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A Christian Teen’s Guide to What God Wants From Guys

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Young men: find out how God wants you to live

Hi there Christian guy! I bet you’re here because you love God and want to know what he wants from you.

That’s great! Even asking that question shows that you’re growing mature in your faith, and you understand that being a Christian means that your life is going to be affected by God’s will.

In this Christian Teen’s Guide, we’re going to take a look at what exactly God wants from you – firstly as a human, and secondly as a man.

What does the Bible say about what God wants from men?

God created all humanity

In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth – and he created people! Genesis 1:26-27 tells us:

Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

So God created mankind in his own image,

    in the image of God he created them;

    male and female he created them.

God created men

In Genesis 2, we get a more detailed account of creation. Now whether this story is literal or not is debated, but it is clear that God created distinct male and female people. The first man is Adam, and he is given a job: to work the land and take care of it.

Later, God creates the first woman, Eve. They are to work together in the land, and they are also brought together in a covenant relationship in which they are able to bear children to inhabit the earth.

God wants certain things from all people

After creating people, we unfortunately messed everything up. Since sin has entered the world God has one particular thing that he wants from all of us – male or female!

As Sean McDowell explains in this article, "God’s will is that, by believing in His son, Jesus Christ, people be saved. 1 Timothy 2:4 says that God, “desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.”

If you are stumbling through life trying to know God’s will, but have never asked God to forgive your sins, then you are not even in the beginning of God’s will. Qualification number one for God’s will is your salvation. If you have never committed your life to being a disciple of Jesus, then God has no reason to reveal anything further to you regarding the pattern of your life.”

God wants certain things from all Christians

As Christians, God has more things that he wants from us – male or female.

Although we are utterly and completely redeemed from our sin purely by the grace of Jesus (and let’s never forget that!), as part of our new identity as followers of Jesus there are a few things we need to do. These are broad categories but there are many Bible verses to back them up. Take a look!

  • Love God – God has saved us because he loves us and wants a relationship with us. So we ought to love him too! He has done so much for us and he wants to know we love and care for him too. We show this by building a relationship with him through Bible reading and prayer, and by our actions.
  • Love others – loving others is supposed to be an outpouring of the love that God has shown us. Want to know more about this love? Turn to 1 Corinthians 13 for a beautiful description.
  • Serve other Christians – serving the church is a responsibility of all of us who follow God. Together we encourage each other and help each other to love God and others more. The way you serve may be different to others but you really should be serving other Christians as part of your faith.
  • Witness to non-Christians – in Matthew 28, Jesus tells us to make disciples of all nations. That means, tell others about him and help them follow him! Our witness to non-Christians may be in actions or words, but either way it’s a big part of being a Christian.
  • Flee from sin – while we will never win the battle against sin in this life, sin is not a part of our identity any more. Just as we don’t wear the uniform of a school we used to go to, we need to put off our old sinful selves and clothe ourselves in good, right behaviour instead. That’s what matches our identity!

God wants certain things from men

As a young Christian man, God has specific things that he wants from you. Many of these things are not that distinct from what he wants for women, but they are things that are specifically expressed to men as a special reminder in the Bible.

Interestingly, a lot of what the Bible has to say to men specifically is actually to men in certain circumstances – namely either pastoral ministry, or marriage. We’re going to leave those particular pieces of advice aside for now, since neither are likely to apply to teen guys!

So what is relevant right now? Well, God knows what temptations men tend to face as they seek to serve him, and he calls them out on it.

