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My sister who was one of my closest friends took her own life recently. She suffered from bipolar disorder. I had conversations with her about believing in Jesus and having God as her best friend. She was resistant to it, but respected my choices to believe. Is there any way for me to know she is in heaven or not? I miss her terribly and would want nothing more than for her to have eternal salvation.

Gretchen

Dear Gretchen,

First let me say how sorry I am to hear about your sister. Such loss is hard to understand and even harder to bear.

I have some understanding of your situation as I have someone close to me who has bipolar and I live in fear of her getting to a point where it is far too much for her. I have lived with it now for more than four years and have daily cried out to God to keep her safe and heal her. What God has taught me through this is that he is in control and he loves her more than I could possibly imagine. He is as much concerned for her as he is for me and while I would not have chosen this path for her, God has and he does not make mistakes. This is the path God wants her to follow and faith demands that I trust God in this even though I don’t know what the outcome is. She may in the end take her own life and as tragic and painful as this would be (and believe me I pray desperately that it would not happen), even this is not beyond God’s control and I have to accept it and let God be God!

After all this is what faith is - trusting God and trusting that he knows what he is doing - and it is in situations like this that our faith is tested to the limits. This is the intent of Psalm 46 where the psalmist speaks of trusting God even though the world passes away. In the midst of everything, God is his refuge and strength. The most amazing line in the psalm - Be still and know that I am God (vs 10) - is a call to us in the midst of our pain, anguish and suffering to stop, be still and remember that God is in control and nothing can thwart his plans nor his love for his people. He will be exalted and his people with him.

And this is the same faith you need to show in your situation for I’m sorry to say that I cannot give you the assurance you seek. I do not know what is in another person’s heart only God does So I cannot know for certain whether your sister (or anyone) is in heaven or not - that is between her and God. But I can tell you this:

God is just - he will not judge her by anything that she could not know or was not able to understand. He knows her heart and will do what is right.
God is merciful - all it would require is faith the size of a mustard seed.
God is loving - he will bring good out of something even as hard and painful as this.

These are the things that you can be certain of and can put your faith in. If there is a mustard seed of faith, God will save her. You may not know whether she is in heaven or not but you can know that God, who has her in his hand, is faithful and just and will do what is right.

I’m sorry that I cannot be more helpful but we are called to be people of faith who take God at his word and sometimes that is all we have to hold onto. And while this might seem like nothing (especially to those who do not understand) this word is stronger than anything that I know and will outlast time itself. So hang in there, grieve for your sister but remember the hope that you have in Jesus.

Your friend in Christ
David

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Hi, I thought I was on my way to being a Christian. I feel as though I have grown more in my faith with Jesus since this time last year. I’m wanting to go to Church each week to be challenged and to learn more about Jesus. I (well up until early this morning) believed that in God’s grace and mercy Jesus had forgiven my sins and I was so thankful to Him for that. I think about Him each day and try to read the Bible daily. I want to live how he wants me to and I try to do that as best I can.

However, early this morning I was woken with a terrible, terrible feeling that perhaps I am not right with God and have questioned whether or not I will be saved. About 15 years ago, I did something wrong. I’ve never admitted it to anyone (until just now with my husband) and also Jesus.

Now I’m wondering whether I should still own up to what I have done. I am not the same person I was 15 years ago but the guilt I feel now is eating me up inside and panicked that maybe I’m not saved after all. I feel awful.

Do I need to make amends for what I did back then and suffer the consequences for my actions? I was young, irresponsible and not walking with God back then. These are not excuses at all. I would never dream of doing what I did then now.

Thanks for your response.

anon

Hi,

I am really sorry that you feel this way. I do not know what happened 15 years ago but I do know what regrets and guilt over past actions can do. Every so often I find myself cringing at the sudden recall of things done or said in the past. It is hard particularly when those things have involved hurting or disappointing other people.

But let me assure you that no matter how bad the situation may have been, no matter how much pain or anguish you may have caused, no matter how much sin may have been involved, God’s love and Jesus death covers it all. If you have truely turned back from sin to God (and your question certainly seems to indicate this) then you have been forgiven even for what happened 15 years ago and are safe in the love of God.

Paul expresses this so beautifully in Romans 8

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.

What, then, shall we say in response to this? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who is he that condemns? Christ Jesus, who died—more than that, who was raised to life—is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?  ...

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

An amazing promise and Paul is certain of it because God has done it all for us. If Jesus has died for you and you have put your faith in him then nothing you have done in the past can come between you and God. So rest assured of your salvation!

Now that does not mean that we are free of the consequences of such actions. Sometimes the sins of the past have consequences that affect our future and we have to deal with them - they do not affect our salvation but they do affect our lives. For example an indiscretion earlier in life may lead to driving while under the influence of alcohol and an accident that leaves you disabled - an action resulting in a consequence that affects you even though you have repented of the action many times over. I don’t know what happened 15 years ago but it sounds like it may have been serious and that you may need to make ammends for it (even though your salvation is secure). This may be very difficult for you but it also may be part of the process of helping you deal with the guilt. You may need the support of family and friends to do it. But it also may be a means by which you can show how a Christian manages such things.

How you deal with the incident will depend upon its seriousness and what’s involved. If the incident involved hurting or disappointing someone then you may need to confess that to them, ask for forgiveness and seek to make ammends. How they respond to that is up to them. They may not want to forgive you. You have no control over that. All you can do is confess and ask their forgiveness. If the incident involves breaking the law then it may be more serious - it depends on what you did. You may need to confess this to the police and face the consequences.

So pray about it, asking God for wisdom and strength. Talk with your husband about it and maybe one or two other trusted christian friends. Listen to your conscience and then decide what to do. It may be a really scary prospect but you need to remember that the God who loves you passionately can and will bring good out of all things for those who love him. So do what you think is right and trust that God will do as he promises. I will pray for you as well.

 

Now about this incident 15 years ago

Let me start by assuring you that nothing that you may have done can come between you and God. I do not know what it is that happened 15 years ago but I

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What, when, and where is the age of knowing located in the bible. If my two year old dies, will he go to heaven since he does not understand faith yet?

Katrina

Hi Katrina,

Your question is one most Christians think about at some stage.  I thought about it for a while in ‘normal everyday life’ and then more intensely when our child died before being born.

This question shouldn’t just force us to ask whether our child trusts God but also whether we do.  I say this because, in his perfect wisdom, God’s decided not to tell us exactly what happens to our little ones who die.  Our temptation then is to try and fill in the space left by God’s silence.  The idea of an ‘age of knowing’ is very appealing but the Bible never discusses it.  God simply hasn’t said what he will do with every child that dies.

God has told us about his character though.  In the Bible he shows us that he’s always just and fair.  He hates injustice.  He also shows us that he’s always loving.  In fact, he loves our children far more than we do and knows them better than we ever will.  None of this definitely means that our children will go to Heaven.  But it does mean that God won’t make the wrong decision.  His decision will be good and loving and fair.  We need to trust that he will do what’s right even when we don’t know what he will do or why he will do it.

But there’s still more to be said.  The Bible says that the human race is in rebellion against God.  The only way any of us can go to heaven is if he forgives us.  He forgives us when we turn back to him and trust, or have faith in, Jesus as our king; the one who’s paid the penalty we deserve for our rebellion.  But the Bible is also clear that it’s God who works in people to make them trust.  He can do that to anyone at any age.

So what about children?  There’s a general expectation in the Bible that the children of parents who trust or believe in Jesus start out life as believers.  That’s why Paul instructs children as though they’re Christians (Ephesians 6:1; Colossians 3:20).  In other words, generally, children start from the same position as their parents.  That gives me a general confidence that one day I’ll meet my child in Heaven.  Nevertheless, if Jesus makes a different decision to the one I hope for, it’s because he has a very good reason for doing so.

There’s so much more that could be said.  Feel free to post another question so things can be clarified.  I’m very aware that you could at this moment be watching your child die.  I pray that God will comfort you in whatever your circumstances and that he’ll save your son.  I also pray that you’ll know God.  God the Father knows what it is to have a Son die and God the Son knows what it is to die.  He’s not immune to your pain.  He’s trustworthy and faithful and good.

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Romans 17:8 talks about those whose names were not written in the book of life before the foundation of the world.  We know that the elect’s names have been written in the book of life before the foundation of the world.  We also know that names can be blotted out of the book of life rev 3 and there is a reference in the psalms.  My question is are some created for hell?  It appears some are elected for salvation.  Of those some can choose sin and trade in the truth of God for a lie.  And it seems theirs another group not written in the book of life before the foundation of the world in which God is displaying his justice in while in the life of the elect he is displaying his mercy.  Romans 9.  Is this a sound evaluation of the holy scriptures?

Anthony

Dear Anthony

You are certainly right to say that some are elected for salvation.  Everyone destined for salvation was chosen before the foundation of the world (Ephesian 1:4), which is why Revelation 17:8 teaches that the Book of Life was written before the foundation of the world.  Revelation 3:5 does not imply that a name can be blotted out of the book; God denies that he will blot out their names.  In the Old Testament the “book” is a little bit different.  Exod. 32:33 and Psalm 69:28 do speak about the names of sinners being blotted out of the book, but there is no suggestion that this is the book of the elect; it is just the book of the living.  So these OT texts do not indicate that an elect person can be blotted out.  No elect person can ever be blotted out of the book.  And in fact, Moses asked God to blot him out for the sake of the Israelites who had sinned, and God said no; he would not blot Moses out (Exod. 32:32-33).

It is also clear that not everyone is elect.  Those not written in the Book of Life will be thrown into the lake of fire (Rev. 19:15).  It is going too far to say that they are created for hell.  But it is true that God uses them to display his wrath (Rom. 9:22), so that we truly know that he is a consuming fire.  It is so that those who are elect will stand in awe, and praise God for his amazing mercy in Christ, because we know that all people deserve to face God’s wrath.

The bottom line is that God predestines the elect in love, and with the purpose that they praise his glorious grace (Eph. 1:4-6).

I have prayed for you, and I hope this answers helps you.

Andrew

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G’day,
I’m a Christian and I’ve been trying to tell a friend of mine about Jesus. She’s got some very hardcore qu’s, some of which I can answer well and some I can’t always answer very comprehensively. One of the things she asked a little while a go I didn’t quite now how to respond and would like some help. She said something like ‘have you ever told yourself’s somethings true so much that you believed it’ and she said that she had. She consequently felt that Christians can often emmerse themselves so much in the Bible and church etc that they convince themselves that Christianity’s true.
Any help would be appreciated. thanks.

James

Hi James,

Good on you for being brave to talk to your friends about Jesus. It is often tricky to share your faith, you become quite vulnerable before your friends. My approach to your situation is drawn from something I’ve been reading in the bible lately and thinking about.

Have a read of Acts 4… notice how bold Peter is… then look back at Luke 22:54-62. Something happened between these events that completely changed Peter… and it wasn’t necessarily hearing something over and over to convince him… when Peter made that speech he was in jail for his belief! Surely normally he would be second-guessing himself at that point. But because of his conviction in Jesus - due to the work of the Holy Spirit - he was made bold, where before he had been a coward!

I wonder whether you have your own testimony that you could share - I know in my life there was a radical and very swift transformation. I was a very firm neo-pagan, practising witchcraft and harassing every Christian that I came across, then one night I heard the gospel and I knew that it was the truest thing I ever heard. It was never something ingrained in me, never something I was indoctrinated in… and there are lots of others like me!

When Peter was transformed, his knowledge of the Bible was the Old Testament, and his knowledge of the gospel was of seeing Jesus in person! He wasn’t indoctrinated or brainwashed - he was THERE! He was an observer! When I became a Christian I had almost no exposure to the Bible and certainly none to church… I wonder whether your friend has ever met anyone like that - who chose to become a Christian without any background… or whether she has ever read the Bible to see if she thinks it could be true…? You might like to ask. (Maybe you could give her a copy of ‘The Essential Jesus’ if your church has them - free copies of the gospel of Luke in easy-to-read English)

The important thing to remember for yourself (and to challenge your friend with) is that our belief in Jesus is based on hard solid historical evidence ... it is there to be read, studied and analyzed. If it is true it will always stand up to this kind of scrutiny so we should never be afraid to test what we believe. However most people who don’t believe have never looked at the evidence with an open enough mind and asked themselves “Who is Jesus?”. This is what I would challenge you to do with your friend. Maybe you could suggest that you meet together regularly and read a bit of a gospel. Let her ask questions and keep challenging her to consider who Jesus is.

These are just a few ideas. You will have a better idea of where you can go in your friendship, but hopefully this will help you think about some other things you could say.

I will pray that the Holy Spirit gives you the words to speak to your friend!

Go well.

Natalie

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Why can’t all established traditional Christian religions put aside their differences and join together to recognize that they have the same core belief?

Josephine

Hi,

Wouldn’t it be great if that could happen! Well the truth of the matter is that it does and it doesn’t - let me explain.

The heart of the problem is sin. While Christians have been forgiven for their sin, sin will remain an ever present part of our lives until God has finally judged the world and taken his people to live with him. We can see the expression of that sin in the divisions and broken relationships we experience today between people, nations, races and even churches.

Part of the problem is defining what is the “core” belief of Christianity. If you were to ask different Christians you are likely to get some very different answers. For a traditional Catholic Christianity is following Jesus Christ by listening to the church and Jesus’ representative, the Pope. For Protestants it is following Jesus through reading his Word. For others, the authority that guides their belief is the experience of God and his Spirit. In the end it comes down to what a person uses as the authority of beliefs. Broadly speaking, people tend to choose one of four main authorities when it comes to understanding God; tradition (Church structures, practices and customs), revelation (the Bible), experience (personal spiritual experiences) and human reason.

The question is which one is right? For a traditional Catholic, the tradition of the church rates highly as the authority of their belief but for an evangelical the bible is the most important thing. So if the Catholic church tradition and the evangelical understanding of the bible differ, who should change? Or if the liberal Christian (who uses reason as the means by which to determine what is right and what is wrong) believes that miracles do not happen but the evangelical believes they do then who should back down? Historically these differences have led to churches splitting and creating new denominations based a their particular views and so we have the mishmash of denominations that we have. This is what I would call institutional disunity.

Now you may say why can’t we just forget these differences and just get along?
The problem is that some of these differences are not merely side issues that can be put aside like that but do come down to the very core of Christian belief. Questions like, ‘How do I find out about God?’ will be answered differently depending on which authority is used and for such defining questions you can;t have several contradictory answers either one person is right and the others wrong or all of them are wrong. In situations like this you would hope that the institutions could work it out but they don’t. Sin and pride get in teh way and the institutions continue to disagree at this fundamental level.

But there is a more fundamental unity that does exist amongst believers that transcends the institutions and is founded on faith in Jesus Christ. If Christianity is to be true to itself, it needs to be founded on Jesus Christ and his teachings, which is found in the Bible, particularly in the New Testament. The New Testament does hold out the ideal that Christians will be unified (Eph 4:3) but it is a spiritual unity based on Christ and expressed amongst individuals and not in human institutions. One challenge to unity is false teaching, which is one of the major themes of the New Testament (Acts 20:29; Mark 13:22; 2Cor 11:13,26; Gal 2:4; Col 2:18; 1 Ti 1:3, 6:3; 2 Pe 2:1; 1Jn 4:1; Rev 2:2). Given that false teaching is such a part of the reality of the early church, Christians have no expectation of eradicating it without a supernatural work of God. Like all sin forgiveness and healing from God are the only solution we have to this problem.

To see an end to the divisions Christians need to see that God is bringing all things toward unity in His Son. Christianity is at its heart a grass-roots movement of believers following Jesus Christ rather than an institutional system of religion. The answer to the divisions in the churches today is not ignoring the differences but discovering the unity than can be found in following Jesus together. Unity is not found in the diversity of church practices but in the core belief of following Jesus Christ (Rom 15:5). Unity in Jesus Christ is also the position of mature Christians (Eph 4:1-15). This is not an institutional unity, but a deep unity of faith and knowledge of God which transcends denominations, backgrounds cultures and ages.

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Hi,
My best friend is male and not a christian. I’ve previously dated him but ended it because I came to the realisation that I should be in a relationship with a christian. We are still really close and hang out a lot just as friends but there is still a massive attraction there! I’ve explained to him why I dont want to go out with him again but he doesn’t understand. It’s hard on him most of all. What do i do?

Phoebe

Hi Phoebe

Thanks for your question. What a tough situtation! I’ve got to say at the start that I don’t know you very well, nor do I know your friend, so I’m going on guesses and generalities. So if at any point it feels like I don’t really understand your situation, you’re probably right, but I do think I can say something helpful nonetheless.

First, let’s think about why Christians and non-Christians shouldn’t enter into exclusive relationships (dating). Dating can serve a variety of purposes. But primarily, for Christians at least, dating is about heading towards marriage. I’ve once heard someone say that we either enter into an exlcusive relationship with someone with the intention of marrying them or breaking up with them. One is the proper goal, the other is a cruel goal. (Now we may break-up having begun with the intention of heading towards marriage, that’s fine and a part of the temporary nature of dating). In many ways, marriage is about the private and exclusive relationship going public and permanent, rather than private and temporary. And that is the goal of Christian dating.

So, to enter into a dating relationship is to begin on the track towards marriage with someone. So the next question is ‘Can Christians marry non-Christians?’ This is a very modern question that most Christians in the time of the BIble had little control over. You were betrothed to someone from a young age and you married them. The concept of choice in marriage only applied to a very small number of people. And there is only one verse in the BIble that gives recommendations to this small group of people - widows. 1 Corinthians 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. - The apostle Paul tells us that a widow is free to marry anyone they want, ‘but he must belong to the Lord.’ The widow is in the same situation as most modern Christians - free to choose. Indeed a widow’s plight may be more drastic than most, in an age with no income support or welfare, widows would often have no choice but to marry if they wanted to eat! They needed to find someone to marry as a matter of life or death and Paul says - he must be a Christian! Why? I think its a wisdom issue, but also, Paul asserts this as someone speaking for God! God commands single Christians to only marry Christians. The wisdom in the command is probably something you experienced when you were going out with your friend. When two people enter into a relationship, they bring their worldviews together and must agree to walk in the same direction with their lives - otherwise it just doesn’t work. A Christian lives their lives oriented towards the Lord Jesus, non-Christians hate the Lord Jesus (the Bible is pretty clear on that one, as nice as non-Christians often are). The two lives are just not compatible! Living with a non-Christian will limit your ability to serve, to give, to go to Church, to offer Christian hospitality, and you will find yourself constantly having to decide between two people you love - generally speaking one will eventually win out over the other, either you will end up hating Jesus and loving your non-Christian husband, or hating your husband and loving Jesus. Neither option is great! Being married to a non-Christian is a long, lonely, painful existence. God gives us commands for our good, he does love us!

Now I suspect you know all this, you dated your friend before and probably experienced (even if only in a small way) some of the pain that life means. You are struggling with your decision to not go out with your friend, so you must have thought about these issues before. I just wanted to point out with the above that your decision is actually a good one, it’s not just obeying some silly rule (which your friend no doubt feels). So, what strategies can you follow to avoid the horrible life of being married to a non-Christian. (I’m not in your situation, so I can’t tell you which one is best for you - you may be too close to the situation as well, you may need to ask someone you trust and who is spiritually mature, maybe a pastor or a Bible study leader, for their advice)

1. End it. You may find that your feelings are just too strong for you to trust yourself with this guy. For his sake and yours, it may be best to finish the relationship altogether. A quick, clean break heals much faster than a prolonged, messy mistake. If Jesus is truly Lord in our lives, we often have to say ‘no’ to things even when they feel very good! It would be helpful to have someone to support you through this as there will be a painful period of mourning for the loss of the relationship. They can also keep you accountable, so that you don’t “relapse” into the relationship again.

2. Change the circumstances in which you relate to your friend. You will find it much easier to not get into serious relationship questions if your relating is exclusively in group settings. People going out spend lots of time alone together are almost definitionally dating (though it’s probably not a great idea to be so alone together when you’re dating anyway - but that’s another topic for another day). If your pattern of relating looks like what dating people do (going out alone together, hanging out at home together alone etc) then it’s no surprise your friend still wants to consider you as dating. It may help to be very clear. You are no longer dating so it is not appropriate for you to be alone together any longer. Keep your times together as group times, with others. You will need to demonstrate with actions the words you are saying to him.

3. He becomes a Christian. If your friend becomes a Christian, you are free to marry him (1 Cor 7:39), so you are free to date him. However, you will of course want to be sure that he has changed for Jesus and not for you (because in that last case the change back is super easy). Just a word on him becoming a Christian. It is very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very unlikely to happen a) by him hearing about Jesus exclusively from you (there is too much confusion in your relationship for him to clearly understand Jesus); b) unless you demonstrate how important Jesus is to you by showing him that you are willing to give up on your relationship with him for the sake of following Jesus - Jesus is that important - your friend needs to deal with him too. So get other Christians involved in his life, I reckon you need a Christian bloke to meet up with him and explain from the Bible who Jesus is if he is to do any serious business with God. Guys will do just about anything for a girl they’re interested in, but you want it to be real!
I think you need to not give him false hope that if he meets up with someone, if he goes to church, if he becomes a Christian, then you will go out with him - it may just tempt him to lie to you to go out with you. Instead be clear that because he isn’t a Christian, you can’t go out with him and in your loving of him, encourage him to find out about Jesus. Keep the two seperate so neither of you kid yourselves.

