Dear future husband…

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A Christian teen girl shares some honest truths with the boy pursuing her.

Dear future husband,

I’m sorry in advance, but it would be really hard to make me say “yes” to you based only on your outward appearance ... because I probably won’t believe you.

  • I won’t believe we're right together because of any sweet words you’ll say.
  • I won’t believe we're a perfect match because of chocolates, flowers or any gifts you’ll give.
  • I won’t believe we're "meant to be", based on your talents, money, fame, appearance or intelligence.
  • I won’t believe you're good for me, even if you go to church every day and claim to be a Christian. 

Prove to me that you’re a man of God.

You know how? Well, you don’t need to show me anything, you don’t even need to pursue me, PURSUE GOD. Pursue my creator, protector and father. Love Him more than anything else, and at the right time, ask Him for my hand.

You know, you don’t need to search for anything that would make me happy. After all, I’m not that girl that dwells on happiness anymore. I realized that this world’s definition of “happiness” is foolish, it is just a temporary thing. It can’t be kept.

My smiles are cheap, yet they fade easily. Flowers, teddy bears and chocolates will make me smile for ~8 seconds, poems and letters for ~10, and some music for ~12, but, all of those are not even worth 1/nth of a lifetime. Search for something that will make God happy, search for it every day, every single second you have, then, he might give you my lifetime. And I promise, I’ll be smiling on the inside every moment we spend together.

“Through the good, and the bad, and the ugly” may it be, I’ll be there by your side. Yet, boy, if you’re reading this right now, I honestly can’t give you even a single space in my heart. Currently, this heart is that of a child—unsteady, unripe and broken, and I won’t let you have this kind of girl. I’m just a teenager, and I need more lessons from my Father. I need to contain myself, because right now, I am a raging fire, and I’ll only destroy you and burn the chance of a future with you. 

I’m sorry for raising the standard, but I’m not asking you to be perfect. Its just that you need to be validated by the one who is perfect. Study hard, love your parents (your family), learn to respect others, aim for a future, love God and follow Him.

I’m asking for this because, I’m a serious girl, and well, you’re not just aiming for a trial-and-error relationship, right? You’re aiming for a relationship that lasts ‘til death.

Well, you need to be a man (no one wants to babysit a boy) and personally, I want a man that will be a role model to younger people. One day, they too will be courted, and I want them to look at you as an example of someone worth spending a lifetime with.

Then, I also have these extraordinary parents, who laid everything they have for my sake. I would hate a man who’ll disrespect them. I already caused too much pain in their hearts, and it would kill me to see them experience that again.

Be a mature Christian, a man of God. If you’ll reach His hand, you’ll certainly have a chance of reaching mine.

Sincerely yours,

the girl who wishes to be known for her pure heart

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    Tobi

    This amazing

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    Richard

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    Louis

    This wonderful

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    Marlyn

    It’s good. Well, I just want to share my feelings with regards with that…I’m afraid that my future husband will not be a Christian in a proper way. Because, I do know someone well it’s my cousin who marry a man which she really called so Christian. Because the man has a brother that is a pastor so my cousin really believes that his husband is a good mannered one. But then, even though he is a Christian his attitudes and manners are not suited for him to be called a Christian. He is so selfish and ignorant that nobody likes him. Till now, I know that my cousin really regret about marrying him but she didn’t show it to us. There so many man who claimed that they’re Christians but found them not. I hope you can give me some advice with the views I have because I am really afraid to have a Christian partner someday who has the same bad attitude with my cousin’s husband. Thanks! God Bless Us All!!

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    Retsel

    Wow! I really like that. I relate with it.

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    Michael

    That’s the heart of a woman who loves God.

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    Leila

    Hi Marlyn! I’m really sorry for the late reply. Thank you for sharing, I’m not really an expert in this case, but I can give you suggestions, and opinions (and I hope that these will help you). Well, first of all, try making some standards, try listing some things that you want your future husband to be, and pray for it, PRAY FOR HIM. Also, strive to grow with God first deeply, because God, Himself, will give you someone you deserve at the right time. Before marrying someone, get to know the person first; his background, his friends, his family, and even his enemies. Being a “Christian” by religion doesn’t show that a man really loves and serves God. God will give you discernment, that is, if you’ll listen to Him properly (which is through the Bible). I’ll try to write something about this, but I’ll recommend you to read “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris. That really helped me a lot. I’ll be praying for you! God bless

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    Favour

    sweet heart the bible says that fruits of a christian should show not only with what they say but what they do as well.your future husband will be a good christian man and that will only be done if you pray alot and ask God for him. God answers all prayers and this wont be any different.you can also pray for your cousin’s husband.fruits of the spirits is love, kindness and all that is good. pray always and everything will be fine

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    Mvusi

    Wow, powerful stuff. ” You invite what you recite “. There’s a very good chance your future husband will meet all this you wish for :)

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    Amori

    It’s Really Great.I Like It And I’ll Always Remember It.

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    Marlyn

    hi!! Leila.. :-) Thank you so much. This will help me a lot.. God bless you and your family..  ;-) lovelots! <3

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    Marlyn

    hi!! Leila.. :-) Thank you so much. This will help me a lot.. God bless you and your family..  ;-) lovelots! <3

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    Leila

    I’m glad to help you, Marlyn. God bless you and your family too :). I’ll be praying for you.

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    Jehan

    I have been waiting patiently. I locked up my heart, gave God the key.

    true love waits and true love is worth waiting for.., I don’t care if it takes too long to wait for my future Husband because i believe it’s worth it. I want a man after God’s own heart.

    thank you for this..

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    Psalms

    yah thats nice amazing .....GODS WILL BE DONE .//

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    Briannea

    Amazingly said! I absolutely love this!

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    Francis

    great..i pray that you find the man God set for you sister…

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    Francis

    ryt

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    Candace

    Amen

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