Men can have a tendency to…

  • Want to dominate others – men, due to biology, hormones and in fact a God-given desire to lead, can fall into the trap of trying to dominate others. But being a strong leader in God’s eyes is about service and sacrifice. John 15:13 tells us that “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
  • Fall into lust – there is plenty of biblical advice for men advising to steer well clear of situations where they will lust after women. While women definitely also struggle with lust and objectifying men, it is admittedly more of a problem for men. In Matthew 5:28, Jesus says, “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Lust is a serious problem.
  • Struggle with self-control – as is pointed out in this Fervr article, many Christian guys struggle with self control: “Guys, you are probably already facing a whole range of temptations in your life. And if you want to make it to the finish line and be welcomed into the arms of Christ, then learning to resist temptation and control your impulses is going to be key. Self control is so important to young guys that the Bible highlights it for us: "Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled" – Titus 2:6”
  • Refuse to be taught – some guys struggle with submitting to leadership and won’t admit that they need to be taught. But 1 Peter 5:5 urges, “You who are younger, submit yourselves to your elders.” Older people have so much to teach you. Keep your desire for authority in check and learn from others as you grow up.

Let’s get practical

Let’s apply some of the Biblical ideas above to how you as a young Christian man can seek to do what God wants. We’ll apply these ideas to an area of life that God says is most significant: relationships.

Relating to God

As pointed out above, God wants to have a relationship with you! What do you do to foster a relationship? You spend time together.

Make the effort to develop a daily Bible reading and prayer habit. Dig deep into God’s word and speak to him about what’s going on in your life. Ask him to help you grow more like Jesus. Ask him to help align what you want with what he wants.

Relating to other men

The Bible tells us that we need to love all people. But many young guys struggle to love their friends well. It can be all too easy to shy away from deep conversation and truly caring interactions, in favour of playing sport or video games together.

Don’t get me wrong, those things are great too! But they don’t lead to the same depth of relationship between guys that I think God wants for us.

Remember how Jesus interacted with other men? It wasn’t all kicking the ball around or trading sledges. Jesus formed deep relationships with his disciples and shared his life with them. Another example of male friendship in the Bible is between David and Jonathan.

While some guys may find it hard to develop deep friendships with other men, there is so much to be gained from opening up to others.

But what if you find yourself attracted to men and not women? That’s definitely a hard situation to be in, and developing deep friendships with other men will have another level of complexity. We urge you to seek advice and support from trusted adults like your youth leaders.

Relating to women

As mentioned above, relating to women is an area in which many Christian guys fail. They have a tendency to look at women’s bodies rather than their character, and they see women as objects rather than equals before God.

Remember what we looked at above: God created male and female in his image, equal inheritors of the earth and equally saved by Jesus. When you mistreat women, you are ignoring the fact that they too are children of God like you.

Honour the women in your life as sisters – sisters in Christ if they follow Jesus too. Show respect and care for them.

If you get married, there’s some more specific advice for men that you can explore as you figure out what it means to be a husband. But here’s a hint: it’s not about taking charge and being a big, strong leader! It’s all about love and sacrifice, once again.

A final note: Who’s your role model?

As is pointed out in this excellent Fervr article, “If you've watched a few movies, you've probably noticed that a lot of them have a single male lead character.

Usually he's pretty tough, good-looking ... and knows how to treat the ladies.

If you're a young guy, the film-makers behind these movies desperately want you to think "I want to become like this lead character".

They're hoping that if you start thinking that, you'll become committed to the movie, and you'll watch every sequel that comes out.

Don't fall for it!

You don't want to become like those guys. You want to become like Jesus.

Jesus doesn't want you to be a tough guy. He wants you to admit your weakness and trust in his strength.

Jesus doesn't care if you're good looking. He wants you to look like your father in Heaven – loving, just, kind, gracious.

Jesus doesn't want you to use women for your own selfish purposes. He wants you to love women, to protect their honour, and to put their needs first.

The choices you make now about the Christian guy you're going to be today will shape the Christian man you become in the future.

So choose wisdom. Choose faithfulness. Choose love. And choose Jesus.”

Questions to think about

  1. What does the world say being a man is all about? How does this contrast to what God says?
  2. As a Christian, what does God want from you?
  3. What do you think young Christian men like you struggle most with, in terms of temptation and sin?
  4. Do you struggle to relate to other men in a deep way? How can you work on that?
  5. Do you struggle to honour women in your life? How can you work on that?
  6. How will you seek to deepen your relationship with God this week?

This article was co-written by Ryan and Elisabeth Carter.


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