In the end, as nice as he is, as attracted to him as you may be, if he cannot respect your alliegence to Jesus, he doesn’t respect you. You and Jesus are a package deal! Stick to it, find some support from trusted Christians and I reckon, think seriously about the first two strategies and pray for the third. Our God is good and kind and merciful, throw all your cares upon him.

I hope this has been helpful. I’d also like to suggest you get a copy of Nigel Pollock’s book ‘The Relationship Revolution’, you might find it helpful as well.

PS As trite as it might sound, can I recommend looking around at the Christian men around you. There are some cracking Christian guys who would be great “catches”. They are often shyer and not as cool as non-Christian guys can be, but if they love the Lord Jesus, they will try to love you the way Christ does - there’s nothing better than that! (Please see this as advice for later, once the pain has been dealt with)

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Hi! I’ve only just recently discovered that any form of oral sex or even hugging with sexual hints is sinful in the eyes of the church. The moment I realised this I felt lost, confused and very sad. I am a Christian girl - I try to God’s will and I attend mass every Sunday. I’ve been with my fiance (who is also Christian) for four years. We love each other and we speak about everything to each other. We’ve just got engaged and our dream is to get married and start a family. However at the moment it is financially impossible as he still has a year left at University and we do not come from well to do families so we cannot marry soon. We never made love because we are firm against sex before marriage. However it is very difficult not to touch each other or give physical pleasure to each other. We talked through this together and agreed that we are physically loving each other by doing so. It did not happen at the spur of the moment but we had long discussions about it. Up till now we never felt that we were sinning precisely because we feel that we are made for each other. So now that I’ve read that we are sinning it feels like everything is crashing down on me. I don’t know what to do anymore…but I still feel that there is no evil in what we are doing. Please help us.

Stefania

Hi Stefania

Thank you for being open about this. I pray that these few Bible references may be of some help for you and your fiancé.

Your attraction to your fiancé is natural and a God given good thing. God created man and woman to be united together emotionally, sexually and relationally as they serve Him. Genesis 2:20-24 makes clear that sex is a good part of God’s creation, however, it was created exclusively for marriage. This means that sex outside of marriage, whether it is pre-marital sex or adultery or otherwise is rejecting God’s design for sex and is sin. [Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5]

The Bible is silent on other matters like hugging or oral sex and whether these things are within the boundaries of ‘sexual immorality’. However, given oral sex is called oral ‘sex’, I would think it’s right to consider it as something to be shared within and confined only to the marriage relationship. It’s a good and right thing that you are abstaining from sexual intercourse until you are married, but I think the Bible points us to the conclusion that you should also abstain from oral sex too. Not only is this the loving thing to do, it is what God wants from you and your relationship until you are married.

I guess the question is what should you do now? Well I think there are a couple of things. Firstly, as Christians, when we sin, a right response to our sin is to repent of it and turn back to God. The good news is if our trust is in Jesus, God forgives our sin, because Jesus died for it. [1 John 1:8-2:2]

Secondly, in 1 Corinthians 6:18 Paul says ‘Flee sexual immorality’. So with that in mind, it would be good to put boundaries in place so you and your fiancé aren’t put in tempting situations in the future. It’s better to stay clear of those situations than to be constantly battling with temptation and risk giving into it. [see also 1 Thess 4:3-4]

Thirdly, I know your fiancé is still at university, but maybe you could consider getting married sooner rather than having an extended engagement. As Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:9 ‘it’s better to marry than burn in passion’. While it may not be easy financially, in Matthew 6:25-34 Jesus says not to worry about our money, because God will provide us with what we need. Instead we should ‘seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.’

I pray you find this is helpful as you seek to serve the Lord Jesus. I also pray that God will bless your marriage, and that in it you will bring honour to his name as you serve Him together.

Yours in Christ

Stuart

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My question is about marriage. Where can I go for help?
My husband lost his job (was retrenched) just over 4 years ago, when our son was 3 months old. He is still not working. For a time he was upset although he told everyone else that he was laughing all the way to the bank. Then he started applying for jobs but did not get any offers. Then after many months he started a degree part time by correspondence so he could get a job and still complete it. So far as I know he never applied for any jobs. He completed the degree August 2008. Since then he has been doing some things for his parents but is unemployed and not looking for work. I went back to work after my year off and our son is in full time daycare. My husband’s behaviour is typically sleeping in, staying up late, being totaly preoccupied with something other than me and our son, skipping church to do other things, “forgetting” to do things I ask him to do during the day. I am the one who usually makes dinner as well. People I talk to keep saying I should push him more, put my foot down, or even separate. I have been to so many counsellors and am depressed. I did get him to see a psychiatrist and he insisted I also go. He was not found to be depressed but I was. Sometimes if I complain I am told how hard it is on him. These are the facts and I haven’t detailed the harsh ways he speaks to me sometimes that really hurt and how he yells at our son and spanks him sometimes. I just cannot see how this is all working to my good when I feel that my husband is not playing his part as a man and husband and father. He just seems to be in his own world. I am praying for him and so is my bible study group. I need prayers for me also. He seems depressed but officially he isn’t and denies it. Yet his behaviour seems extremely strange. People are amazed that he doesn’t look after our son while I go to work. So what does he do all day? I have talke to our pastor. What accountability is there in the church if a man does not talk about it? He doesnt go to bible study anymore. He doesn’t seem to have any friends. He might chat to some other men at church but they discuss the sharemarket or computers. Once when we came home from work/daycare I started the dinner but was expecting him to have done it and when I mentioned it he acted as if I was not allowed to be upset that there was no dinner. I found out later that he was too busy to make dinner becuase he was installing a TV tuner in the computer.

Exasperating. Stressed Out and Depressed. Waiting and waiting. Lord please give me patience.

Helen

Hi Helen,

I can see why you are feeling exasperated, stressed and depressed. Your life seems physically and emotionally exhausting, and with little apparent success in finding how to move forward. To me, the first and best place to go for help is God, both in prayer and in His word. I hope and pray that the passages from the bible following might at least give you a sense of direction, but I can’t say that there are any quick or easy solutions. I wish I could.

God did create a very good world and he did give men their role of working and caring for creation and women their role of being a helper and companion to their husband (Gen 2), so it is really hard when we see our spouse not living how we understand they ought to. Remember, though, that since sin has come into the world, the relationship that God created men and women to have has been broken, along with the rest of creation (Gen 3). Your husband is broken, as we all are, but in his own particular way. Trust that God is in charge of your husband’s spiritual growth, not you. You can pray for him, and facilitate by trying to be the wife that God created you to be, but you can’t determine his choices.

The best thing a wife can do is to love her husband unconditionally. As Christian wives we are to submit to and respect our husbands (Eph 5:21-33) even if they don’t seem to deserve it, out of reverence for Christ. We can be motivated to do this by constantly remembering that Jesus loved us first, even when we didn’t deserve it (1John 4:19-21 and Rom 5:8). Prayer is a start. We can pray that our husband will grow in his love and knowledge of God and have a desire to serve Him for His honour. We can pray that while God is doing His work in our husband, He will strengthen us and uphold us to be the wife that best helps our husband. We can pray that we will demonstrate the qualities of love that are described in 1Cor 13:4-7 and try to live as described in 1Peter 3:8-18.

In Titus 2:4 Paul speaks of the older women training the younger women to love their husbands. Love is not something that just happens- it requires work and understanding. I tend to think that if we try to understand someone, where they are at and why, it makes it easier to love them. From what you’ve said about your husband, a few things come to mind. The first is that I suspect, as you do, that he does have depression, but the cause will make it unlikely that he will ever admit to it. Your husband lost his job over 4 years ago, and with a new baby. Men are naturally wired to be the provider protectors of their families and when this ability is taken away from them, in this case by retrenchment, a major upheaval in their sense of self-worth and even their masculinity is caused, despite their show of bravado. This will be felt even more strongly in the situation where there is a new baby and more again the longer they are without work. Admitting to depression will just be an extra to their sense of failure.

To add to the distress, a new baby will often mean that the wife is now understandably so exhausted and ‘touched out’ that she won’t have the energy to meet her husband’s needs or desire his attentions. This is also a stage where many men are left feeling redundant and confused about how they can be involved.

I suspect these experiences may have contributed to where your husband is at now. The situation seems to have spiraled down to depression, which will be a hindrance to his motivation in the search for employment, in his desire to relate to you and your son in a way that is supportive and in his relationship with God. As obnoxious as the expression of his lack of emotional well-being may be, considering him with compassion might lessen your resentment. 

While I don’t know where your husband is in his relationship with God, I think that 1Peter 3:1-4 still teaches us how we can love our husbands in times of difficulty. We are to win our husbands over without words, but with the purity and reverence of our lives. I would suggest that pushing him more, putting the foot down or separating are not the most loving solutions. It seems to me that the best thing you can do for your husband is to try and quietly prioritise the work that needs to be done and try to get through it, trying not to get stressed by what fails to get done and not mentioning these to your husband. It will probably feel in some ways like being a single mum, but with the knowledge that it is Christ you are serving, and with the hope that your relationship with your husband will grow in time. This doesn’t mean that you don’t ever ask for your husband’s help, but the way you ask and your response when he fails to help would be guided by the bigger picture of trying to win him back into a closer relationship with God (and thereby also with you).

If possible, learn what his ‘love language’ is (‘The Five Love Languages’ is an excellent book by Gary Chapman). What tells him the loudest that you love him? Could it be spending time with him, verbal affirmation, acts of service, physical affection or gifts? Each of these are important, but each of us has a different priority in these, and it would be really helpful to work out what ‘speaks’ loudest to your husband and find opportunities to show him love. It might also be really helpful to find opportunities to compliment and thank your husband, or encourage him with a kind word, especially in things that could be considered of a masculine nature (for example, when your son is happy from wrestling with his dad, or perhaps even, as exasperating as it might be, when he gets up to the electrical wizardry). The idea is to give your husband a reason to feel his strength in positive ways, and to let him know that you love and support him.

But what about you? Who will love and support you as you love and support your husband? How is this God working for the good of you who love Him (Rom 8:28) as you give and give for your husband and your son but seem to get nothing in return?

As Christians we are all broken, sinful people serving a holy, compassionate, merciful, forgiving and loving God who is working to restore us and His creation over time- mostly by the death and resurrection of His Son, but also by His Holy Spirit, who works in and by us, and in and by the people around us. Suffering is a part of this, drawing us closer to God as we learn to depend more on Him, and making us more like Jesus. 1Peter 5:6-7 says “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” It’s great that you and your bible study group are praying about this situation. It would be great if their prayers support you in your attempts to be a godly wife and are for your husband’s relationships with God, you and your son. Also, if you know you’re in for a busy time (for example with a sick child), you might be able to ask your Christian sisters for practical help, perhaps with a meal, or a couple of hours help with house cleaning when your husband is out. 

I realise you’ve seen many counselors, so I don’t know if recommending another attempt at counseling is helpful, but the basic care of yourself is necessary, which would include trying to manage your own depression somehow. Depression is exhausting, and it’s hard to have the physical and emotional energy to serve others when we can hardly do the basics for ourselves. Perhaps you could also work out other solutions to meet your basic needs?- ensuring time to pray and read the bible, enough sleep, good eating habits and exercise, all of which contribute to mental health.

Trust that God will provide all your needs (Phil 4:19), but not necessarily wants, and that it’s God who provides these needs in various ways (and primarily in Christ), not your husband.

The Christian life will involve falling down (because we are broken), picking ourselves up (because we know we are forgiven as we repent), and constantly trying to persevere (because we know it’s God’s kingdom we’re looking forward to and God we’re working for). God does love you, and your husband, and is listening to your prayers, working out His good purposes in His perfect time according to His perfect wisdom. I think you will need to keep waiting and praying for patience and perseverance. I hope and pray that with your growing love for your husband, God will work in him, and that he may in time come round and start to live more for Jesus.

Leigh

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Hey, I’m not sure if this is the right website to ask this question. I’ve recently become a Christian, however, there are alot of things that don’t make sense to me. I’m a math science person, so a person who likes things to be proven or be able to back things up with evidence. Well my question is if the world was created in 7 days, how come we can see galaxies that are millions of lightyears away? Since a light year is how far light travels in one year, that would mean that it would take millions of years for the light from those distant galaxies to reach the earth… but I thought the universe wasn’t millions of years old! Are you able to shed some light on this?

Daniel

Hey Daniel,

I can relate really well to the questions you are asking. I was in the same position a few years back, trying to figure out how it all works together. (Incidentally, now I have a PhD in science, and a bachelor degree in theology, and I still can’t answer all of the questions!) I don’t think that there is a simple answer that I’m going to be able to give you. Instead, let me encourage you in two ways as you think this through:

(1) The Bible has to be read with genre and context in mind. So, for example, when it says “The sun rises, and the sun goes down, and hastens to the place where it rises. The wind blows to the south and goes around to the north; around and around goes the wind, and on its circuits the wind returns.” (Ecclesiastes 1:5-6), its not making a claim about the sun’s speed through the sky in the day vs the night, and its not talking about meteorology. We need to read Genesis 1 very carefully to decide exactly what it is, and what it is not claiming about the physical history of the world. A lot of supposed “contradictions” between science and Christianity can be cleared up just by realising that the Bible is more nuanced in its use of language and interesting than we previously realised. While I do personally believe that the days in Genesis 1 are 24 hour periods, a lot of well thought out Christians maintain that they are longer periods of time and I think their position is theologically defensible (cf. 2 Peter 3:8).

But also…

(2) Science is not an infallible enterprise. It’s done by people who are sinful just like everyone else. Especially when it comes to talking about the pre-history of the world, science can’t test it and it can’t directly observe it. All it can do is extrapolate data backwards, but this kind of process is fraught with difficulties at the presuppositional level. To establish the age of the earth from a geological point of view, for example, I have to suppose (without any direct evidence) that geology has always happened the same way as I observe it today. Yet the Bible explicitly claims this is not the case (2 Pet 3:5-6). Science, by its very nature, can’t deal with Noah’s flood if it really was a world-covering flood, since science can’t observe or repeat it. Therefore, a lot of scientists say this is an “unscientific hypothesis”, which is true in the sense that science can’t deal with unique events. But that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen that way. A lot of the supposed tension between science and Christianity can be cleared up if we refuse to admit that science represents “objective truth” and treat it with the healthy degree of skepticism it deserves as the enterprise of fallible and sinful people. I’m not saying we can’t trust it at all. All I’m saying is we can trust it like we can trust history. It’s always open to revision if further facts come to light.

I think between these two caveats there is enough room for most Christians to reconcile the two. Exactly what you want to do with starlight and time is up to you. I’m personally taking a “wait and see” attitude to this question. I’m not prepared to admit that science has had its final say on this yet—the postulation of dark matter for one thing makes me think there is science left to discover yet. It may be that 100 years down the track another Einstein comes along and figures out something we don’t already know and the problem goes away. It might be that God created the light in transit so that we could see the stars that were that far away. It might be that the days in Genesis 1 are periods of time and not literal days.

Whatever you decide in the end, you need to avoid the two extremes above. The Bible actually encourages us to do science and to investigate the world on its own terms. We were made as rational creatures in the image of a rational creator God. Our world works in an ordered, scientifically understandable way because God made it that way. We shouldn’t use the Bible naively to try and say that science is useless, and we should be very careful before we use the Bible to say that science is wrong. On the other hand, neither should we take for granted everything science says, just because they tell us its right. In the end, a careful reading of God’s word should always trump a scientific theory, because science is done by sinful and fallible people. Even the history of science shows us that the best theories of today will be unenlightened relics in the eyes of tomorrow’s scientists. The word of God, however, endures forever. (Ps 119:89)

Hope that’s helpful.

Nathan

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Hello I’m currently looking for a faith.

I’m raised athiest although I have been to Christian Primary and secondary schools, I’ve also studied religious education for a few years so I have a firm idea of Christian values. I do believe that God created the world, that Jesus walked this earth, and died on the cross for our sins. I also do feel a spiritual connection to most of the values/morals presented in the bible, however there are a issues in the bible where I have some conflicting views.

First of all, in the story of Adam and Eve, where they eat the fruit from the garden of Eden and are damned for eternity. I understand that, but I do not believe that it should damn the rest of man kind. To me, it shows how the nature of man kind could be rebellious, but it seems unjust or unfair to place blame on the rest of man kind also. It is like sending a son along to prison along with his father, when the father has commited a murder while the son is completely innocent of charge. Could you please explain the concepts of original sin?

Secondly, I don’t understand why the church is so eager to convert people to Christianity. I know that Chritians believe that people who have not been baptised (cleaned of original sin), and become Christians will go to hell, but this too seems illogical. If for example there were two men (lets call them man A and man B). Lets say that Man A was pagan, but basically a good man. He followed the ten commandments, was generous giving and sincere. Man B on the otherhand is technically Christian, but doesn’t truly believe it in his heart. He didn’t follow the teachings of the bible (be generous, give to the poor, etc.) but didn’t go against the rules of the bible. Who would go to heaven? I personally think that in order to be good, you should live according to the principles of the bible. So if Christians wanted to help the rest of man kind be delivered from hell after death then shouldn’t they be focused on encouraging good acts and morals rather than nessesarily converting people from different faiths?

I’ve been doing a bit of personal soul searching and I haven’t quite found the answers, but I’m hopeful that you can help me. I’m sorry that my questions are so long winded, but its difficult to explain what I’m thinking. Thank you so much for taking time to read my questions. Thanks in advance.

Tiffany

Hello and thank you for your very insightful questions. I am going to deal with your second question now, which hopefully will help explain the first.

You are correct in saying that to be a good person means following the principles of the Bible. In fact, your question was in a way asked by someone in the Bible, too. If you have time, read Mark 10:17-31 first before you continue reading this.

If you’ve just read the passage I referred to, you might be just as astonished as the disciples regarding Jesus’ answer! The rich young man was a good person. He had followed all the commandments. And yet, Jesus says he’s not saved! Why? Well, Jesus gave part of the answer earlier on, “no one is good—except God alone.” (Mark 10:18) Jesus continued to tell him that in order to be saved, the rich young man has to let go of what he holds dear to, and follow Jesus.

What Jesus is saying is that, yes, if we follow everything that God tells us to do—i.e. “to love God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” and to “love your neighbour as yourself” (Mark 12:30-31) —we will be saved. But Jesus knows—and if we are honest to ourselves, we will also know—that none of us are able to do this perfectly. It’s not enough to just try our best, or do it partially. If we don’t fulfill the commandments perfectly, we can’t be saved and are condemned as sinful.

In fact, the Bible tells us that no person on earth are able to fulfill God’s commandments perfectly, and so all are sinful.

Romans 3:10 “There is no one righteous, not even one ... there is no one who seeks God, all have turned away.”
Romans 3:20 “Therefore no one will be declared righteous in his sight by observing the law.”

It is because all of us are sinful, that God in his mercy has given us a new way to get saved—through believing in Jesus.

Romans 3:21-24 “But now a rightouesness from God, apart from law, has been made known…. this righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”

This is great news! Because by believing in Jesus, God freely forgives us our sins! Even if we’ve sinned a little bit (which to a perfect God, is still intolerably sinful) or if we’ve sinned a lot, if we believe that Jesus Christ died for our sins, and are willing to become followers of Jesus, we’re forgiven!

So going back to your scenario, well, unfortunately both man A and B would not be saved, unless one of them believes in Jesus and is willing to follow him as master of his life. To call Jesus as your master, you will actually try your best to follow the commandments, but you won’t ever be able to do it perfectly. And it doesn’t matter how well you do it—you’re not saved because of your “level of goodness”; rather you are saved because of your belief and trust in Jesus.

And Christians want to tell others about this forgiveness available in faith in Jesus, because we know that there is no other way to be saved, and we don’t want people to keep on trying to be good when that is not the way to eternal life. We tell people about Jesus because we love them and don’t want them to go to hell. There is no point encouraging people to just “be good” when that is a dead end for salvation!

As for your first question, there has already been a previous answer to the question of original sin in this site so because of space I won’t repeat it here. You can go to http://www.christianity.net.au/questions/from_christianitynetau_moblog911 to read it. If you still have further questions though, please feel free to ask again!

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Hi, I have always believed that Jesus is the son of God and he died on the cross for our sins.  Just recently I have spoken to religious elders of the Islam faith and they tell me that the Quran bible states that he was a messenger and that Jesus was not crucified at all.  They also said that the prophets who wrote the Quran had written their account of Jesus during the time it took place and that our Christian bible was written some 70 years later and their account of the life and death of Jesus was not accurate.  That has sent me into a spin.  Who is right?  Believing Jesus died on the cross is a crucial part of Christian faith and to think this may not be the case is very unsettling.  Are you please able to shed some light on this.  I have only been a reborn Christian for the last 3 and a half years and I feel this is way over my head.

Brigette

Hi Brigette,

It’s great that you are asking questions. We should never be afraid to search for the truth. 1 John 4:1 says “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.”

