What Christian guys want girls to know

It's easy to get the wrong message from the media about what guys want. The reality may surprise you.

My name is Ed and this is my attempt to speak on behalf of all those Christian guys out there. Obviously I can’t speak for every single individual, but I can give you a general sneak peek into our minds and let you know what matters to us.

From Christian guys to christian girls there are four big things we want you to know:

1. Christian guys want Christian girls

Most of us are trying really hard to honour Jesus (even if it doesn’t always look like it). We want to live a godly life and we are trying to work out exactly what that looks like. So what we are looking for in a girl then is someone who is going to help us do that. What we want is not girls who conform to the ways of the world in the way they dress, speak and act. God wants you to live differently, and so do we. If you simply act like everyone else, then we will go looking elsewhere.

The girl who is doing her best to honour Jesus is the one that really shines. As we grow older, popularity, trends and even beauty will fade, but a foundation set on Jesus will last for eternity. The girls we want (and need) are the ones who have set this foundation.

And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. (Colossians 3:17)

2. Character is key

The quality that is most attractive for us is your inner beauty. You are most beautiful when you are committed to serving Jesus in everything, and pursuing a godly character that bears the fruit of the Spirit. Sometimes we think we just want a girl who has really attractive physical features (like all the movies and TV shows tell us) but this is not really what is best for us. The writer of proverbs was right when he said:

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
(Proverbs 31:10)

3. Being attractive is about more than clothing

Don't be tempted to think that revealing clothes or showing off your body will win a godly Christian guy over!

Male brains are stimulated by visual images, so we're always happy if you dress modestly because it helps us to be pure too! A godly character is far more important (and attractive) than any outer features.

4. We want to look after you

Sometimes a man's desire to lead and be respected comes out in the ugly form of pride and arrogance. But other times it is just simply us trying to care for you. For example, if you have a boyfriend and he takes you out for a meal, then he offers to pay for you, let him! This is just a way he is trying to love you. It is ok to let him treat you like a princess. Again I realise I am talking on a very general level. Men do differ in various ways. But we enjoy protecting and providing in the big and small.