Many singles are so concerned about finding a husband or a wife that their interests become divided and they lose sight of God. Is it possible that you are so distracted, you can’t hear what God wants you to be doing right now?. Don’t let your frustration with singleness get in the way of God’s purpose for your life. As Paul says, an unmarried man or woman should be living in undivided devotion to the Lord, because once you’re married your family comes first and your ministry comes second.
As single Christians, we should be seeking God and making the most of our singleness. A famous biblical example of this is Ruth. Despite losing her husband, Ruth didn’t go out looking for another husband straight away. She committed herself to serve God by supporting her mother-in-law, Naomi.,
Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. where you go, I will go, and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God, my God. —Ruth 1: 16-17
Ruth accepted the situation God had placed her in, and made it her focus to dedicate her time to serving God and other people.
You're never alone in your singleness
God knows your deepest wants and needs, so no matter the circumstance, you have to trust that He will provide when the time is right.
“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well”—Matthew 6:33
A lot of the time, it can be difficult to see the advantages of singlehood, especially when you have friends and family members that are in relationships. You can’t help but feel lonely and want the same thing they’ve got.
But you have to remember that you are never really alone. For the Bible says that the Lord your God shall be your “husband”. (Isaiah 54:5). God is your covering and your spouse, and will still be so, even if you find a partner..
Desiring marriage isn’t a sin. But you should never let that desire turn into desperation. You should never be so ruled by wanting a relationship that you end up settling for a someone who’s priorities are not the same as yours.
Don’t spend your singleness focused on changing your relationship status, rather spend it building your relationship with God. Marriage is not the end goal of your life – the end goal is living and trusting in Jesus until he returns.