The central figure in Islam is Muhammad, born around 570AD in Mecca. He was into spending a lot of time in caves for seclusion and meditation, often fasting and prone to dreams. Around that time and in that area there were potential influences on Muhammad from Judaism, Monophysite Christianity, Nestorian Christianity (both of which had unbiblical views about the divine and human nature of Jesus) and hermits from the Byzantine Church (which was of Roman Catholic persuasion).

The Islamic religion is based on a series of ‘recitations’ that this one man, Muhammad, was said to have received from an angel sent from God over the years 610-632AD. At first he wasn’t sure whether these were divine or demonic, but his wife encouraged him to believe they were from God. These recitations were written by scribes on pieces of cloth, leather, bone, stone etc. and some were kept by oral tradition, at the time they happened. So any account of Jesus is from a recitation written or remembered at the time the ‘revelation’ happened, not, of course, at the time of Jesus. After Muhammad’s death in 632AD, these recitations were gathered together over the period between 633AD and about 650AD and compiled into one book, the Qur’an. There seems to be no particular order in the compilation- it’s not chronological nor is it by subject matter. The Qur’an is held by Muslims to be the final and only uncorrupted word from God available. The lens through which the Qur’an is read by most Muslims is the hadiths, which is a collection of deeds and sayings of Muhammad, handed down by oral tradition and written some 200 years after his death.

Muslims believe that Allah is the creator of the universe and that he is the God of Abraham (i.e. the same as Yahweh, the God of Jews and Christians). Muslims do consider the Tawrat (by Moses, which is the Torah or the whole Old Testament depending on the particular Islamic understanding), the Zabur (which is the book of Psalms but includes Ruth), and the Injil (the lost gospel given to Jesus, or the current gospels or the whole New Testament depending again on the particular Islamic understanding) to be holy books, but all are considered to have been corrupted. Muslims believe that the Qur’an confirms and corrects these corrupted biblical narrations.

While Jesus is held to be a prophet from God, the Qur’an says that he wasn’t crucified and didn’t die-

Qur’an 4:157-8 says-
157. And their saying: Surely we have killed the Messiah, Isa (Jesus) son of Marium (Mary), the apostle of Allah (God); and they did not kill him nor did they crucify him, but it appeared to them so (like Isa) and most surely those who differ therein are only in a doubt about it; they have no knowledge respecting it, but only follow a conjecture, and they killed him not for sure.
158. Nay! Allah (God) took him up to Himself; and Allah (God) is Mighty, Wise.

There is no evidence to support this ‘revelation’ except to the Muslim who believes that the Qur’an is the word of God. All reliable historical research, both Christian and secular, support the death of Jesus, and by crucifixion, with the gospels regarded highly as an historical source for both Christian and secular historians.

It is true that the gospels were written some years after the events. The earliest is Mark written sometime between 65-75AD. The lateness of these dates need not be a concern when it’s understood that in these times there was an oral tradition (where people tended to learn by, and trust more, what they heard than what they read, as with some of the Qur’an). Remember too that Jesus died around 31-33AD and so ‘late’ is not really that late. There were false stories being spread around even at the beginning (see Matt 28:11-15), but these gospels were written from eye witnesses and their accounts, and when there were still eye witnesses around who could have easily refuted them if they were false (Matthew 27:54-56, Mark 15:39-41, Luke 1:2, Luke 23:47-49, John 19:25-27, John 20:24-28, Acts 10:34-43, 1Cor 15:3-8, 2Peter 1:16-2:3, ). In addition, Jesus trusted the authority of the Old Testament, and so by his authority his followers trust it too (see Matt 5:17-18).

There is also extensive non-biblical and non-Christian evidence written by Jewish and non-Jewish people at the time that point to the existence, influence and (in particular) death of Jesus by crucifixion. I don’t have enough space here to go into this but you could have a look at The Christ Files for further information about this evidence and the historical accuracy of the biblical evidence.

There is also a unity and cohesiveness in the Old and New Testaments where all prophecies by many prophets over centuries point to Christ. The big picture is a sovereign and personal God drawing a people to himself, saved from the punishment they deserve for their sins by his taking this punishment on himself in Christ, and destined to live under his gracious rule in his perfect kingdom. All other religions require their followers to work their way to heaven. In Christ Jesus, all the saving work is done by God.

Jesus’ authority can be understood in the miracles he performed (John 14:11) and by his death, resurrection and ascension as reported by eye-witnesses and of which Jesus also prophesied (Mark 10:33-34). There is no miracle credited to Muhammad except the Qur’an which, it can be argued, is not a miracle.

Broadly speaking, we are left with two options:

1) Do we trust that the ‘prophecies’ of one man about Jesus are reliable when he was influenced by fringe expressions of Christianity and Judaism, some distance away from the events and some 600 years later, and despite contradicting other historical evidence?

2) Do we trust in the prophecies of several people over many centuries and the historically reliable eye-witness accounts of several others who all point to Jesus as the Christ and saviour of the world, as backed up by his teaching, miracles and resurrection from the dead?

There are a couple of books which I really recommend. The first is “Islam In Our Backyard” by Tony Payne, which looks both into Islam and truth. The second is “The Christ Files” by John Dickson (as I mentioned above), which looks into how historians know what they know about Jesus. Both books are relatively short and quite readable.

I hope and pray this helps and that your trust in the work of Jesus on your behalf will be strengthened.

Leigh

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My coworker said that she believes in god but not the bible. I couldn’t find the reason(s) to tell that she need to believe in the bible too. could you help?

Brie

This is a great question to be asked! Without knowing exactly what your co-worker is thinking, I can’t give a specific answer, but let me suggest that there are two things you could do.

Firstly, you could try asking your co-worker what they believe about God and how they know about God. If they believe in God but not the Bible, then you want to get an idea of what their ideas about God are and where they are getting those ideas from. They may, for example, have many ideas about God that do come from the Bible, but feel no need to read or know the Bible itself.

Secondly, you will want to explain what the Bible is and why it is important. A great place to start thinking about this is Heb 1:1-2, “In the past God spoke to our forefathers through the prophets at many times and in various ways, but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son”. The Bible is God speaking to us and revealing himself and how he may be known, most of all in the person of Jesus (2 Tim 3:16-17 is another great passage to look at). The importance of the Bible then, is that without the Bible we do not in fact know God. Jesus speaks about himself in this way, in John 14:6, when he says “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” It is only through Jesus that we know God, and only in the Bible that we meet with Jesus.

If the issue your co-worker is dealing with is the reliability of the Bible, then perhaps this other article will help:
How do you know the bible is real and true?

 

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I had a bit of a read through your site and can’t seem to find an answer anywhere to what I think you may find, a bit of a confronting question, so please understand that I mean no offence, but would just like to get your take on something.
Now it’s probably only fair to declare my hand up front as a non-believer, (not really an aetheist as I’m open to the idea of a god, but a non-believer at this point anyway).
So the question is: Even if god does exist (yes I get that you believe he does), how nice a god is he really? I know that the opinion popular amongst believers is quite good, but, they never really seem to address any of the negatives. Things like, isn’t he indirectly saying that if I don’t love him that he’s pretty much going to cast me out for eternity? Seems a bit harsh, you know for a guy with a generous nature that does a few nice things here and there above what plenty of others do. Doesn’t seem too nice to me?

Dave

Hi Dave, and thanks for your honest and perceptive question.

I’m not sure where to start because I’m not sure what your assumptions are. But I’ll start where the Bible starts.

God is the loving Creator of the universe. He made everything for us to enjoy, and he made humanity in his image as the pinnacle of his creation (Genesis 1:26-27). So from the beginning, there were two witnesses to what God is like 1) the good world that he made and, 2) humanity created in the image of God. Genesis also says that God’s Spirit is what gives humanity life and existence, ‘he breathed into his nostrils the breath of life’ (Gen 2:7). He planted them in a plentiful garden, with all good things to enjoy. So from the beginning, humanity was dependent on God for everything. In fact humanity, by definition, is less than human without God, since they are the image and likeness of God. But when humanity rejected God, they were ejected from the garden and cut off from the tree of life. This is metaphorical for being cut off from relationship with God, who is the source of all life. This also means that the image of God in us was wrecked by rejecting him.

So God is not just being mean when he tells humanity that without him they will die. Since he’s the source of life, without him there’s only death. However there is still a personal side to it. God made us for personal relationship with him. And he deserves this because he made us. When we make something we normally make it for a purpose, e.g. a paper aeroplane to fly. And we have the right to do with it what we want. If it fails its purpose, we either fix or get rid of it. Since we were made for relationship with God and we have failed that purpose, we aren’t living up to what we were created for. But since God and humanity are persons, God is personally offended when we reject relationship with him.

When God made humanity, he also gave them responsibility and authority to look after the world he had made. Since we rejected him, God not only ejected us from the garden of Eden, but cursed the earth so that it would produce ‘thorns and thistles’, and our work would now be toilsome and painful. The whole created order was stuffed because of our rebellion against God. In addition, human nature was distorted so that we hurt each other and work all other kinds of evil. As you can see, the two things that originally showed us what God is like are no longer reliable indicators of what God is like. We cannot look at humanity because the image of God in us is damaged, and we cannot look at the world because it has been stuffed up by our sin. When we look at humanity and the world, we get ambiguous signals. There is still some good in humanity and creation, so that we can call human birth a miracle and it causes so much joy. But we also see the dark side of humanity and it makes you wonder whether there is a God. You can also look at creation and sing, ‘what a wonderful world’, but on other days you see natural disasters, suffering etc and think ‘if God made this world, how can he be a good God?’. But this is not how God created the world. The world and humanity are no longer reliable indicators of what God is like.

Therefore God’s judgement is actually part of his love. Since he loves the world, he doesn’t like it when we hurt each other and mistreat the world. One day he will bring the whole world to account and bring an end to suffering. We all want to see really “bad” people get justice, but we fail to see that all of us are guilty before God, because we all naturally reject or ignore our relationship with God. We tend to judge whether a person is good or bad depending on how they treat other people. But the more important question is ‘how do we treat God?’ The most important thing is ‘to love the Lord your God with all your heart, mind and soul’. By this definition, all of us are bad people. The secondary, but important things is to ‘love your neighbour as yourself’. And even though we do some nice things, we certainly don’t love others as much as ourselves. God’s judgement is part of his love for his creation, since he won’t let suffering and injustice continue forever.

Still, God did not destroy humanity completely at the beginning. He mercifully delayed his judgement in order to develop his plan to reconcile humanity back to himself. Even though we deserve death and judgement, God did not give up on us. From that time on, he has been working his plan to reconcile humanity and give them the eternal life with him, which they rejected in the garden.

He began rescuing people by saving Israel out of Egypt as a picture of what he was going to do in the future. After many other events revealing his character through the history of Israel, he finally sent his Son Jesus Christ to be the Saviour of the world. He is the full and final revelation of what God is like. By looking at Jesus, you can tell exactly what God is like. The Bible says that ‘Long ago, at many times and in many ways, God spoke to our fathers by the prophets,but in these last days he has spoken to us by his Son, whom he appointed the heir of all things, through whom also he created the world.He is the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature, and he upholds the universe by the word of his power. (Hebrews 1:1-3). Jesus is the completely trustworthy to know what God is like.

Jesus showed God’s character and purposes by healing the sick, raising the dead, having dominion over the created world (walking on water, stilling the storm etc.) and teaching people about God. By this he shows that he is putting the universe back together again - reversing the curse of Adam and reconciling people to God. As the culmination of his work he died for the sake of the whole world. Since humanity was under the punishment of death for rejecting God, the source of all life, Jesus exchanges his life for ours. Jesus dies in our place so that we will not have to pay the price for our rebellion against God. This is incredible! God loves us so much that he chose to become human and die in our place. Not only that, after three days he rose from the dead as the Lord of the universe. So he has defeated death and offers eternal life as a free gift to all who put their trust in his death and resurrection. We can do nothing to earn our way back to him, but Jesus has done everything to save us.

By looking at Jesus, we can see the very heart of God. In Jesus, God shows his complete, unconditional love for people, and his passionate commitment to reconcile them to relationship with him. We must always make our judgement of what God is like by looking at Jesus. But if we reject Jesus, we are rejecting our only hope of salvation and eternal life. We are rejecting God’s rescue plan. You could look at this and say, ‘God is mean for giving me death if I don’t accept him’, but this would be like saying, ‘the lifeguard is mean for saying that I will die if I reject his attempts to save me from drowning’. The Bible clearly says that God loves us and desires all people to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth (1 Timothy 2:4). But if we reject his rescue plan (Jesus), then it is not God who is being mean but us who have made our choice to remain estranged from him. I sincerely hope and pray that God would convince you that these things are true and that you would take up his offer of forgiveness and eternal life with him. Read the gospels or letters in the NT to see if what I’m saying is true.

I hope I’ve answered your question properly. I may have missed some things or not explained them properly so please contact me if you want me to clarify anything or ask any further questions.

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My boyfriend and I are both Christians and got saved on the same day last year.  We have been together for almost 2 years.  We are fully committed to each other and are just waiting to finish school to get married.  Before we were saved we were sexually active together but have since been working very hard at stopping this because we know it is not pleasing to God and will make that gift He reserves for marriage less special once we are married.  We have been pure in that sense for about 4 months now, but we constantly struggle with fooling around.  We have friends keeping us each accountable and we truly desire to have a God-honoring relationship.
However, I am starting to become concerned that ignoring my sexual urges and emotions until we are married (approx. 2 years) will extinguish those emotions in me and I will be so used to ignoring them that once we are married that sexual desire will no longer be there.  Is this a legitimate concern?  Even though we are fully committed to each other, is it still wrong to partake in ANY sort of sexual acts, such as fooling around?  How would you suggest we deal with our situation?  Thank you for your time and advice!

Kim

Let me start by saying how encouraging it is to hear that you have given your lives to the Lord and are taking his life-giving word seriously.  What you are doing in refraining from sex is very difficult; God knows this and he is pleased with you. Such obedience in the face of hard temptation build the sort of faith and character that God wants in his people. And long after you ahev both been married, such testing and growth will put you in a good position to weather the other tsts and temptations that will come your way.

Regarding your concern that you will extinguish your sexual emotions – the first thing to say is that we can trust God’s good design for our lives. He has said that sex is to be reserved for marriage, so you can be confident that you will not harm yourselves by keeping that command. Why not look on this next two years as an opportunity to work hard on communication, and enjoying one another’s company in completely non-sexual ways?  Once you are married, you will find that the time you have invested into your non-sexual relationship will really pay off, because there will DEFINITELY be times in marriage when your sexual desire will wax and wane. Husbands need to learn how to show non-sexual affection, because over the course of a marriage that might go for 60 years or more, there will be more to your relationship than sex. So my advice is to take a long term view.  The two years will seem like a very long time while you are going through it, but then you’ll blink and you’ll have been married for ten years, like me.

As far as “fooling around” is concerned, it will not actually help you to keep the smouldering passion going.  It will only make you (and probably more so your boyfriend) frustrated, because when a guy gets excited he just wants to go all the way. So you should set clear boundaries on what you do – for example, no clothes off, no closed doors, spend most of your time in public places, and basically keep the physical stuff to holding hands and kissing on the cheek. I know it sounds difficult, but just remember – 60 years!!

The final thing to recognise is that while you may have the desire to remain pure, you still have a sinful nature that is at war within you and you will fail. Don’t let this get you down, simply seek God’s (and your boyfried’s forgiveness) and keep trying. Nor see it as an excuse to sin but rather as a reality of this world that makes you look forward to the perfection of the next.

I have prayed for you, and look forward to hearing (somehow!) that you are happily married.

God bless.

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Does God choose me or do I choose God? I have a few questions which are a bit of a conundrum. :-)
If God chooses me then why do I need to do anything because won’t his will be done anyway ?
If I think I have chosen God but God hasn’t chosen me then I surely I can\‘t change God’s will ?
Could you please explain to me how the general predestination thing about Christianity works ? :-)

John

Excellent question, John!

Does God choose me or do I choose God? The short answer is: yes!

The question you’re asking basically asks two things:
(1) Is God in control of everything? In other words is God ‘sovereign’.
(2) Are we humans responsible for our actions - in particular, for the way we respond to God?

At first glance, it looks as though these two things don’t go together. But the Bible repeatedly holds them side-by-side without implying that affirming one means denying the other.

For example:

In Exodus, we read of Pharaoh, who treated God’s people Israel very badly. Not only was he an oppressive slave master, he also went back on his word when he said he’d let the Israelites go. But who is responsible for his actions? Is Pharaoh responsible? Or is God in control? The answer is: both! Sometimes we read that Pharaoh hardened his heart (8:15; 8:32; 9:12 ), sometimes that the Lord hardened Pharaoh’s heart (4:21; 7:3; 10:1; 10:20; 10:20) and sometimes simply ‘Pharaoh’s heart was hardened’’(7:13; 8:19; 9:7; 9:35 ). So was God sovereign over what Pharaoh did? Yes. Was Pharaoh responsible for what he was doing - that is was he doing what he wanted to do? Yes - he was responsible for his actions.
In Genesis 50:20, when Joseph is reunited with his brothers who tried to kill him, Joseph says ‘You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives.’ So again, we see God in control, even when people are trying to do harm. But again, the brothers were not being “robitically” controlled and acting against their will. They really did want to do Joseph harm, and so are still responsible for their actions.

Of course, the biggest place where we see God’s sovereignty and human responsibility together is at the cross. Jesus was crucified because of the evil intent of wicked men. This is a bad thing! But even in their wickedness, these men can’t escape God’s will (Acts 2:23).

Let’s think about this in relation to predestination. How do you know if God has chosen you? Well, you’ll see it in the way you respond! The scenario you suggested – what if I’ve chosen God but God hasn’t chosen me – doesn’t make sense. If you have chosen God, it is because He has already chosen you.

Don’t forget, predestination in the Bible is ALWAYS a positive thing. It is always there to comfort us (e.g. Romans 8:29-30; Ephesians 1:4-14). If you have chosen God, then take heart, because it means God has predestined you to be one of His heirs. Predestination means we can have greater assurance… because if God is for us and has already decided we will be His, then nothing any person can do can take that away. Predestination is not something that should make us more worried about where we stand with God. It should make us realise that since God is responsible for making people Christians, we should be less worried, because the source of our trust is not ourselves, but God Himself.

Please feel free to ask any more questions if that still hasn’t helped… It’s a mind-blowing concept, I know!!

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I am a high school teacher, a student asked me if it is stated anywhere in the bible that they shouldnt self harm. I thought it mentioned somewhere about the body being the temple of Christ and therefore we shouldnt desicrate the body, and she said but you peirce your ears etc. Is there any info that i can give this student??

rachel

Hi,

Your student’s question makes the assumtion about Christianity and the bible that they are simply a list things that God approves/disapproves of for an individual - a set of rules by which to live. This “legalistic” approach to the bible (what is right and what is wrong) is the opposite of heart of Christianity. In Christ we are free from laws and rules concerning what we can and can not do (Gal 5:1). Rather we are participants in a relationship with God that is based on love and trust. Such a relationship is not governed by rules but by an other person centredness. We are freed from lawkeeping in order to love God and live to please him.

What needs to be considered is how we use the freedom we have been given in Christ. Paul makes it clear we are not to use our freedom to satisfy our sinful desires (Gal 5:13). Instead we must glorify God in and with our bodies (Rom 6:12-14). For what we do is a reflection of our attitude towards God, others and ourselves (James 2:18). For example: piercing our ears can be good if we think we enhance the image and the beauty of the body God has given us. Inversely piercing our ears can be bad if we think we are ugly and placing things in our body will improve it. Same action, but the attitude behind it determines whether it is good or bad. What’s important is the attitude behind the act, and not the act itself.

Now coming to self-harm, it can never be pleasing to God because the attitude behind it does not glorify him. All people are created in the image of God (Gen 1:27). All people are valuable to God because they are meant to reflect God’s image. Self-harm devalues that image. It ultimately says - through our attitude - that God is of little value to us or that we are of little value to God. This couldn;t be any further from the truth!

Christ died in our place to save us from eternal death (Jn 3:16). God’s great love and value of people is that while we were still sinners, Jesus who is God, died for us (Rom 5:8-9). People are valuable because Jesus died in their place. Self-harm is always wrong as it denies the value God places on us.

I hope this answers you question for you and gives you something to say to your student.

cheers

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I’ve recently become a totally faithful Christian. I want to tell my friends and family about how great God is. I even want to tell strangers. But a lot of them just don’t believe me. How can I convince them that God is the one?

Anna

It’s great to hear that you’ve recently become a Christian, I join with the angels in heaven in partying!

Telling people about Jesus is a big topic. I only have a few lines so I’ll give you some basic pointers.

When you first become a Christian, you want everyone you know the great news that you’ve just embraced and their unbelief must seem quite crazy. Don’t they know what they’re missing? But the thing is, no they don’t. And until recently, neither did you! So firstly, remember where you’ve come from. I’m guessing it took a while before you became a Christian - it usually does. So don’t lose heart, these things take their time.

The next thing is, I’m guessing that no one “convinced” you to be a Christian. Sure there may have been some discussions with people that helped to show where you needed to think some more, or showed where you believed things that were wrong, but it is extremely rare for someone to be convinced that they need Jesus and to become a Christian in one sitting (though it does happen). You may like to share how God has worked in your life and why you follow Jesus and offer opportunities for them to find out more (would they like to meet up with you to read one of the gospels?). Again, this can take time.

You see becoming a Christian is a process where by a person sees and hears about God and what he has done for them. They need to reflect upon that, ask questions, look at the evidence. This takes time and most likely involve a number of Christians. For some of those Christians, their involvment may be as little as a friendly word at church that showed the non-christian that christians are normal people. Or it maybe that the Christian has had a profound impact over many years and many conversations on the non christian. The point is - it is a process and we may not know what part we will play in each individual.

So this means you need to be ready to do and say the right thing at any time. You may only do a little thing or you may have a big part to play. But be prepared (Col 4:2-6)

Finally (and certainly not the least), you need to realise one important fact about convincing people about God. You can’t do it!

Becoming a Christian is about entering into a right relationship with God. You can’t convince people to enter into that relationship. That is God’s responsibility. You role is to keep pointing people to God, it is God’s role to call them to himself. If God is not calling them, then nothing you do will convince them otherwise (that doesn;t mean you don’t do it, rather it means you spend a lot of time in prayer for them). God needs to actually work in the life of the people for them to become Christians. He did it in you and everyone else who becomes a Christian, and he uses people like you to foster the relationship on his behalf. The best way to “convince” people is to introduce them to Jesus (in the Bible) and let God do the convincing.

So pray for the people around you who aren’t Christians, live the godly life God called you to live before them, make the most ofthe opportunities that come your way and trust that God will use you to bring others into his kingdom.

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If god sees all christains as though they have never sinned, why do we christains try not to sin, if god’s going to see the christains who have tryed to stop sinning and the christains who havent as though they are both sinless

Nick

Your Question got cut off but I want to address that part I have under two headings, looking at the nature of Christian purity and rewards and the present struggle with sin.

Christian Purity and Rewards

The Bible describes believers in Christ as purified or cleaned in Christ (1 Jo 3:3, Heb 9:13). When we describe believers as seen by God ‘as though they have never sinned’ we are talking about this cleansing. It is that the believers conscience is now clear as their sins are forgiven. Christians may be forgiven but will inevitably continue to sin and may never be comfortable with sin. One question is whether Christians, though they are seen as pure by God, will be rewarded for overcoming sin.
At the final Judgement in Rev 20:12-15, we see that men and women’s lives are judged according to ‘the books’ but only those with their names in the ‘book of life’ are permitted into the new heaven and new earth. Rev 21:17 also indicates that it is those whose names are in this book who are the pure. The Christians are still judged according to the books, yet are not thrown into the lake of fire. I think that this is an indication that the Christians will still be judged for their lives but will not be condemned. There are also other indications that Christians will be rewarded at the final judgment based on their lives (Mat 5:12; 6:1-7,18; 16:27; Eph 6:8; Col 3:24), although the nature of this reward is not clear. The ultimate reward is to find that your name is in the book of Christ and recieve an inhertiance with Christ. My inclination is that there is something more as well. 1 Cor 3:14 indicates that some may be rewarded and others not, my inclination is that here there may be the relational reward of seeing others saved, rather than some sort of status.

God will judge the lives of Christians but they will be seen to be saved in Christ. The Bible speaks about rewards in the Kingdom of Heaven for those who do good now and I take it that these verses may be referring to more than mere salvation. The nature of these rewards is not spelled out, but my opinion is that they are related to seeing others there with you in heaven. One reason to struggle with sin is that the character of your life may lead others to Christ and see them saved on the last day.

Struggling with Sin

One underlying issue here is that of Christian Assurance. If you are certain that you are saved why worry about struggling with sin? Why not just give in to sin and let God take care of the forgiveness? Romans 6 addresses this issue, to continue in sin is to deny the freedom we have in Christ. Christians are called not to look back to their old lives, or to the world but to set their hope in Christ.

That is all well and good but when trying to avoid sin is a struggle, it seems easier to just sin and patch things up later with God. Yet this sort of complacency with sin is dangerous. Most people do not decide to suddenly stop being Christian, normally it is the process of a lots of little compromises until one day you no longer find Jesus relevant or worth believing.

Hebrews 10:26 puts the consequences of continuing in sin very starkly:

If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God.

In this verse sin is seen not so much as a specific act of sin (I can’t help lieing!), but rather a continual rebellion against God which is never repented from (I will continue to lie and I don’t care!). What this does tell us is that to continue to sin is heading the wrong way, it is not the freedom we have been given in Christ but a return to slavery. While Christians can and do sin, sin must not master the Christian (Rom 6). To become complacent about sin in your life as a Christian is profoundly dangerous.

In the Bible God speaks two ways to Christians, those who are complacent about sin are called to repent and those who are deeply worried about their sin are reminded that they are secure in Christ.

Although Christians will always struggle with sin until Christ’s return, in Christ God gives us the gift of righteousness (1 Cor 5:21). To refuse to struggle against the sin in our lives is to go back and wallow in the filth we have been saved from and to run away from the holy God who has saved us and called us to be holy. 1 John is a great book that reflects this tension of sin in a believers life.

At the heart of it, Christians try not to sin because it is better for us not to. God who made us knows the best way for us to live and has given us power through his spirit to begin to live this better way.

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How do you fight temptation? and does God forgive you if you keep on repeating the same sin?

whamimi

Hi

Temptation will be an ongoing problem for believer and non-believer alike until Jesus returns and completes his victory over sin.

The first thing to note is that temptation is not sin nor is temptation a sign of weakness. Temptation becomes sin, however, if we do not deal with it properly. It is how we deal with temptation that will determine whether we fall into sin or not. So until he returns, I think the Bible gives us 3 strategies for dealing with temptation – Praying, reading &  fleeing.

Praying – Jesus teaches us in the Lord’s Prayer to pray against temptation and the work of Satan [Matt 6:13]. As our heavenly Father he delights in us coming to him and answering our prayers. So we should pray that he would strengthen us against tempting and testing situations, that he would protect from tempting and trials that we cannot bear. We should pray that God would deliver us from Satan and his schemes to bring us down and undermine our faith.

Reading [the Bible] – When Jesus was tempted in the desert by Satan, Jesus response was to revert to the scriptures. He knew the Word of God and was able to use in his spiritual battle against Satan. For us, knowing the Bible helps us to know what is good, godly and right and what is wrong, ungodly and sinful. More importantly, knowing the Bible helps us to know how to deal with tempting and testing situations when we are faced with them.

Fleeing – The Bible tells us to flee from situations where we are tempted. Flee sexual immortality [1 Cor 6:18]; flee from the love of money [1 Tim 6:11] and flee evil desires of your youth [2 Tim 2:22]. We can make it hard for ourselves if we sail as close as we can to temptation and sin, trying to test our resolve or strength. Put barriers in place that mean we won’t face temptation, or at least face it less often. For example, if sexual temptation is an issue, don’t meet up 1:1 with people of opposite sex. Be proactive; put strategies in place to keep temptation at bay.

The Christian life is one of ongoing transformation as God shapes and moulds us to become more like Jesus [Rom 8:28-29]. Some things will change quickly others will be a lifelong process of obedience, perseverance and repentance. Until Jesus returns we will never be perfect, and so sin will continue to be part of the Christian experience. Galatians 5:16-26 speaks of the ongoing struggle it is to be godly.

However, the Bible assures us that Christ died for ALL our sins, and so there is forgiveness for those who are genuinely repentant and seek to follow him. [1 John 1:8-2:2; Joel 2:12]

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I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of months now and it’s already got that ‘your the one’ feel to it. I already love him so much and for the first time can truely see a future with him. The problem being that he is a christian (also works as a school chaplain) and I have not been brought up that way nor have I (until now) began to seek answers in regards to relgion/faith. I know how important it is to him to be with someone who shares his beliefs as it needs to be a common ground in the relationship…I can understand that so for this and other reasons (my own future, wellbeing etc) I have been doing a lot of reading and ‘searching’. I’m at a point where I’m not quite sure what to do next…I want to create a well rounded view and for the right reasons - not just because of this relationship because the heart behind that is all wrong. Can you make any suggestions as to what I should do? I do believe in god…what next?

Lea

Hi Lea,

Thanks for your question. It can be really bewildering to know where to start, can’t it?

I would think the first port of call is your boyfriend. Have you discussed this with him and told him that you have been researching and reading about Christianity? If he is a school chaplain, he should be able to get you started in the right direction.

Perhaps also you can get him to take you along to whatever church he goes to. Most churches around run an “Introducing God” or “Alpha” or some similar course to teach people the basics about Christianity. These can be great value and a very relaxed, non-threatening way to find out a bit more.

As well as this I would strongly suggest you start reading the Bible itself. It’s not really meant to be read cover to cover like a novel so don’t start at the beginning. The easiest place to start is with one of the four biographies of Jesus’ life (Matthew, Mark, Luke and John). They are about two-thirds of the way through. Look them up in the index if you can’t find them. You might like to sit down with your boyfriend at some stage and read some with him. At least then you can ask questions about stuff you don’t get. And trust me - he would love to.

The first thing anyone investigating Christianity needs to know is that at its heart Christianity is about Jesus Christ, and whether you trust him or not. The Bible records how mankind has turned our back on God and hasn’t wanted to know anything about him. You mentioned your own “heart… that is all wrong”. What you are feeling there is exactly that - we have all turned away from God, our hearts lead us away. The Bible says “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). But God didn’t want to leave us like that, so he sent his Son (Jesus) both to show us who God is and to pay the penalty for the wrong things we have done by dying in our place on a cross. He brings us back to God. God raised him from the dead to prove that Jesus really was his Son, and that he really did win salvation for us. Because of what Jesus has done, all you have to do to be right with God is trust that he has done it. You don’t have to try harder, or do good stuff, or anything like that. It’s about trusting that Jesus brings you back to God. If you believe that, then that’s what makes you a Christian.

After one of Jesus’ good friend’s dies, the biography of John tells us that Jesus goes to see his tomb. His sister was there mourning and its interesting to see what Jesus said to her:

Jesus said, “Your brother will rise again.”
And Martha said to him, “I know he will rise on the last day in the resurrection.”
So Jesus replied, “I am the resurrection and the life, if anyone believes in me then he will live, even though he dies. Do you believe this Martha?”

That’s the question he asks of all of us. Do you believe this? (The whole story is in John Chapter 11, you might like to look at it.) Please do talk to your boyfriend, if you haven’t already, and continue to think about these things. God isn’t passive in all of this either. You can ask him to help you to understand, and he will. I will be praying for you also.

 

 

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I was talking to a christian and he seemed to think christianity was the most tolerant and loving religion. However i came across a site that said this about christians.

“You believe that the entire population of this planet with the exception of those who share your beliefs - though excluding those in all rival sects - will spend Eternity in an infinite Hell of Suffering.  And yet consider your religion the most ‘tolerant’ and ‘loving.’”

So is christainity the most loving and tolerant?

Oliver

Good question.

Before answering, I think it’s worth thinking for a moment about what people think tolerance is. What seems to be happening a lot right now is that people are confusing tolerance with not disagreeing. That is you show tolerance by not challenging teh beliefs of other people and thereby approving them.

Christians get accused of being intolerant because we believe that knowing and trusting Jesus Christ is the only way to know God and be saved from judgment and there is no other. They get accused of being intolerant when they try to talk to others about such things and challenge them to think about it.

But does tolerance mean having to agree with what other people believe? I don’t think so. The person who wrote the quote on the website you saw presumably thinks they’re tolerant, and yet they don’t think much of Christianity—they think it’s wrong. Are they being intolerant?

The fact is, you can be tolerant and not agree. You can be tolerant while strongly disagreeing with someone else’s views. In fact, it’s actually impossible to be tolerant if you agree with someone, because tolerance requires that you believe something different. To be tolerant means that you honour the right of other people to hold and express views that are different to your own. I don’t need to ‘tolerate’ the views of someone who believes exactly what I do—we believe the same thing!

The irony of this is that while our society criticises Christians for not being ‘tolerant’, we are constantly told that to disagree with other people’s views is intolerant—and that this will not be tolerated!

A Christian minister in Sydney puts it well in a recent blog post:

Isn’t it interesting that the only view modern society tolerates is the view that all religions are true for their adherents, and no one has the right to suggest the claims of a particular religion are wrong or that there is only one way to God.

Is this tolerance? Hardly! Modern society allows one view only!

So what we have here is a confusion about tolerance.

We live in a society that ought to be tolerant: we should allow people to believe what they want, and express their views, as long as that expression is done in a way which doesn’t hurt people. But some in society and the media want to make tolerance mean agreement, which is nonsensical and only leads to a situation in which whoever is most powerful tells everyone else what they must believe (which is a dictatorship).

To get back to the question, then, is Christianity tolerant and loving? We live in a society that is generally very tolerant. According to the law, people can live freely and believe what they want, without fear of oppressive persecution. And I’d want to suggest that this is the result of our Christian heritage. In some other parts of the world where other religions or ideologies have taken hold over many centuries, often those same freedoms aren’t available, freedoms that we take for granted. In some places people are forced to belong to certain religions, and they’re not allowed to change. They may be imprisoned or even killed if they try to express alternative views.

Christianity is deeply tolerant, and this comes from Jesus himself. He didn’t say, “If your enemy slaps you, slap him back, but harder.” He said, “If you enemy slaps you on the right cheek, offer the other one also.” (Matthew chapter 5 verse 39) Jesus was profoundly tolerant of other people’s beliefs, because he didn’t seek to crush them or attack those who disagreed but gently taught them the truth.

But the strongest statement of Jesus’ tolerance and love is the central message of Christianity: all people are sinners, who deserve God’s judgment for their sins, and yet in Jesus these sins can be fully and finally paid for and dealt with, never to be brought up again. For those evil sinners who trust in and follow Christ, full forgiveness and new life are granted. That’s some serious tolerance.

Are Christians themselves tolerant and loving? Not always. Sometimes Christians (or people who claim to be Christian) have been very intolerant and very unloving, persecuting people who aren’t Christian and forcing people to believe certain things.

But when Christians share the good news of Jesus with people, which includes challenging other people’s worldviews, they are seeking to be loving.

They are sharing the saving message of Jesus, that everyone deserves to be punished (in hell), and needs to be forgiven by trusting in Jesus, so that people will be able to take advantage of God’s ‘tolerance’. Christians are commanded to do this by their Lord (Matthew chapter 28 verses 18-20), and they do it out of love for others (though admittedly not always in the most loving way).

The world would be a very different place if Christians were not generally tolerant, as a result of the example of their Lord, and instead sought to oppress people and convert them by force. A world in which I have to agree with someone to be called ‘tolerant’ is a dangerous world. In that world those who are most powerful will dictate what everyone ought to believe.

Forgive me if I haven’t dealt very much with the idea of hell and whether that’s ‘loving’ or ‘tolerant’. If some people think it’s unloving or intolerant to talk about hell, I think I’d say that’s a bit like telling the lifeguards at Bondi that it’s unloving to put up a shark warning sign, because it isn’t tolerant of people who want to swim without worrying. If you believe in hell, as Christians do (because Jesus does—Matt 5:29, 10:28, 23:33), then not telling people about it is very unloving.

For those people who are examining Christianity, it’s worth asking, is Jesus someone I could follow? Does he speak the truth and is he welcoming and loving? Do I want to take advantage of God’s ‘tolerance’ of my sin, and have it forgiven in Jesus?

Those are questions each of us needs to decide on our own. And thankfully, in this country at least, we can.

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I have just begun to blindly feel my way into Christianity, primarily by reading books and reading the Bible. I do intend to go to church but still feel uncomfortable, or not ready, in regard to my understanding of Christianity. How do you know when you’re ready to take the plunge? Is it better to go alone, with friends, or with a loved one?

Larissa

Hello!

I’m so glad that I received your question, because about 16 years ago, I was in your same situation. I read the Bible on my own and gradually felt my way into knowing Jesus, too. At that time I found it hard to talk to others about the beginnings of my belief in Jesus, and felt that my faith is a private thing that was between me and God. But then I read by chance:

“You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house.”
Matthew 5:14-15

Then I understood that the Christian belief is not about hiding, but showing people around me what I believe in. That was what prompted me to move out of my comfort zone and go to church for the first time and tell people about my belief in Jesus. But enough about my past experience.

I’m so excited for you in your situation, because Jesus said:

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”
Luke 11:9

So the first thing to say is, congratulations! If you seek Jesus Christ, He will definitely answer your knock on his door!

And you are definitely going about learning about Christianity in the right way, because everything that God has to say to us is in the Bible, so reading the Bible is the first and most important way to know about Jesus.

Good Christian books written especially for those who are seeking Jesus are also a great way to learn about him. Some good books that are very clear about the message of Christianity and how to become a Christian include:

“A Fresh Start” by John Chapman, or
“A Sneaking Suspicion” by John Dickson

You can find both books in their publishers’ website,  http://www.matthiasmedia.com.au/mmstore/index.html

It is important to understand the message of Christianity before you decide to become a Christian, but it is essentially a simple message: if you believe that Jesus Christ died for you on the cross, then rose again from the dead, so that your sins can be forgiven and now you want to live for God—you are a Christian.

It’s not necessary to understand everything in the Bible to become a Christian—we will always have questions about things we may not understand, until the day we go to heaven and can ask God ourselves! Christianity is primarily about a relationship—getting to know God, which is a life long process. 

May I suggest one way to find out if you are ready to become a Christian? Scroll through the “God makes sense” part of this website—at the end of it you will find the words of a prayer. If you agree with every word of this prayer wholeheartedly and feel ready to say it to God, then—do just that! If you feel that you don’t understand some of it, and cannot agree with the words of the prayer wholeheartedly, it would be good to find out more. Reading the books I suggested would help, and talking to Christians is also a great way to understand more.

Whether you decide that you are ready right now or want to find out more, I highly encourage you to consider going to a church soon! You can try to find a church that is committed to teaching the Bible, so that you can get to know God through clear explanations of God’s words. Also find something that you’re comfortable with—maybe one that has people your age or a format that you like, that you would feel welcomed into the community.

It is okay to go on your own, but you will need to take the initiative to let people know that you are there for the first time and would like to know more about Christianity. Maybe introduce yourself to the person at the door so that they can show you where to sit and let you know what activities they have throughout the week!

If you choose to bring someone with you, it would be good if they are also interested in coming along, or else it may make it hard for you to find out more if your friend keeps wanting to go home because they feel uncomfortable! If your loved ones are not ready to find out about Christianity yet, it may be easier to go on your own first and then invite them along once you find out more about how things are at church and can help them feel more comfortable. 

All the best in your seeking journey and I know that Jesus will be opening the door for you in wonderful ways!

 

 

 

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I have been a christian for over 5 years and I find that I still cannot talk to people about Jesus. I feel I have no confidence in how to answer or what to say.

Wendy

Hi Wendy,

It’s wonderful that you are a Christian and it’s wonderful that you want to tell people about Jesus. I hope it will bring you comfort to know that I have been a Christian for over 20 years and at times still find it hard to talk to people about Jesus! There are so many things that go through our heads, like, ‘Will I say something really dumb?’, ‘Will I lose this friendship?’, ‘Will they think I’m deluded?’, ‘Will I say something that is actually unhelpful in bringing this person closer to God?’. You may have a whole lot of other thoughts that go through your mind.

The first thing to understand is that the bible teaches us in Ephesians 4:11-12 that God gives the members of Christ’s body different gifts, including evangelism. It is possible that evangelism is not your particular gift (though I don’t want to discourage you if you find your confidence grows in time). However, in 1 Peter 3:15 we are all called on to “set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect…”

We often forget, but need to remember, that sharing the gospel is God’s work, and he has given us the privilege of being a part of it. Because of this, the first step in sharing Jesus is always prayer and lots of it. We can pray for particular people, we can pray for opportunities, we can pray for the right words to say, we can pray for courage, we can pray that what we do and say gives honour to God, and that our lives are a light in the world to those around us. We need to remember God’s sovereignty, knowing that whatever mistakes we might make, God’s plans will not be thwarted. God may also cause us to grow through our mistakes too. God uses the foolish, weak and lowly (1Cor 1:27) to bring about his purposes. It’s ok to say that we don’t know something, but will look into it, if given a tricky question. We may well only be ‘a link in the chain’ of bringing a particular person to Christ, so we don’t need to feel that we have to get the entire gospel out or cover everything in one conversation. I found this concept really liberating, because now I know that God can use even the slightest comments to get people thinking even when we are not aware of it and may never be, in this life. I found ‘Promoting the Gospel’ by John Dickson really encouraging. He covers the various aspects of our lives that go into promoting the gospel, not just our words.

Often we have confidence to say what we believe when we are sure in ourselves what it is that we actually believe in and why. It might be helpful for you to get the answers to these questions clear in your own mind, and then you may find you have greater confidence in talking with your non-Christian friends. The Bible is, of course, the place to start. In Romans 1:16 Paul says that he is “not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God for the salvation of everyone who believes.” The gospel is given in a nutshell in various verses, but John 3:16 is a classic-“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” Kel Richards’ book ‘Defending the Gospel’ may also be really helpful to you in this.

Knowing how others think, their world view or their objections to Christianity, where the inconsistencies in their thinking lie or the false assumptions they may be making, can all be really helpful in knowing what is best to say to reach them. This would definitely be an ongoing gaining in knowledge (we can’t expect to know everything at once!), but if you are into reading there are many great books that can give you head start. I thoroughly recommend ‘The Universe Next Door’ by James Sire and ‘A spectator’s Guide to World Views’ edited by Simon Smart which look into world views. Also, ‘How Long O Lord?’ by D.A.Carson looks into the common objection about suffering and evil and ‘The Christ Files’ by John Dickson looks into the common objection about the historical reliability of the gospel accounts of Jesus.

I hope and pray that this helps you Wendy, and that as you grow in the clarity of your understanding you will find it easier to speak up for Jesus.

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How do jesus and god make people better?

Emily

Hi Emily,

This is a good and very important question.

The answer revolves around who God is.

The bible describes God as the one who made everything that is, he is the Creator (read Genesis 1 and 2). As the creator he made you and me and we are very precious to him - he loves us. He expects us to love him, obey him and treat him as our God.

However we have not loved him or treated him as he wants us to. This is what sin is all about. We sin when we tell God that we want to do things our own way and not his way. We all do it and we do it all the time. In little things like lying and not respecting or obeying our parents as well as in big things like stealing, cheating as so on.

Sin is an attitude of disregarding God and treating him as he deserves and, as you can imagine, he is angry with that. Sin destroys the relationship that we have with God so that we are estranged from him. Ultimately we will be punished for our sin - not a good thought.

However, our sin has not stopped God loving us. He does not want to punish us so his son Jesus came to earth and took the punishment for us by dying on the cross and rising again. Having done this, Jesus now offers us an opportunity to be reconciled with God again and return to the loving relationship that he created us for.

Jesus makes us better by opening the way for us to be reconciled back to God so that we can live life as God intended it to be lived.

So you can see why it is an important question. The only thing that remains is to ask have you accepted Jesus offer of reconcilliation?

If you want to talk about it more then please email me.

Cheers
David

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hi,
in a book of mark i have it says If he comes suddenly he must not find you asleep. Do you know what that means?

Brandon

Hi Brandon,

The imagery being used here (Mark 13:36) is that of not being ready or prepared for Jesus when he returns. He warns us to watch for his coming and be ready because we do not know when he will return.

Jesus uses a number of parables like this to express the idea that we are to prepare ourselves for his return at any moment and watch for its coming. The warning is that if you are not ready you will miss out.

So what does it mean to be ready and watch as a Christian?

To me this means being and doing the things that Jesus would want us to do rather than simply doing what we want to do. In the Mark passage Jesus uses the image of servants being left to do the task assigned to them. The idea being that when the master comes back he will be happy with those who are doing the tasks he set and angry with those who aren’t (who are “sleeping”).

The tasks that Jesus has left us to is to make disciples of the nations (the great commission - Mat 28:16ff) and to live for God at every moment. This means reading his word and praying, meeting with other Christians to encourage and build them up. It means living a godly life and taking the time and effort to tell others of the hope and joy you have in knowing Jesus.

Not an easy task but with the help of God himself, we can do it.

Cheers
David

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im a young christian man. i love god and i love decipling, i just want too know how far is too far with a girl kissing is fine but is anything more than that ok?
cos i know no sex before marrige but does that mean the other stuff?

Hamish

Hi Hamish,

It is good that you are concerned for this and are seeking to work out what the right thing to do is. Too often young christians are happy to let the ethics of the world guide them rather than asking the hard questions and doing teh godly thing.

As you can imagine this is a question that we get reasonably regularly and there is a good answer already worked up.

Get back to me if you have any further questions.

God bless

David

 

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Since I’ve started to pray, asking forgiveness of my sins and to become a christian. (I have asked many times). It feels like I’m talking to myself, as if there is no one there. I have no idea if i have been heard. I don’t know whether i should just let the whole thing go, or keep trying. I read the New Testament daily and pray daily. I’ve attended church on nine occations. But i don’t know if i’m doing the right thing. So how does a christian feel when he finishes praying ?  I feel nothing, just a lot of words.

Bruce

Thanks for your email, the issue you have raised is really important (and often misunderstood).

Let me say firstly that God has heard your prayers and all heaven delights that you have turned back to him. You can be asured that you are a Christian and that God dwells with you by his Spirit. You may not feel that way but rest assured that that is the case.

You see feelings can be deceptive and sometimes we have to move beyond our feelings to the facts of a matter. This is why the bible is so important -it tells you what God has done and what the implications of that is. Most importantly it tells us of his promises and his faithfulness in keeping those promises. One such promise is John 3: 16

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only so, that whoever belives in him shall not perish but have eternal life”

That is God’s promise. If you have done that then you can be assured that you have been saved. Another one is

If we confess our sins, God is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. [1 John 1:9]

If you have prayed for forgiveness of sins, then trust in the promise of the Bible that you have have been forgiven.

You see the real Christian experience is not a feeling but a relationship based on trust (or faith). The Bible records all sorts of varying experiences that different followers of Jesus had, but the fundamental experience of a relationship with God is trust (or ‘faith’) in Jesus..

Now there are three points that come from this, that I think address your question.
1. Faith is always “in” something, you just don’t ‘have faith’, you have faith in something. You can have faith in the train timetable, in a particular politician, in a restaurant, in your spouse, in a chair - all of us have faith in all sorts of things. Christians are people that have faith in Jesus - this is what defines a Christian.

2. Faith is always “for” something, it looks forward to an outcome. Your faith in the train timetable may be for accurate information about when a train will arrive, or faith in a restaurant for good food, or faith in a chair to hold you up when you sit on it, etc. A Christian has faith in Jesus as the one who is able to save us from Sin and Death, and as the one whom God has appointed as Lord of all.

3. Faith does not always have the same feeling associated with it, and may sometimes not feel like anything at all. Think about what having faith in a chair feels like…sometimes, say after a long walk, it feels great to look forward to sitting in that chair, but if we have put on a bit of weight then sitting down in the chair may be accompanied by some anxiety or some doubt. There will also be some times when we sit down in the chair without even really thinking about it or feeling anything. It is a similar thing with having faith in Jesus - the evidence that you are a Christian is that you trust Jesus, not that you have any particular feeling.

Now, praying to Jesus is an exercise of faith in Jesus (much in the same way that ‘sitting’ is an exercise of faith in a chair). Do not be worried about how it ‘feels’. The real question is do you trust Jesus? Do you trust that Jesus is able to hear your prayers, do you trust that Jesus is able to answer your prayers, and do you trust that Jesus loves you?
God hears our prayers and answers them (though not always in the way, or with the timing, that we might expect). I know this, not because of how I feel after I have prayed, but because I trust in the promises that God makes to us in the Bible.

Let me encourage you to keep reading the Bible to learn the promises of God that we can put our faith in, and to keep praying, and to get involved with a church community that will encourage you in these things.

God bless

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Hi, my name is Maddi and I am 14 years old. I’ve been a Christian for about a year and a half now, but find it really hard to get motivated to read my bible. I want to have a daily quiet time with God, but don’t know where in the bible to start, or what to do after I’ve read a passage. I also don’t know how much to read. I really need help, and even though I go to a Christian school, I find it hard to ask questions of the teachers etc. I was wondering if you could help me out with this, if you could?

Maddie

Hi Maddi,

I asked my wife to help with suggestions for you.  I hope that’s OK.

It’s really great to read the Bible and pray each day, and I’m glad you want to.

You see being a Christian is about being friends with Jesus. Its a real relationship just like the one you have with your best friend. Now in all relationships we like to talk and listen to each other and this is what reading and praying is all about.

When you pray you tell God about all the things you want to talk to him about. You can tell him about how you feel, what makes you happy, what makes you sad. You can ask for help for yourself or someone else. He is always there and always wanting to hear from you. And best of all he usderstands exactly what you are saying.

When we read the bible, we are listening to what God has to say to us (exept it is written down like in a letter). He has made sure he has told us everything we need to know in order to be the best of friends with him.

So when you pray and read, you are really having a good old conversation with God and that is the best way of thinking about it. It’s one of the best ways we can feel connected to God. I hope you don’t feel like you have to do it to be a Christian. You are always connected to God through Jesus, even if you don’t feel like it!

Now you are not alone in not knowing how to get staring in doing this or how to keep it going. It is one of the problems that many Christians have. However there are some really good things you can do.

Firstly, ask God to help you. He is there and wants you to talk to him and he will make sure you do.

Secondly, it is helpful to read and pray with other people. If you go to a church (which is important for all Christians to do) you might be able to find an older, wise Christian lady to help. She may even be able to meet with you to read and pray, perhaps once a week. Or maybe you can meet with a friend at School (that what I used to do)

Thirdly, there are some good Bible Reading guides around which will help. The Daily Reading Bible are good ones, because you can carry them around easily. You can find them here:  Matthias Media

Finally, you could start reading through the New Testament, beginning with Matthew. It would be harder to begin at the very start of the Bible (Genesis) and go through the whole thing. I tried it when I was a little bit older than you and quickly gave up!

One final thing: routine is your friend! Maybe you can read and pray every time you wake up, or you go to bed, or on the way to school, or lunchtime in the library… If you do it every day for a while, the habit will form. The ‘motivation’ may go up and down, but that’s life.

I hope that helps.

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To give you some background to begin with.
I am a christian husband and father of three daughters actively involved in my local church. I also work for multi-national organisation and struggle a bit to meet everone’s expectations. The trifecta (so to speak) is I appear to suffer melancholic depression as a reaction to stress. I guess my question is - What meaning in terms of God’s purpose can I find in my situation?

John

Hello John,

Firstly, I want to say that it’s wonderful that you are a Christian, because God’s steadfast love is better than life (Ps 63).

Ephesians 1:3-14 gives a great run-down on what the purpose of our lives as Christians is. God has primarily created us to be in relationship with him. He has done this, not because he needs our love, but out of the abundance of his love for us. He shows us his love in the many blessings that he gives us on a daily basis (which may seem hard to see sometimes), but mostly in the gift of his son, Jesus, whose life, death and resurrection brought us the promises of forgiveness and inheritance. We show our love in return by trusting in his promises (faith) and obeying his commands (living lives worthy of our calling- Eph 4:1).

A life lived in faith and obedience looks different for different people according to their circumstances. Unchanging, though, is our primary commitment to a relationship with God. This will generally be expressed in meeting God over his word (the bible), prayer and trying to live the sort of lives that bring glory and honour to his name.

We all live within the context of what I call “relational responsibilities” - that is we all have relationships that we have responsibility for. Some relationships are more important than others. So in your case, being married, your most important relationship (apart from God) is with your wife; your responsibility is to love her and lead her in her relationship with God and with you. Of course, after her come your daughters - you are responsible to protect them, nuture them and teach them to love and follow and follow Jesus. Our value is found in these relationships, most especially with God, not in what we do.

The key to these relationships if faithfulness. Just as God is faithful in all his realtionships and responsibilities, so he requires us to be faithful to the responsibilites we find ourselves with. This is our purpose, the task that God has set us. He is glorified by our resolve to trust him and do what is right no matter what the circumstances we find ourselves in.

And here is where it gets difficult because sometimes the circumstances we find ourselves in can be pretty awful particularly in our busy high powered western world. Sometimes our circumstances are such that our faith and resolve is tested and “proved”. This is all part of God’s plan to strengthen you and help you - its a sign of his love for you (see 1 Peter 1:3-12 and Heb 12:1-13). Many Christians think of this “suffering” in terms of persecution but suffering can be simply coping with the difficulties that our circumstances throw up. How we face these difficulties will stengthen (or weaken) our faith in God. It is in this nitty gritty of life that our faith is proved and that God is ultimately glorified.

In your situation to love your family is to protect and provide for them. Your job is not an end in itself (however enjoyable some may find their work), but as a means to an end and your responsibility to your employer is not more important than your responsibility to your family. If your particular job gets in the way of these higher priorities, it may be that you need to think of how to change your work situation, either within the job you have or by moving on. Now, I understand this could be really difficult but it may be that this is where your faith in God is to be tested. It would take lots of prayer, an assessment of your work duties and looking at what your family really needs (rather than really wants). It may even mean that you need to make a change without knowing what the outcome will be. This can be a scary prospect!

It may also mean pulling back from ministry in church. Your responsibility to yourself, your wife and family are more important to your responsibility to your church. God would not be pleased if you sacrificed your family because of ministry in church. If he wants to he can raise up others to take your place. It may also be a great example to other men in your church (who are in the same circumstances as you) to see you make godly decisions in favour of your family.

However no matter what your circumstances, no matter what happens, no matter what decision you make, you an be assured of God love and his presence with you. He loves you and your family more than you can possibly know. He can and does bring good out of every situation for those who love him and nothing can stop him from doing it (Rom 8:28-39). So hang in there and keep on doing what is right.

Now I’m not a psychologist, but from my observations, depression seems to fall into two main types. The first is from a trial of some kind (e.g. grief, excess stress, etc.) and once that situation is resolved (grief processed, stressor removed, etc.) then the depression gradually lifts. The second is a longer-term depression that may have the need for on-going counseling to combat unhelpful styles of thinking and also often requires medication for chemical imbalances in the brain. It’s not so black and white in that if people are depressed from a trial for long enough the brain can essentially re-wire itself to become a ‘sad brain’. It might be helpful for you, either way, to seek out a Christian counselor to help you understand where you are at in this regard. (Your minister may be able to advise you).

When we go through low times (for some this extends for life), we are often tempted to doubt God’s love for us. We have to keep praying and remembering we are broken people living in a broken world. It’s not until Christ returns that God will wipe away all our tears (Rev 21:4). Times of depression and trial can also be used by God to draw us closer to him and help us to depend more on him to meet our needs. By this I mean our real needs, rather than what our worldliness often flags as ‘real needs’. (Ultimately our real needs are met in Christ). We learn that we are not in control, but must remember that God is, and he is a loving and compassionate God. The depth of his love is shown in the sacrifice of his son on the cross on our behalf.

As you walk this path, it’s helpful to remember that in many of the Psalms David wrestled with God when in despair, and we can too. Pray to God and tell him of the things that trouble you. Reading and praying through these Psalms can be very helpful. I particularly like Psalm 143. Psalm 13 is also really good and there are many others that are relevant and easy to relate to when feeling down. (Our enemy can be read as arising from within us as well as from without). Be persistent in your prayers because God is listening, but his wisdom and timing are not always ours and we need to trust in him. “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him….” (Rom 8:28).

I hope and pray that this is useful to you and that God will draw you closer to him in whatever you are experiencing. Also, I pray that God will work in you, helping you to make wise decisions about what to do with your work situation and seeking further help for your melancholic depression.

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You can only become a christian if GOD draws you. How do you know that GOD is drawing you, rather than you just wanting to become a born again christian?

Bruce

Dear friend, that’s a great question.

You said, ‘You can only become a christian if GOD draws you’, which you might have got from John 6:44, ‘No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him. And I will raise him up on the last day.’

To understand this, we need to look at the Biblical background of this passage. In the beginning God created us to be in a loving relationship with him. The picture in the garden of Eden was of God and humanity in a close relationship - God provided everything they needed and gave them the responsibility to look after the world. So from the start we can say that God wanted EVERYONE to be close to him (Gen 2:4-17)

But that’s not the way it is today. What happened? Well it’s not that God changed his mind. On the contrary, Adam and Eve decided that they wanted to rule the world without God. They disobeyed his instructions and were banished from the beautiful garden God had provided and the close relationship with God that He intended. Adam and Eve died spiritually that day. So it’s not that God turned his back on us, but we turned our back on Him. This is what we call sin, and this infected the hearts of everyone who has been born since Adam and Eve. The natural state of the human heart is to reject God’s rule of our lives and a close relationship with him.

So when Jesus says ‘No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him’, it’s not because God doesn’t want us to be close to him. It’s because WE don’t want to be close to GOD. What we need is a radical change of heart. Only God can change our hearts, and that’s why he sent Jesus.

God sent Jesus to show the world that even though we don’t want a relationship with God, he still wants a relationship with us. Even though we deserve God’s punishment, Jesus died to save us and bring us back to God. This is what Jesus says about his death, ‘And I, when I am lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself’. (John 12:32) Jesus was lifted up on the cross so that ALL people would be drawn back to God. Once again we see God’s desire that all people have a relationship with Him.

So to answer your question, God is drawing all people to himself through the cross of Jesus. The verse in John 6:44 is NOT saying that even if you want to be born again you can’t unless God draws you. It’s saying that since everyone is sinful, no one wants to be a Christian without God changing his or her heart.

This is really good news for anyone who wants to be born again. Because you wouldn’t feel that way unless God IS drawing you to himself. It’s natural to want to reject God, but it’s supernatural to want to become a Christian. If you feel like you want to be born again, then you can be sure that GOD IS DRAWING YOU. Without him drawing you, you wouldn’t want to know him. So if you want to be born again, it’s because God has changed your heart. The only thing to do now is pray and thank God for drawing you to him. Accept his wonderful gift of forgiveness and eternal life, and know that you are born again through Jesus!

If you have done this, the angels in heaven are rejoicing over you because you have been born again and you are one of God’s children! Please talk to someone, even myself, so that they can help you to grow in your new life! Praise God!

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I have just begun to renew (I say ‘renew’ because I had an extraordinary religious experience when I was 12 and have never forgotten it although I did wander from the path since then) my relationship with Jesus and am experiencing a deepening desire to become more involved and to commit to the faith even more - to the point of investigating Ordination.  I am noticing that I’m spontaneously reading the Bible regularly and have started to pray every night, appear to be developing a ‘self-correcting’ (less pesimistic) opinion on life and am investigating/studying Christianity more.  Is this a calling?

Tony

In the New Testament, we’re told that people become Christians because God ‘calls’ them.

For example, in Romans 1:6, the Apostle Paul writes to the Christians in Rome ‘And you also are among those who are called to belong to Jesus Christ’. So if you have a desire to want to enter into a relationship with Jesus, by confessing your sins to him, and asking him to be your Saviour and Lord, then it is because God is calling you. If that is what you are feeling, then it indeed a ‘call’ to be in relationship with God, as a Christian. (For further verses that talk about this, check out 1 Corinthians 1:9, Eph 1:18; 1 Thessalonians 1:4-5; 2 Thessalionians 2:13-14; 2 Timothy 1:9).

As to whether God is calling you to a certain job, whether it be ordination, or whatever else, the New Testament never says that Christians are ‘called’ to certain, specific jobs. Let me explain. The people throughout the bible that do receive God’s specific call include unique people such as prophets (eg. Moses, Isaiah, Jeremiah), and the Apostles (eg. the Apostle Paul). Their ‘call’ was unmistakable, in that God appeared to them, and said ‘Hey! This is what you’re gunna do!’. God could still do that with us, but from what you’re saying, it sounds more like an internal, subjective feeling that you’re experiencing, not an external, unmistakeable appearance of God. Internal, subjective feelings about doing certain jobs never appear in the Bible, and thus should not be thought of as a ‘call’ from God.

Christians are never told that they are to expect ‘calls’ to go into ministry. Instead, we should have a ‘desire’ to serve God’s people in this way. As Paul says in 1 Timothy 3:1 ‘Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer,[ie. bishop] he desires a noble task’. If you want to go into full time ministry of any kind, then that is a good desire to have, because ministry is a ‘noble task’. But it is a desire that comes from within us, rather than a feeling of God ‘calling’ us. We should also have the right qualifications, in terms of character and knowledge – see passages such as 1 Tim 3:1-13 (note also verse 6). If you do meet those requirements, then a good way forward is to start serving at your local church (ensuring it is a bible-believing church), and check out websites such as www.mts.com.au, which are geared toward people thinking about full-time ministry.

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Why do you believe that the bible is the only way (or sole way) to know Christ, when this assumption isn’t even presented in Scripture itself? Doesn’t this contradict scripture alone? For if it were true - Scripture should surely say this?

Patrick

Hi, and thanks for the question.

The best way to describe the bible is that it is God’s chosen way to reveal himself (and his Son) to us. That is not to say that God is limited to this method alone - he can choose to reveal himself to us in any number of ways and has through the ages. But he has PROMISED to reveal himself to us through the scriptures. So my answer to your question is that while the bible might not be the only way to know Jesus, it is certainly the best and most effective way. Let me explain.

When Jesus walked this earth, a complete ‘Bible’ (as we know it) didn’t exist. People came face to face with the Lord Jesus himself. However the Old Testament (OT), or Hebrew Tanakh did exist. Jesus gives his approval to the Tanakh by saying, ‘everything written about me in the Law, the Prophets and the Psalms, must find its fulfillment’ (Luke 24:44). Since the Hebrew Tanakh was in three sections (with these headings) and existed in this form at the time of Jesus, he is actually approving of all of them. In other words, Jesus didn’t just appear out of nowhere and say ‘I’m your Lord and Saviour, the Son of God, believe in me’. He comes as the fulfillment of expectations set up by God himself in the Tanakh. In fact, Jesus says that the Hebrew Scriptures are one of the most powerful testimonies to himself (John 5:36-40). And Jesus is constantly quoting Scripture to prove that he is the long awaited Christ, the Saviour of the world. So at the beginning of Christianity, both Jesus himself and the Apostle Paul appeal to the Scriptures to have true and certain knowledge about Jesus (see Acts 17:2, 17:11).

Now it is true that unschooled fisherman (Acts 4:13) came to know Christ purely through interaction with him. But they were all Jews and even unschooled Jews were saturated with the Scriptures through the Jewish Synagogue (this was the case, even if they were illiterate, because the Scriptures were recited orally and sung. It was an oral culture). The Synagogue was the cultural hub of Jewish society, so people would go there throughout the week, not just on the Sabbath. The unschooled fisherman, Peter, still commends the prophetic Scriptures, to study and live by (2 Peter 1:19-21).

So Jesus and the early Apostles grounded much of their teaching on the Hebrew Scriptures. So how did these Scriptures come to be written down? Was it a man-made invention, or ordained by God? Even though the Ancient culture was an oral one, from a very early time, God commanded his words to be written down. This is because his dealings with Israel revealed who he was and what kind of relationship they could have with him. It was God’s command that ordinary Jews learn his words and write them everywhere as a constant reminder (Deut. 11:18-21). God also commanded his words to be written down so they would be preserved for future generations - the leaders and kings were to meditate on it (Exodus 34:27; Deut. 17:14-20; Joshua 1:8).

I hope I have shown how important the Hebrew Scriptures are. But let’s imagine that someone in Jesus’ time understood the message of Jesus without the Scriptures. All well and good. But what about the great majority of people who lived after Jesus died and was raised again? How will they come to know Jesus since he isn’t physically present anymore? I hope to show that Jesus himself made provisions for the writing down of the New Testament (NT) Scriptures, and so commends to us the whole Bible as the best way to know him:

1) Jesus is very clear that he will not be physically present forever (John 13:33), and so there needs to be another way for people to come to know him. The method that Jesus chooses is his Apostles (Luke 24:45-58; John 15:26-27). But the disciples are not able merely to recite what they heard from Jesus. They need the power of the Holy Spirit to teach them all things and make them able to witness to Jesus (Luke 24:49; John 16:12-14 & 17:20-21). The reason the NT is the best way to know Jesus, is because it is the words of the Apostles themselves written down.

2) The NT was written down so that after the Apostles had died, future generations would be able to have a reliable witness to Jesus’ life and teachings. Is this a human invention or was it ordained by God? Jesus refers to those who will write down his message as a scribe for the kingdom of heaven. He says that they will need to testify to Jesus by referring to the old treasures (Old Testament), and the new (Jesus’ life and teachings), in Matthew 13:51-52.

3) The Apostles realised that they need to write things down as they approached their own death (2 Peter 1:12-15). They therefore made provisions for faithful men to transmit this message from generation to generation (2 Timothy 2:1-2). All Scripture is breathed out by God (i.e inspired by him), and is the God-ordained method to know Christ (2 Tim 3:14-16). At the end of the New Testament, there is a stern warning not to add anything from the this book or take away anything from it (Revelation 22:18-19). This can be applied to the whole New Testament, since any writings written after this time would not be as authoritative since they don’t have Apostolic approval, and so don’t have approval from Jesus himself.

But what about the person who sees a vision of Jesus and comes to know him this way? Of course this is possible and has happened to people, including a man called Sadhu Sundar Singh (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sundar_Singh). But this is very rare, and after this visionary experience, they always grow in their knowledge and love of Jesus through the Scriptures. Your concern might be that not everyone can read, or not everyone has the Scriptures. But you can take in the Scriptures orally, and the Bible society has made Scripture available orally to many remote communities of people in their own language (through an mp3-type device). What I’m saying is that this method is the way God has promised he will reveal himself to us. Otherwise we would be demanding a personal vision of Jesus to each and every one of us, which God has not promised in the Scriptures. In addition, other ways of knowing Jesus are not as trustworthy, since they have not been promised by God.

In summary, God has always made sure that people have access to his word. And his Word is ultimately Jesus himself, who makes himself known through the Apostles, the New Testament. If you are concerned that the Bible is merely an intellectual document, be assured that through the power of the Holy Spirit, it becomes a living and active Word that engages our heart, mind and soul.

When you accept the teaching of Jesus, we accept Jesus himself. As he says, “If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.”

May you be blessed in your knowledge of Christ.
Clive.

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I have a girlfriend that I have been with for over two years. We live together and we both want to get married…. I’m a believer in Christ but she isn’t. If Jesus came back right now before we got married or even after would I still be saved?

Michael

Dear Michael

“Would I still be saved?” is probably not the right question to be asking.  If you’re a believer, you can be confident that you are saved by God’s grace.  It’s then a matter of persevering in faith and obedience through your whole life. 

So before I answer your question I just want to ask if you are this confident in your own salvation? Because you can be! This confidence does not come from our effort (“If I am good enough then I’ll be saved!”) but comes from the fact that there is nothing I can do to be saved and therefore depend wholly on Jesus for my future. This faith in Jesus gives us confidence because we know that not only can God save us through Jesus but that he has. Is this the sort of faith you have in Jesus? Is this the basis on which you say you are a Christian? Come back to me if you ave questions about this and have a look at http://www.christianity.net.au/god

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The Christian life then becomes not a question of being good enough for God but being the person God wants you to be - confidently living your life in obedience to Jesus. So your question should be “what is the obedient thing for me to do in this situation?”

Now at this point I need to be quite frank with you - dating a non-christian and living with a woman you are not married to (And by this I mean having sex with) is NOT living obediently under Christ. The Bible teaches that Christian are free to marry whoever they wish, but they ought to be believers (1 Corinthians 7:39).  So if we shouldn’t marry non-Christians, then, we shouldn’t go out with them either.  It also is not right for you to be living together without being married, because we are meant to reserve sex for our marriage partner. The Bible teaches us to flee from sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18), and this includes all sex outside marriage.

I hope you don’t mind me being quite frank with you, but really you must confess these sins to God and ask him to forgive you.  And you also need to confess to your girlfriend that you’ve been doing the wrong thing by her as well.  By living with her, you will have sent a message to her that Jesus is not really all that important to you.  It will seem to her that she is more important to you than Jesus is, and that’s unhelpful for her.

Normally I would say you should not marry a non-Christian (1 Corinthians 7:39), but now that you are living together, it is more complicated.  My advice is that you should tell her that if you get married, she has to understand that you are going to be serious about Jesus - you will be at church regularly, you will give away money to church and to those in need, and that you will want to raise your children as Christians. (It also means you’ll be a really good husband too!!, Ephesians 5:22-33.)  If she agrees to that, then get married, and pray for her every day that she will come to know the Lord.  If she doesn’t want to get married, then that is her choice - you should let her go.

If she agrees to get married, then schedule the wedding soon, and one of you move back to your parents while you wait.  That might sound like a big cost, but it will make your honeymoon much more special.

Thank you for asking a question which affects you so much.  It shows that Jesus is important to you.  I have prayed for you that you will do what is right, though it is not easy.

Andrew

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How can I tell that when I was praying I have received the Holy Spirit? How is the feeling?

Joe

Hello Joseph,

When people receive the Holy Spirit they all have different feelings. When I first became a Christian I was really sad. I didn’t feel anything special. I didn’t have a sudden sense of well-being, I was just plain sad and it didn’t change at all. I just went to sleep. What we feel when we receive the Holy Spirit will be different for each person, as all of us come to trust Jesus under different circumstances. And in the end what we feel when we receive the Spirit is not important.

The important thing to know is - we can be sure we have received the Holy Spirit if we call Jesus Lord and Saviour (1 John 2:20-23 – John in this passage calls the Spirit the Holy One). God has promised all people who trust Jesus for salvation have the Holy Spirit (1 John 4:2). For it is impossible to call Jesus Lord and Saviour without the Holy Spirit. If you trust Jesus came in the flesh, died on the cross for our sin and was resurrected from the dead in the flesh and now sits at God’s right hand, you can be sure you have received the Holy Spirit (1 Cor 15:3-8). We do not receive the Holy Spirit again and again, we receive him once and he stays with us into eternity.

We have to be careful of feelings. Our feelings are a good thing given to us from God. They help us understand what we think about a situation. But they are not always reliable because of our sinfulness. We must not trust our feelings because they can deceive us. Instead we look to God learn to trust in his promises (Romans 8:23) simply because God is not sinful, deceitful or fickle. When he promises something we can be assured it will happen.

Therefore do not worry if your feelings don’t change when you pray for things, God has heard you (Philippians 4:6-7). God will answer your prayers in accordance with his will (Mark 14:36). Trust our God for he is a god who always keeps his promises through Jesus (1 Cor 1:20).

Adam

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How do Christians know exactly how much money they should give away (to the Church and to the needy)? I’ve had 10% as a response but it doesn’t really answer my question. Many others and myself could technically survive giving 90% away if you see what I mean. So what helps for Christians to draw the line (which I realise will probably not be ‘clearly defined’), to figure out how much to give according to their income?

Mike

A great question. The 10% figure is derived from the practice of the tithe in the Old Testament. This, however, only formed a part of an Israelites giving, which may have been up to 27% or greater. When we come to the New Testament, the tithe only gets mentioned in negative contexts. I would sum up the New Testament’s teaching on giving as being: Generous, Willing, Sacrificial, and Responsible. Paul writes:

For if the readiness is there, it is acceptable according to what a person has, not according to what he does not have.
2 Corinthians 8:12

So our giving is meant to be proportional to our wealth, which is a great freedom. Paul goes on:

The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
2 Corinthians 9:6-7

On the one hand, we are called to rich generosity, but to do so willingly and cheerfully, not as a command and burden. In these chapters Paul patterns Christian generosity on the generosity of God, in Jesus, who became poor for our sake (2 Cor 8:9).

However, there is a call for responsibility as well. Again Paul writes:

But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
1 Timothy 5:8

Christians are also to consider their responsibilities and how they can meet and provide for them. Rich generosity for others should not lead to neglect and deprivation for those under our care.

In the end, Christians figure this out as a matter of wisdom: assessing their finances, their responsibilities, and then seeking to be as generous as they can, imitating the character of God who is a generous giver. This attitude, of course, goes way beyond just money. It includes all the resources that God has given us including our possessions, skills, wisdom and (most importantly in our time-poor society) our time for sake of others.

 

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I have a bit of an anger managment problem, how do I get over it? And how can Jesus help me with it?

Beth

Hi Beth,

There is so much to say and consider in such a short space.

To begin with, we have to accept that anger is a normal emotion. It is one of the emotions we bear as being created the image of our Creator. Indeed even God himself gets angry!

Anger comes about because we are hurt or let down (either deliberately or not). God gets angry with Israel because they keep on forgetting him and doing the things he has told them not to do or not doing the things he wants them to do. He is angry with us because we have failed to treat him as God in our lives (that by the way is what sin is about).

The problem with our anger in general is that we react to it in ways that are not helpful or way out of proportion to the hurt felt. In this way anger can disrupt and destroy relationships that are important to us. In the heat of the moment we want to be proved right or may even want to inflict hurt. We will say and do things that we regret later on. I imagine that I am not saying anything that you do not already understand.

So the issue with anger is not so much that you get angry but why and what to do about it. Understanding why will help help you work out how to deal with it.

I think here the example of Jesus is most helpful.

God always uses his anger to bring about his good purposes. Unlike us, he does not let this anger overcome him so that he loses control. Rather he works patiently through history to bring about his plans. What drives him is not his anger but a far more potent and powerful emotion - love. Paul writes this:

God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Rom 5:6-11

Let me unpack this a little. Paul is saying that while we were God’s enemies, rebelling against him and making him angry, God acted by sending his son to die in our place. He acted not out of his anger (which he has every right to be) but out of his love to bring forgiveness.

To me the two key element here are love and forgiveness. The christian experience of God’s overwhelming love leads us in turn to love others. In the same way the christian experience of God’s forgiveness leads us to forgive others. Neither of these things is easy, especially in the midst of anger but they are what we are to aim for.

In Mark 11:25, we read of the importance of forgiveness. Forgiveness is described as being necessarily present before we can know the forgiveness of God for our sins. Matthew 5: 21-26, covers anger, forgiveness and reconciliation. As Jesus clearly teaches, we should always try to make ammends with people that we have fallen out of friendship with. It may not always be the case that others are prepared to forgive us when we have wronged them, but the act of expressing our remorse to them is essential. Through this act we are communicating our own desire for peace with the other person, as well as God’s requirement towards everyone of love and forgiveness.

Forgiveness is often a process. Even if we may still feel anger towards the one who has hurt us, and the effects of the damage - (emotional pain and other problems), are still with us, we can still be in an attitude of forgiveness to that person. We are effectively controlling our anger and inviting God to deal with it. Rather than the anger turning bad, and causing hate, we acknowledge it, state forgiveness and refuse through sheer will to engage in thoughts of bitterness, revenge or hate. A feeling of complete forgiveness may take a significant amount of time and effort to reach but it is worth it in the end.

Forgiveness is not just an declaration or a feeling, it is also an action. Forgiveness does not mean that we sweep the hurt under the carpet as if it never happened. Forgiveness and love for the other may mean we need to deal with the hurt and the circumstances that brought it about. But it is now done in the light of bringing about reconciliation and doing good for the other (e.g. helping them to recognise and change a wrong behaviour). After all God did not simply sweep our sin under the carpet and forget it, he acted by sending his Son to take the punishment we deserve.

Now I have said before that none of this is easy as I am sure you are aware. So God is there to help. He knows what it is like to be human (after all Jesus lived as a human) and he is willing to help. So turn to him and ask for help. When you are angry try to simply direct a thought at him - “Help me not lose control but act in love and forgive.” It would be good to find other christian people who you trust that you can confide in and talk about these things with. They can pray for you and with you.

But most importantly you need to ask yourself have you experienced the love and forgiveness of God yourself? I have no idea if you are a Christian or if you know of God’s love for you and his overwhelming gift of forgiveness. A christian’s love for others stems from God’s love for us and a christian’s ability to forgive others stems from the fact that we have already been forgiven by God himself.

If you do not know this love and forgivness than this is where you need to start. Open a bible and start reading Mark’s gospel and ask yourself “Who do you think Jesus is?”. You can also look at http://www.christianity.net.au/god to get an overview of what a Christian is. And, of course, you can continue to ask us questions.

Hope this helps

David

 

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it clearly states in the bible that the sabbath is the seventh day of the week which is a saturday and yet someone changed it sunday the first day of the week now who and why did they do this? also why do people celebrate christmas and easter when there is nothing in the bible that says anything about these celebrations i have been born and bred in this life and these questions are starting to arise

Coralie

To answer the question briefly: there are many traditions within Christianity, such as Christmas and Easter, which are man-made, in that the Bible does not say how, when or where (or even if) we should celebrate them. Every tradition must be assessed to see if it is helpful and useful, or whether it goes against Scripture. We have much freedom to keep the helpful and useful traditions, and we must get rid of traditions that are not.

As Christianity is 2000 years old, a number of traditions have been developed by various people in various churches down through the ages. We need to examine and assess every man-made tradition, to see if it is in line with what the bible teaches (even though the bible might not mention the tradition), and make sure that it does not contradict what the bible says. But just because something is a man-made tradition does not necessarily mean that it is wrong, or that we should get rid of it: the bible is silent (or does not say much) on a lot of issues, such as what sort of building to meet in, or what exactly to do in church, and it is only natural that we figure those things out. We have freedom to keep, or even ‘make’ traditions, as long as they are helpful and do not contradict Scripture in any way. And, of course, we can also get rid of traditions that are no longer relevant.

Now to take your question of the Sabbath versus Sunday. Already in the New Testament, the day after the Sabbath (ie. what we call Sunday) was considered to be the ‘first day of the week’: check out Matt. 28:1, and Luke 24:1. 

As for meeting on Sunday, already in the NT we seem to find Christians meeting together as a church on the first day of the week (ie. Sunday). Whilst not a water tight case, it does seem that Acts 20:7, and possibly 1 Cor 16:2 refer to Christians gathering together as a church on the Sunday. But by AD 115, Ignatius, a Bishop, was saying to Christians to meet not on the Sabbath, but on the Sunday (what he call’s the “Lord’s Day” – the day when Jesus rose from the dead).

Christmas, as you know, celebrates the birth of Jesus. Now the Scriptures don’t reveal the birth of Jesus, and does not require any such celebration. By the late 4th century AD, churches were celebrating Christmas, but at different dates depending on what church you went to. December 25th became the date due to it coininciding with the pagan festival Saturnalia and the winter solstice (you might want to Wikipedia those), and so the church of the time offered the people a Christian alternative to the pagan festivals. The church also reinterpreted many pagan symbols and practices in a way acceptable to Christian practice. This has basically stuck with us, and I think people celebrate it because it is a great reminder that Jesus came into the world.

Easter was the commemoration and celebration of Christ’s death and resurrection, and this was picked up by early Christians, so that by the early 300’s AD, there was already a fixed date on which to celebrate it Since that time, many popular (pagan) customs have been added, reflecting pagan spring folklore (eg Easter eggs and bunny). Again, we celebrate it because it is still a helpful reminder of the great events of Jesus crucifixion and resurrection, nothing more.  Because it’s not in the bible, so we don’t have to celebrate it…although many find it helpful and encouraging. 

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My unborn child is suffering from a terminal illness. He is sure to die as a stillborn or shortly after birth. Will he be in heaven after he dies? Do I need to perform any rites to make him a Christian?

Richard

If this question were to come to me in a face-to-face conversation, then my immediate response would be to sit with you in the sorrow at the grief you must be experiencing.  It would be a time for me to listen and provide comfort, before I spoke.  I hope you have a good network of friends and family around you at this time. Be assured of my prayers for you and your family.

In essence you have asked, “if my baby dies before (or shortly after) his birth, will he go to heaven?”  In answer to this, I want to point you to the character and promises of God that will give you great HOPE and PEACE for his future - the same hope and peace we all have who have put our faith in him.

Firstly HOPE.  God is a god abounding in grace and mercy and WANTS people to be saved.  We are his creation and he loves us deeply and despite our rejection of him, he still shows us his grace and mercy. The greatest display of his grace is that he provides us with a fresh start, even though we deserve the complete opposite.  This fresh start is possible because while we were still sinners, Jesus died for us (Romans 5:8).  We receive this fresh start by repenting of our sin, and by following Jesus as our Lord and Saviour. In the case of an adult, we can easily see how this response is achievable AND necessary.

But, what if a person is not physically (or cognitively) able to repent and believe ... such as an unborn baby?  At this point I must say that a ritual will not help at all.  A ritual is powerless to change our eternal state, it is only a symbol. It may ease our pain and sorrow (and in this sense is a good and helpful) but only Jesus can sufficiently deal with our sin.

At this point your son’s life is in the hands of his Creator and because of this we can have PEACE. We know that, like all people, children belong to God because he has created them and loves them. And God has shown us again and again that he will do what is right (Gen 18:25). He is a loving God, a good God, a God who is always fair. And we know that Jesus’ death is sufficient for your son. And so we leave our unborn babies in the hands of a gracious and loving God who will do right. And while it may hurt, there is peace to be found in letting them go, and trusting them to the goodness of God. 

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I’m interested in all religions and would like to know if there is any evidence you can provide as to why your religion is the ‘true’ religion.’ Whilst I am open to discussion I feel it too difficult to take that ‘leap of faith’ so-to-speak and therefore would greatly appreciate any support of why specifically your religion is correct and all the others are incorrect?

Joshua

Hi Joshua,

What a great question and thanks for asking it.

The first thing I would like to do is to make a distinction between Christianity and Religion. To me a “religion” is a set of dogmatic beliefs and practises that are designed to help a person achieve a spiritual goal. A religion is about believing and doing the right thing in order to be “right” with the spiritual universe. (please forgive me if I have been overly generalised here!)

Christianity is about a relationship with God that is achieved by God himself and based on trust (also known as faith). A Christian does not have to do anything in order to right with God because God has done it all. All a Christian does is live a life of trust in the God who has already saved him. In this sense it is not a religion but a relationship - like being married.

At the heart of Christianity is the man Jesus who is God’s Son. He is the one we are called to trust. He is the one we are called to learn from and whose life is an example for us to follow. He is the one who gave up his life so that those who trust him could be forgiven (see the Gospel of John in the bible, chapter 3 and verse 16-17).

Jesus claims to be the only way that we can be right with God. In John 14:6 he says “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life; no one comes to God (and gets into heaven) but by me!” So Jesus actually claims that he is the one in whom you must trust and who teaches the one true faith.

Now anyone can say that. I could get up in Trafalgar Square and say that. I would probably be locked up! It is easy to say but hard to prove. Jesus proves he has the right to say “I am the Way” by rising from the dead. No one else has died and risen again but Jesus. And that is substantial historical proof that he is who he says he is, and that what he says is true.

This is the most important teaching of Christianity, it is the one on which is rises or falls. If Jesus were to be shown to have not risen from the dead then Christianity is useless. I say to my unbelieving friends, if you can prove to me that Jesus did not rise from the dead, then I will no longer be a Christian. After 20 years, I am still waiting for them to come up with a good argument.

So I encourage you to investigate the claims of Jesus, look at the historical evidence for the resurrection. Any book by Josh McDowell would be helpful here or The Christ Files by John Dickson. Read the biography of Jesus written by Luke (in the BIble). Ask yourself who is Jesus and can I trust him? You will see that to believe in Jesus is less of a leap in the dark and more of a welcome relief.

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I recently joined a church in my local area and made the decision to become a Christian after spending time with our Pastor, where we read through and studied the ‘Christianity Explained’ text / course work.  I really enjoyed this process, however, I am now struggling with the constant thoughts of how do I allow God to take over the control of my life.

I am a control-oriented person, and working in finance, so the current global crisis is an everyday pressure that I am managing but feel that I cannot reconcile God’s purpose in this environment.  I know that He is working in me and forcing me to ask these questions of myself, hence my unsettled feelings, however, I feel as though I have not yet made the decision (each day) to relinquish control of my life. 

On paper I am a Christian and outwardly others would probably recognise Christian-like traits in my recently changed behaviours, but in my heart I still struggle with letting go and REALLY BELIEVING that He is looking out for me.  This is a scary and unknown place for me as I am generally very guarded as to who I let into my life, as my wife and 3 kids will recognise.  I know something has to change, but I’m not sure what / how. 

Any words of courage / wisdom or reference material that you could recommend ?

Troy

Hi Troy,

Great news about becoming a Christian. I reckon the struggle to trust God with life can be a big issue, as you’re finding out. But the thing to remember is that our God is a very big God, and has all things under His control. That includes big things like the financial crisis and the little things like how we live our lives. You might have heard the phrase “let go and let God”. Some people think that this is the way we as Christians ought to understand the Christian life - we give up ourselves and let God control it all. However this is very simplistic and problematic, to say the least.

Rom 12:1-2 is helpful at this point. True worship is to give up our lives for God, that is to live for Him alone. God calls us to lie in obedience to him. That doesn’t involve relinquishing control, but rather letting God’s plans and purposes shape the things we do. Our minds aren’t switched off, but rather transformed and renewed by God, and so we become aware of the new way God wants us to live. This takes self control and action.

True faith is not meandering aimlessly and seeing where “God” would have us drift. Instead true faith is seeing the path God wants us to take, with its dangers and hardships and joys and toil, and deciding to follow that path to please our heavenly father. The Bible speaks very highly, not of a lack of control, but of the great worth of self control. (2 Peter 1:6, Gal 5:23)

In the end Christian living is about changing your focus - rather than living for the world, using all your energies to achieve the things YOU want to achieve, you live for God, having your mind and focus changed day by day so that you (more and more) use all your energies to achieve the things HE wants to achieve. As this process of the “renewing of the mind” continues, so what God wants slowly becomes what you want as well. So becoming a Christian means that we no longer use the control we can exert to promote our own agenda, but God’s agenda: praising Him, sharing His gospel and loving both our brother and our neighbour. (Heb. 13:15, 1 Peter 3:15, Mk 12:29-31)

Now that’s not to say its not a struggle. Our lives will always be a struggle to say “no” to our old way of life and its temptations and setting our hearts and minds on the new way of life. This struggle will not end until we are with him in heaven. But God is there working in you according to his plans and purposes (Phil 2:12-13) - so hang in there!

I hope this helps.  Feel free to come back if I’ve missed the mark. 

Ian.

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I have recently started exploring Christianity. While I recognise my sin and want to repent, I feel like there’s something stopping me from making the leap to trusting God. When I try to pray I feel like I’m just talking to myself. Consequently although part of me would like to become a Christian, I don’t feel that I can sincerely ask God to accept me since I wouldn’t fully mean it. Any advice would be appreciated!

Tim

Great news that you want to repent! I think I understand what you’re talking about.

You’re not the first to have doubts about beginning to follow Christ. In fact, Christians can sometimes think exactly these same things: Am I just talking to myself? Do I really believe this? Am I really sorry for my sins?

Thankfully, God is greater than our doubts. The fact that we turn to him at all is only possible by his gracious action in our hearts and minds. Ephesians 2:1-10 gives a fantastic description of God’s work for us, and verse 8 teaches us that even faith is a gift from God.

In the end, we are not saved by the strength of our belief, but by the cross of Christ. We’re not saved by our own certainty about Jesus, but by God’s act of mercy in history to save us and show himself to us.

There’s a story of Jesus from the gospel of Mark that is really relevant here. A boy has an evil spirit that has made him mute for years and throws him into fits. The boy’s desperate father brings him to Jesus, having seen the disciples try and fail to heal him. From Mark 9:21:

And Jesus asked his father, “How long has this been happening to him?”
And he said, “From childhood. And it has often cast him into fire and into water, to destroy him. But if you can do anything, have compassion on us and help us.” And Jesus said to him, “‘If you can’! All things are possible for one who believes.”
Immediately the father of the child cried out and said, “I believe; help my unbelief!” And when Jesus saw that a crowd came running together, he rebuked the unclean spirit, saying to it, “You mute and deaf spirit, I command you, come out of him and never enter him again.” And after crying out and convulsing him terribly, it came out, and the boy was like a corpse, so that most of them said, “He is dead.” But Jesus took him by the hand and lifted him up, and he arose. (Mark 9:21-27)

Isn’t that incredible! The man says, “If you can do anything, have compassion…” I love Jesus’ response, “If you can?! What do you mean, If you can? Trust me!”

And the man wants to believe. He says that great line: “I believe - help my unbelief.” He’s saying that he believes Jesus in some way, but that he’s shaky about it and he needs help to believe more strongly. And Jesus heals his boy, as if bringing him back from the dead.

I don’t think there’s any greater cry of dependence (that is, faith or trust), than what the man says, “I believe - help my unbelief.” He has just enough to ask Jesus to fill him with faith. For the person who wants to repent and become a follower of Jesus, that little stepping off, as unsure as it may be, is the start of great growth into trust of God.

Just before the bit from Ephesians above about the work of God, the apostle Paul talks about praying a prayer for the Ephesians. His prayer is that God will give them greater insight and wisdom to know God better - to trust him better (Ephesians 1:16-21). God will work in Christians to convince them of the truth of the gospel.

In terms of advice, if I were to give you any it would be to go ahead and become a Christian by repenting and telling God you want to serve him, and then throw yourself into the Bible, to get to know God better and grow in your love and trust of him. The gospel of Mark is a great place to start.

No Christian has perfect trust in God, and there are lots of enemies of God in this world seeking to undermine our mustard-seed faith in him. But we don’t need to worry. God has saved us by his grace in Jesus Christ - we all just keep saying to God, “I believe - help my unbelief.”

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I don’t understand why I can’t overcome the bad habit of pornography…. i feel so trapt and unable to escape… I am really ashamed of myself because a part of me wants to view it and another part wants to be rid of it all. I feel like God hates me because I have failed to many times. How can I try to run to him if I feel like he hates me? I just can’t see how he still loves me after I have committed that sin so many times.

Trey

Hi Trey,

What your going through is really tough, and really common. I have some theological advice for you, and some practical advice.

Firstly, on a theological level. The guilt you feel over what you are doing is normal, and its right to feel guilty for sin. However, at the same time you need to keep in mind the message of the gospel - that Jesus Christ has paid completely for all of your sin. Romans 8 begins:

“Therefore there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of th Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but the Spirit.” (Rom 8:1-4)

It’s a long quote, but its worth a close look. There are several things to point out from it:

1) We can never make ourselves righteous, that is to say, we can never be good enough for God. The law - God’s rules for good living - is incapable of making us righteous because we can never live up to it (cf. Gal 3:10-14).
2) Even though the law was ‘weakened’ by sin, God has made us righteous. God has completely paid for your sin in Christ - there is now “no condemnation” if you believe that Jesus has died for your sin, to make you righteous before God (cf. Rom 3:20-26).
3) Now that we are ‘in Christ Jesus’ - that is, now that we have come to believe that he has paid for our sin, God sends his Spirit to help us to live the way he wants - ‘to walk according to the Spirit’ (cf. Rom 6:1-14).

This doesn’t mean that we are going to be perfect. Unfortunately, the Bible’s picture of sin is that we are enslaved to it, and helpless to rescue ourselves (eg. Eph 2:1-3). Even when we become Christians, we are not rid of it completely but are encouraged to fight against it. The truth is that internet pornography is probably something that you are going to have to battle with your whole life long. However, the gospel means that we are not helpless in our struggle (Eph 2:4-10). While ever we live this side of heaven, we strive (imperfectly) to ‘put on Christ’ (Rom 13:14), to ‘walk in the Spirit’.  But, here’s the big BUT… as we strive to ‘put on Christ’, and live good lives, we do so with confidence that even when we screw up, God still accepts us. Even if we screw up “seventy times seven” (Matt 18:21-22), Jesus death is enough to pay for our sin. Satan will always try to make you feel like its not, and make you doubt your salvation, (eg. Zech 3:1, 1 Pet 5:8). But the victory is yours because it is God’s victory and “there is no condemnation”. God will always accept you because of Jesus. You should find comfort in that, and confidence to ‘boldly approach the throne of grace so that you might find mercy in your time of need’ (Heb 4:16).

Secondly, on a practical level. We men always have to watch our own godliness, especially on the internet. There are systems that you can put in place to help you in this. Where I study, at Moore Theological College, we all use an accountability system. We have a program called “Covenant Eyes” (http://www.covenanteyes.com/) which monitors everything your computer downloads and sends a report to a friend (of your choosing) so that your friend can keep you accountable. Find a godly man that you can trust, if you are married then you may ask your wife, and ask that person to pray for you, and check up on you. Obviously this is going to have to be somebody you know well and trust. It can be nerve wracking to ask someone to do this for you, but you would be surprised how much less tempting dodgy sites on the internet might become if you know that someone will ask you about what you were doing.

Hope that helps, Trey.

 

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Look i go to church and stuff and ive heard you cant have sex and i know that but i cant stop having sex with my boyfriend we have both tried really hard because we want to serve the lord but its really hard because we have even got to the extremes of havibg sex in the car… when we have commited not to have sex anymore what can we do?

Janeth

Hi and thanks for your question!

It’s a great question because it’s so practical. It really shows me that you and your boyfriend are serious in wanting to follow God’s way, and that’s the most important thing.

Sex is something that’s very powerful indeed. A speaker once said it’s like super glue – it really glues two people together, and once your relationship has gone to this level of intimacy, (i.e. when you’re “glued” together so much), it’s really hard to let it go.

That’s why God tells us sex is a good thing, but it is good only between two people who are married to each other. Getting married involves two people making a commitment before God to be together for life, never to separate. When you don’t have that level of commitment to each other, however in love or committed you may feel at the moment, things can change and you can still go separate ways. That’s why it doesn’t make sense for two people to be “super-glued” when they are not committed to be together for life.

In this way sex outside of marriage is bad for us and our relationships, it goes against all that God wants in a faithful intimate relationship; it is a sin.

So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature… the acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity … I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”
Galatians 5:16ff

Sexual immorality is very serious. The Bible says it’s better for us to get married than to commit sexual immorality.

But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband … If they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
1 Corinthians 7:2ff

There are many practical ways for couples to themselves from getting too close physically, some examples include:

1. Go out together with friends – you get to know each other in a group setting and see how they relate to other people as well
2. Avoid being together in a private place, e.g. car, room, other quiet places. You can catch public transport instead of driving and you can chat to each other in the middle of a fast food restaurant instead of in your room.
3. Talk to each other about your physical boundaries. The key is not to make the other person burn with passion. Work out what actions make the other person unable to control themselves, and stop that action.

It may mean you need to stop touching each other in certain ways; it may mean you need to stop kissing each other at all! It may sound ridiculous – but what’s more important? Stopping sexual immorality or enjoying these physical sensations? The follow passage helps us to see what is our priority as Christians should be:

Do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature, rather, serve one another in love.
Galatians 5:13

When you do things that lead the other person to sin, you are destroying the other person and not serving them.

It may be that you can’t control yourselves sexually because, as I said before, sex is a powerful thing and it’s hard to stop once you have started. It may mean you need to get married. Yes, sexual immorality really is this serious!

I suggest the best way to work out what to do in your situation is to talk to a church leader that you trust. It is best if you can talk to a sister in Christ, and your boyfriend talk to a trusted brother about this, and discuss your individual situation, how to deal with it in a way that follows God’s will.

I hope this helps.

 

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How much can you love another person? I have someone special to me, not a lover, but someone I’d take any punishment for, I’d stay by the side of forever, who I have wronged in the past but I never intend to again… who I want to show my fullest devotion not only to God but to them as well. I love them to the ends of the earth, to the point where if I had to burn for them, I would. Is there a limit to be placed on how much another person should be loved? Even if it affects my own salvation… I don’t think I want to limit it… they turned me to this path of light in the first place, and done more for me than another living person ever has.

Lulu

Hi!

Thankyou for your deep sharing.

I became a mother a bit more than a year ago, and I think I identify with what you’re saying about loving another person so much that you would do anything for them. I think it is a good thing to love another person selflessly, because, after all, that’s what God did for us—loved us so much that He sacrificed Jesus on the cross. It is good to be thinking for the good of another person so much that you neglect your own privleges.

However God would never ask us to give up our own salvation for another person. Paul wanted to do it but he knew he couldn’t. (Romans 9:3) So that’s not a question of our choice.

Jesus calls us to love Him more than anyone or anything in our lives. Examples include:

Matthew 10:37 “Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.”

Deuteronomy 6:5 “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”

Do you love this person too much? Well, I can think of one test to see if you do.

Who are you willing to follow? If this person asks you to do something that may come between you and God, would you do it? Would you be willing to risk the relationship with this person in order to follow your conscience and God? If you are then you do not love them “too much”. But if you can’t then you are in danger of saying that this person is more important to me than Jesus and that ultimately is the essence of sin and rebellion against God. And no matter how noble and good the reason, such action is hateful to God and puts your salvation at risk. It is better at this point to trust God and follow him. After all God is the one who is in charge of this person’s life. He knows what is best for this person, and doesn’t need our input in their lives to make them whole. God can look after them without our help.

There was a friend who once said that she would pray to God to take away anything that she can’t live without, because she knows that it has become her idol if she can’t live without it. I pray that my love for my daughter would never become so selfish that I can’t live without her. I pray that I can love her selflessly because God loves me, and that my love for her will be part of my love for God, never taking away from it.

I pray the same for your love for those around you as well, that the way you love would be a testimony of God’s love for you!

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The Catholic Church basically says that people should not use contraception, is this a justified teaching?

Ashleigh

Great question, Ashleigh!

The Roman Catholic Church is very clear in its teaching against contraception. But the reason they claim this is not because there is particular passages of the Bible that clearly opposes contraception, but because of a commitment they have to a system of ethics called ‘Natural Law’.

‘Ethics’ is just a fancy way of talking about how you decide something is right or wrong. A Natural Law approach to ethics claims that we can find out what is right and wrong BOTH from revelation (i.e. the Bible) AND by using our minds to look at the world and see how it works. Both should give you the same answer. And both must give you answers that are always valid in every circumstance.

The Roman Catholic Church’s position on contraception isn’t based directly on passages that forbid contraception. It’s an argument based on what they claim the purposes of sex are. They claim that sex has both a ‘unitive’ function (that is, sex unites people together) and a ‘procreative’ function (that is, sex is the way that you make new children). Seeing these two purposes for sex (which are both claims that agree with the Bible) they state that each sexual act must involve both of these purposes. A Natural Law approach to ethics seeks to find things that are always true in every circumstance. So if sex is for uniting people, it should always unite people. If sex is for conceiving children, then it should always be for conceiving children. For the Roman Catholic Church, contraception artificially stops the ‘procreative’ purpose of sex, and so is always wrong.

The question we need to ask is: does the Bible speak about sex in this way?

The Bible portrays sex not just as individual acts, but as a vital part of the relationship between a husband and wife. The problem with the approach of the Roman Catholic Church is that it only considers sex as individual acts in isolation. We need to see sex as occurring within the context of a marriage relationship. The Bible often speaks about sex focusing on the ‘unitive’ side of it and not the ‘procreative’ side of it (e.g. 1 Corinthians 7), so it seems the Roman Catholic position makes very strong claims that the Bible doesn’t really seem to make.

So is contraception allowed by the Bible? The Bible assumes that the proper place to have sex is within the loving security and commitment of a marriage (e.g. Genesis 1:25). Within this relationship, it seems quite reasonable that a couple may choose to limit the ‘procreative’ side of their sexual relationship for a limited period of time so that conception is not part of the purpose of every single sexual encounter. Having said that, children are always seen as a blessing from God - so it would seem out of place for a Christian couple to choose never to be willing to be open to having children at all.

Also, it is important to make a distinction between contraceptive methods that prevent conception from occurring and methods that actually abort a foetus after conception has taken place. The Bible sees life within the womb as valuable and created in the image of God, and so abortive methods are not acceptable. If you would like more information about various forms of contraception, please talk to your GP and ask exactly how they do what they do.

I hope that helps - please feel free to ask any more questions you might have.

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In the bible it says something like God doesn’t like lukewarm Christians more than those who openly say they aren’t Christians. What is a lukewarm Christian, are they really Christians and are they saved?

JD

Hi JD,

There is only one reference in the Bible to a ‘lukewarm’ Christian and that is Revelation 3:15-16 which say; “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold not hot. I wish you were either one of the other! So, because you are lukewarm – neither hot nor cold – I am about to spit you out of my mouth”. These words are written to a church in Laodicea and they certainly sting. That God would prefer a cold Christianity than the sort he finds here would have sent shockwaves in Laodicea. The Christianity that seems to have plagued Laodicea is what we call ‘lukewarm’. So, what is it? And if we are lukewarm are we saved?

Laodicea was a banking centre and a textile town and so was fairly wealthy. The churches crime was that if failed to find in Christ the source of all true wealth, splendour and vision. It is a situation of which we can relate to all too easily today living in Sydney. So, being lukewarm is akin to comfortable Christianity. One in which we think we are rich and prosperous and need nothing but fail to realise that we are wretched, pitiable, poor, blind and naked. It is this type of Christianity that causes Jesus to say that he wants to spit him out of his mouth! And God’s counsel to us is in Rev 3:19, where he says to Laodicea and to us; ‘those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So be zealous and repent’. Lukewarm Christianity is one that has lost its sense of being zealous. Paul actually tells us in Romans something similar, ‘never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervour, serving the Lord’.

And this also answers your second question – even though Laodicea are lukewarm at this time Jesus says that he still loves them that is why he rebukes them and gives them counsel to turn away from their lukewarm lifestyle. If Laodicea has a chance then comfortable Christians also do but they need to listen to the persuasive counsel of God. He is the one who has come to them and he stands and he knocks and he calls to them to listen. For the only cure for lukewarminess is the readmission of the excluded Christ.

Dave

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I’m 20 years old and have reached a point in my life where I no longer want to live in sin. I have sinned in the past by participating in casual sex and binge drinking but I want to change. I find it hard to accept that god may be willing to forgive me for my sins when I can’t forgive myself. Are we suppose to feel guilty about our sins forever? Is this what god wants us to feel? How do we know that he has forgiven us? I want to be a better person I’m just worried too much damage has already been done.

Mary

Hi Mary,

That is a really, really great question.

The great news about Jesus can bring forgiveness to anyone. The blood of Jesus is enough to wipe away even the worst of sins. If you are someone who trusts in Jesus Christ, then there is now no condemnation from God – he has forgiven you (Romans 8:1). The Bible is full of people who have done all sorts of really horrible things (adulterers, prostitutes, murderers, extortionists), but who are accepted by Jesus (e.g. John 4:1-26; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; Luke 23:32-43). Even the apostle Paul (who was one of christianity’s earliest and most ardent supporters) was someone who was responsible for violent persecution of Christians before he encountered Jesus (Acts 8:1-3) - yet Jesus fully forgave him. It doesn’t matter what you have done – Jesus can bring you forgiveness.

This can be something that is very hard to grasp sometimes, especially when you feel weighed down by guilt. But if God has forgiven you, then you have every reason to forgive yourself too. You have been washed clean. So does God want us to feel guilty about our sins forever? The short answer is ‘no’.

Does that mean it’s wrong to feel guilty about our sin? Well… it depends. The Apostle Paul talks about two different kinds of sorrow over sin:

“Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death” (2 Corinthians 7:10).

Feeling sorry about sin is a great thing if it leads to repentance (i.e. turning away from sin). That is ‘godly sorrow’. But feeling sorry for your sins is a bad thing if it doesn’t help you to turn your life away from sin. This can often happen because we don’t really believe that God has forgiven us – so we need to keep reminding ourselves that he has!

It sounds like you want to repent, but you’re worried that God will not accept you. Rest assured: He certainly will! You can find forgiveness no matter what you’ve done. That’s why Jesus died!

Think about it. John wrote “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” God’s love for you is so deep that he did not spare his own son but sent him to die so you could be forgiven. Do you think, if you are wanting to turn back to God, that he would reject you? The answer is a resound NO! Jesus says all of heaven rejoices when even one person turns back to God (Luke 15:1-10)

Repentance is hard work, though… And you will need help. Keep praying that God will forgive you for your sins - not just the sins of the past but as you find yourself sinning each day. Keep asking God to change you to become more like Jesus every day. But you are not alone. When you turn back God in repentance, God himself comes and dwells with you by his Spirit. He is with you every step of the way, helping you to understand the bible, say no to sin, assure you of your salvation. The more and more you walk in his way, the more and more you become convinced of the rightness of that way.

It would be great to meet up with another Christian that you trust that you can be open and honest about your struggles with sin (past and present) – someone who will challenge you to remove sin from your life and encourage you to keep remembering we need to keep relying on Jesus every day. The Bible teaches us that we should confess our sins to others so that we can pray for each other and find healing (James 5:16).

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Ok, I would say the largest objection I have to Christianity would be that an all loving God and the nature of Jesus\’ sacrifice does not include everyone. I am not a Universalist, however more along the lines of inclusivism. Now I know a majority of Christians would not accept this concept but what are some scripture that would prove against this ideal, however there, at the same time are a number of scriptures that support inclusivism. So with that said whose interpretation is correct? Thank you

Chris

Hi Chris,

What an intriguing question!

As much as we would like everyone to be saved the truth of the matter is that not everyone will. However that is not the same as saying that Jesus’ death is not for everyone. Jesus death is sufficient and able to save the whole world but not everyone wants it. Lt me explain.

Christianity is about relationship with God or more accurately about a reconciled relationship with God. It presuposes that our relationship with God is fractured. This is what our sin does. It is rebellion against God. This may be an active attitude of disobedience or more likely a passive attitude of not caring about God. Either way God takes it seriously and our relationship with him is fractured - he is angry with us and will hold us to account for our rebellious attitude.

However because of his love for us Jesus died in our place and took the rap instead of us. As such he is willing and able to offer anyone forgiveness and reconciliation. Through him we can be reconciled with God. This offer is universal and available to all people.

Have a look at 2 Corinthians 5:16ff. Here Jesus’ death and resurrection is described as an act of reconciliation which is a relational term - “God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting men’s sins against them”. (2 Cor 5:19). Moreover it was a universal act for all people - the whole world.  Rom 5:1-11 talks about Jesus death as being an act of love for us sinners so that we might be reconciled to him. Likewise in John 3:16 God gives his son that whoever believes in him shall have eternal life. That is this eternal life is available to everyone who believes in Jesus.

The thing to remember is that while this offer may be universal, not everyone is willing to accept it. God expects (reasonably I think) that those who accept his offer of reconciliation will to turn away from rebellion and live with Him as their God. That having seen the folly of their rebellion and sought God’s forgiveness, they would seek to be obedient to him and not rebel. Thus while the offer is universal, it comes with responsibility and not everyone wants this.

Have a look again at John 3:16-21. While God’s offer of salvation is for everyone, not everyone is willing to accept it. There are those who love to live in the darkness and who will not step into the light. But whoever is willing to step out of darkness and into the light and live that way will be saved. Also look at John 3:36. Those who believe Jesus and accept him will be saved but those who reject him will remain under God’s judgement. After all why should God forgive those who want to continue to rebel against him?

I hope this helps you. If you do want to talk further please reply with other questions.

cheers
David

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i have problems with my old church…(girl gossiping stuff) so i started attending a new church and want to get to know this church and youth group. so i was wondering is it okay to attend more than one church?

sarah

Hi Sarah,

The short answer is no there is no problem with attending more than one church.

However there is another more important question and that is “Should I attend more than one church”? I say this because being a member of a church is an important thing - its important for your wellbeing as a Christian as well as others.

You see when you become a Christian, you become a member of God’s family which meets each week in various places all over the world. You go to church to hear from God’s word, to respond to it in prayer and song and to encourage other members who are there. As a church member you go in order to be encouraged as a Christian. But as a member of the family you go in order to encourage other members to be Christian. So you go not only to get something out of it but also to give to others.

Churches can be difficult places, after all they are full of sinful people like you and me. But hopefully they are also all trying to be godly as well. In your church it sounds like there is a fair bit of ungodliness happening and maybe you have been the target of some of it. One way to handle this is to move churches and sometimes this is quite appropriate. You have done nothing wrong by going to another church.

But sometimes the best way to handle this is to stay and try to show those who are sinning that they ARE sinning and help them to repent and change. This is harder to do but also may be much more worthwhile in the end. I cannot tell you what to do because I do not know the circumstances. However I would encourage you to think about staying and trying to work through the issue.

About going to more than one church - the question comes down to how many people can you help and encourage to be christian? For most people it is difficult to be involved in more than one so I would encourage you to choose one or the other. But if you choose to go to both,  you are not doing wrong.

cheers
David

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I would be interested in hearing your answer to a question of mine.
Say for argument sake that i will live my life out and die as an atheist. i would be judged a sinner and sent to hell for eternity.
Now, God is all knowing. He knew before i even existed that i would choose to be an atheist. He knew he would end up sending me to hell. Even if i had the opportunity to accept jesus, he KNEW i wouldn’t, because he is ALL KNOWING. So then why would he allow me to come into creation knowing that i would not be saved, and sent to hell?
I hope to hear a response from you soon, and maybe we can talk some more.

Joe

Thanks for the question.  God is indeed all knowing and nothing happens out of his control and knowledge.  So when people sin against him, he is not caught by surprise and needs to come up with a rescue plan to deal with the mess.  He has always known what he is doing in saving people.  Out of his goodness and kindness, he chooses to save mankind who sins terribly by rebelling against him.  It is really something that God does that mankind does not deserve.  Out of his mercy, God chooses to save some from the eternal punishment they rightly deserve.  By sending Jesus to die in their place, God gives forgiveness to them. 

Therefore, because of our sins, our default position in front of God is his judgment and punishment.  This is what we deserve.  But God gives us something that we do not deserve, that is his love shown through his forgiveness in Jesus.  That’s why the Bible does not speak of God creating people that he does not save.  Rather, the Bible speaks of God choosing some that he saves.  It is God’s ultimate goodness and kindness shown to us.  So the question for us is whether we have accepted such kindness by trusting God’s son Jesus Christ. 

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Hi
I really like your website.  I have often wondered on our relationships in Heaven - for example will we still have “sexual feelings”, what happens if you have married again and then you meet up with your first wife or husband in Heaven?  What is your view on where we will all be at with stuff like that?

Claire

Hi Claire,

It’s funny, Jesus got asked almost exactly this question once. Check out Mark 12:18-27. (You can find a bible online at www.biblegateway.com if you don’t have one handy.)

Some people who didn’t believe in an afterlife came to Jesus and proposed a scenario where a woman ends up getting married to 7 different guys because all of her husbands die. (Unluckiest woman ever!) And they ask, so who’s wife will she be in the resurrection? And Jesus tells them that in the resurrection people will “neither marry nor be given in marriage, but are like the angels in heaven.”

So, according to Jesus, people won’t be married in heaven. That doesn’t really answer your question about relationships more broadly though. But one of the things about marriage, and one of the reasons that there won’t be marriage anymore, is that it is supposed to show people what heaven will be like anyway. I know that a lot of marriages aren’t any good, but that’s not how it was intended to be. The relationship between and husband and wife are to reflect the same relationship between Christ and his church. Marriages are supposed to be SO good that they show you how close God is to us, and what it is like to be in a relationship with him. Check out Ephesians 5:25-32.

In the end, people were created to have relationships - with God and with each other. They are part of God’s plan for this world, and they will stay part of God’s plan for the next world too. Some things will change, like marriage. But in its place the Bible leads us to expect a deep, satisfying relationship with everyone.

The Bible’s picture of the resurrection is one of true happiness:

“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” (Revelation 21:4)

As well as happiness, it shows us true community:

“After this I looked, and behold, a great multitude that no one could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes, with palm branches in their hands…” (Revelation 7:9)

I’m afraid that the Bible doesn’t get much more specific than that. We don’t really know the details of how we will relate in heaven, or what it will be like specifically. But we know that it will be a good community that works the way communities now are meant to work but don’t. God is fixing this broken world - including our relationships. It all starts by fixing our relationship to God, which Jesus does for us on the cross. Then once he puts that right he fixes our relationships with each other as well.

My own personal feeling about this is that we will not forget the close relationships we had here on earth. They will still be there but even better - we won’t hurt or disappoint each other any more. However all the relationships we have in heaven will be like that - close, loving and fulfilling. On a more humerous side I see heaven as the place where I will have all the time in teh world to catch up with everyone and the memory to cope with it.

Hope that helps

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what is the difference between being a Catholic and being a Christian?

Stella

Hi Stella,

The difficulty with answering this question is that the Catholic church is such a big organisation that you will find people and churches within it who believe all sorts of different things. So in saying this is what the catholic church believes, I am actually making a generalisation for which there will be exceptions. When talking about this with a Catholic it is always best to ask them what they believe rather than assume they believe what the catholic church believes. Given that, I can make comments about the official stance of the Catholic church and that is what this answer is based on.

Basically, the difference boils down to how Catholicism and Christianity answer this question – ‘How can people have a relationship with God?’  The Bible says we’ve all put ourselves in charge of our own lives when really God should be in charge.  That’s rebellion, or sin, and we all deserve to be punished for it.  But how can the relationship be fixed so that instead of being punished we can have a good relationship with our creator?

The Catholic church says there are two things you need.  Firstly, you need the Catholic church.  They would say that by being a part of their church and doing what it requires you’ll be changed enough to be acceptable to God.  The other thing you need is you.  You need to do enough good things to be acceptable to God.  By being part of the church and doing lots of good things you can earn enough good merit for God to be happy with you.

The Bible says something completely different.  The Bible says we’re dead in sin (Ephesians 2 verse 1).  Dead people can’t help themselves, can they?  We’re so stuck in rebellion against God that there’s nothing we can do to save ourselves.  We’re guilty rebels and we deserve a rebels death.  But the Bible also says that God loves us so much that he wanted to rescue us.  He sent his own son, Jesus, to help us.  Jesus never rebelled, so he didn’t deserve punishment.  But he chose to die in our place, instead of us.  It was a swap.  He died so we can go free.  The Bible says ‘For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God’ (1 Peter 3 verse 18).  Then God raised Jesus to life as the king of the world.  Now, instead of trying to work our way into God’s good books (which we can’t), we simply have to trust the king he sent to fix the problem.  We ask God for free forgiveness and we trust that Jesus’ death on our behalf worked.  We also need to submit to Jesus as king and do the good stuff he wants us to do.  This is a response to what he’s done for us, not an attempt to earn God’s favour.

If God could find any way of dealing with our sin that was still just and fair, other than letting his Son die, he would have done it.  But Jesus is the only way to be forgiven and have a relationship with God.  Will you trust God’s good king?

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I have been Christian for about a year and had a question about prayer answered from Chrisitanity.net once before - it was very helpful so thanks!

I now have another question that i was hoping you could help me with. Unfortunately i don’t really know how to phrase it so please bare with me!

It seems that the majority of Christians focus their spiritual efforts on trying to avoid various sins.  It seems that rules are established to try and steer clear of things which they think will make them ‘stumble’.  However it says many times in the bible that (essentially) once we become Christian we are free from rules and that we are saved ONLY by our faith in Christ.  That brings me to the other type of Christian (myself included).  I think for me, if i was to have any type of issue with various sins then i would have a look at addressing my relationship with God because if that is solid then nothing could make you fall - ‘if God be for us, who can be against us’...
Sorry if this seems trite but for sure i feel that most Christians i have met (close to all in fact) propose that the solution to internal struggles is to censor out anything ‘worldly’ from your life.  However, i dont think that that is at the heart of the message that is being given in the bible.  I think we are being told that our faith in Christ (and indeed our relationship with God) is what will make us right with God - and this is manifest as it becomes the driving force behind all of our actions and behaviour.  If we love God then we will become influenced by Him.  If we love the world then we will be influenced by it…
Sorry for the long question but in conclusion i will say that i think censorship is vital for society on the whole - but surely it shouldn’t be our goal as Christians to avoid things that make us sin.  On the contrary, shouldn’t it be our primary goal to be close enough to God so that the darkness within us will is taken away?  Isn’t this why Jesus died?  To reconcile our relationship with God?
Its my opinion that you are not experiencing the best of Gods relationship if once sell-imposed worldly-focussed rules are taken away, you fall back into your wicked ways…
Indeed, ‘you need to get in the water to learn how to swim’.
Sincerely, thank you a lot for your time - and sorry if i haven’t explained my queiries very well!
Mark

Mark

Hi there Mark,

It’s great that you are into asking questions. I can see lots of different (but related) aspects in this question. I suspect, fundamentally, these all piece together when we understand what God has saved us from, what he has saved us for, and how this works out in day to day life. It is helpful to grasp what ‘freedom’ looks like from God’s perspective.

Back in Genesis, even before the fall, God included in his creation the concept of law. Adam and Eve could eat from any tree but one (Gen 2:16, 3:3). This one tree demonstrates the relationship between obedience and life. Since people chose to rebel against God (Gen 3), the whole of creation has been subject to the consequences of this choice- the world is broken and so are we. This fallen world, along with its fallen people, is enslaved to sin and death (Rom 6:16). Our sinfulness (or worldliness) is basically a display of our desire to live our lives our way rather than God’s way in accordance with his perfect wisdom.

Since the fall, God has been at work in his creation to ultimately put things right. According to the perfection of his character, he does this with both justice and mercy. Back in the Old Testament God gave his chosen people ‘rules’ to live by- the law. This law was made up of moral laws (e.g. the ‘ten commandments’) and ritualistic laws. Nonetheless, this law was not so that God’s people could be saved. He had already saved them in the exodus from Egypt. It was the way for God’s people to live as his people under his blessing. It separated God’s people from the outlying nations, demonstrated the heights of God’s standard and also showed people how impossible it is to live up to God’s standard in our fallen state. Throughout the Old Testament we can constantly see God’s warnings against the ungodliness of his people, the consequences of their rebellion, but also the promises of mercy to those who are faithful to him - remembering that faithfulness (righteousness) is being reliant on God, not being sinless. We must still remember that God takes sin seriously. It is consistent with his holy character. His wrath is his righteous reaction to sin, which he cannot be indifferent to or complacent about.

The ultimate display of God’s love, justice and mercy is in Jesus, God’s dearly beloved son, on the cross. Jesus’ death is the sacrifice that pays for all the sins of the world (1John 2:2). He didn’t come to abolish the law or the prophets, but came to fulfill them (Matt 5:17). The concept of right and wrong still applies, God still has moral standards, but the ritualistic laws have been covered by Christ’s sacrifice. We now belong to a new ‘covenant’. Christ’s death and resurrection saves us from slavery to sin and death. We have been given freedom (Gal 5:1) which is the same as entering into ‘slavery’ to righteousness (Rom 6:18). When we trust in Christ’s death to pay for our sins, in doing so, we are showing our faith in God, relying on him to do what we are incapable of doing for ourselves. What we are saved for is to be in relationship with God. In accord with God’s perfection, we cannot do that in our fallen state, so again the solution is Jesus. We are counted as being at peace with God because of the blood of Jesus (Col 1:20).

Though our sins are paid for and we are in relationship with God because of what Jesus has done, we are still living in a fallen world. We are not released from the effects of the fall, either around us or from within us, until Christ returns. During this time of waiting we are called on to

‘work out our salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure. Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life’
Phil 2:12-16

In Romans (chapters 6 and 7), Paul writes of the incompatibility of sin in our lives now that we are members of God’s family, dead to sin, and under grace. However, in Romans 7:21-24, he laments the reality of his mind (which is for God) at war with his body (which is still of the world). We are the same. We need to put off our old selves and put on our new selves (Eph 4:22-24). We are called on to present our bodies as living sacrifices, holy and acceptable to God, which is our spiritual worship. To not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of our minds, that by testing we may be able to discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect (Rom 12:1-2). This is a day-by-day life-long process. In our love for God and thankfulness for his mercy shown us in Christ, we will be constantly at war with God’s enemies- sin, the ‘world’ and the devil. To be ready for this battle we are to

“be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.”
Eph 6:10-13

In Ephesians 6:14-20 Paul covers the armors of truth, righteousness, readiness, faith, salvation, God’s word, prayer, alertness and perseverance. Throughout the gospels and letters of the New Testament there are also the more concrete instructions on what godly living looks like.

We have to be careful not to underestimate our capacity for sin, for the spirit may indeed be willing, but the flesh is weak (Matt 26:41). We need to be making wise decisions in how we live our lives and constantly be asking ourselves are these thoughts/words/actions consistent with loving God and our neighbour (Mark 12:30-31). As Paul demonstrates in Rom 7:21-24 (above) and, even more dramatically, as King David, who was a man after God’s own heart (1 Sam 13:14), demonstrates with his adultery and murder, we will be more inclined to choose sin over godliness if left to ourselves. We will have an ongoing need to turn back to Christ in repentance because we will always be sinning.

It is an encouragement to know that “If God is for us, who can be against us” (Rom 8:31), but we need to understand this in the context of our destiny being with God and our salvation being secure- it doesn’t imply that we will henceforth live a sinless life or that we can be indifferent or complacent with regard to our sin. As we read God’s word in the Bible and grow in our understanding of God and ourselves, and learn what is pleasing to God, it will be more likely that we become more aware of how sinful we are. The upside of this, though, is that we also become more aware of and more grateful for the love, grace and mercy God has shown us in Christ. As the Holy Spirit works in us and we mature, the things that are not in accord with God’s will for our life will less appeal to us, but we cannot ever assume that we will be immune to temptation and sin until Christ returns. Then there will be a new heaven and a new earth, God will dwell with man, and we will be his people, and God himself will be with us as our God. He will wipe away every tear from our eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning nor crying nor pain anymore, for these former things will have passed away (Rev 21:1-4). We will see his face, and his name will be written on our foreheads. And night will be no more (Rev 22:4-5). This is when we will cease to struggle against sin. This is completed freedom according to God’s design.

Having said all this, I agree that we cannot become hermits and hide away in our ivory towers. We are in the world, but our contact with the world is not to expose ourselves to sin and temptation hoping we can withstand it, but in order to win others to Christ. If there is a particular area of weakness then we would do better to serve Christ elsewhere.

I hope in having written all this that serving God doesn’t look too daunting! We must remember that the Holy Spirit is working in us and that our salvation is secure. Christ tells us to “Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” (Matt 11:29-30). The reward for persevering in our obedience to God is eternal blessing.

Does this shed light on the different aspects of your question? I really hope and pray that this is useful to you and that you will continue to persevere in your desire to live for God and grow closer to him.

Leigh

 

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How does the Bible and hence God look at “feelings” in a relationship? Is there such a thing as being “in love” or is that more of wordly term? If you have thoughts of doubt in a relationship does that mean you should leave? Is it normal to have doubts about why you’re going out with a person? What should Christians look for in a relationship? Do you have to be “in love” or will love do?

Masmal

Dear Masmal, thank you for your question.

Feelings are a very important part of life. We all have emotions and the Bible speaks a lot about things such as love and joy. Jesus showed emotions - weeping when he heard his friend Lazarus had died (John 11), being agry at the way the temple was being used (Mark 11), showing compassion (Mark 8). So the Bible views emotions positively and not as something to be ignored. In fact a book in the Bible (Song of Songs) is almost entirely given to the feeling of being ‘in love’.

However, emotions should not be the primary thing that drives us, now should they be the means by which we determine the rightness of a decision because they too are capable of leading us to sin. It is the Bible that we must trust and obey, not our feelings. If we doubt God’s love for us, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love us. So too in relationships. If people are married and you start having thoughts of doubt then the Bible commands us to remain married. If you aren’t married, then there is more freedom, however it doesn’t mean that at the first hint of doubt you should leave a relationship that you are in.

It is normal to have doubts from time-to-time. The thing to do is analyse why you have doubts. There may be legitimate reasons or they may turn out to have no basis in reality. It would be good to talk with a Christian you trust as to whether the doubts you might be having are legitimate. As to what Christians should look for in a relationship, the Bible says more about the character of people than the ins-and-outs of a relationship. So Christians should be looking for people who are growing as Christians, people they can encourage and who will encourage them. That will mean they are submitting to God and saying ‘no’ to sin. 

As to being ‘in love’ or just ‘love’, I don’t think there is much of a difference, except to say that what the world often means by ‘in love’ is infatuation and lust whereas the Bible speaks of love as selfless active care and concern for another’s wellbeing - ‘this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins’. 1 John 4:10. In other words, love is more about sacrifice and service than a warm feeling.

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Am I doing enough to be called a Christian? I don’t go to Church on Sundays, but I go to Youth group, bible study and the school Christian group at lunchtimes.  Also, I haven’t been Christened or Baptised, so would I be accepted into eternal life with God, because I went to a Christening and the pastor said that christening was the only way to get into heaven. I believe that God sent Jesus to save us and that He would forgive my sins.

Elle

Hi Elle

Thanks for your question. I am sorry that you’re feeling so anxious about this – but the good news is you don’t need to be.

As you seem to already understand, the great news of Jesus is that we have been forgiven of our sins and reconciled to God because Jesus died in our place. The Apostle Peter puts it this way “For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God.” [1 Peter 3:18]. Similarly, Jesus famously said “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” [John 3:16]

So the great comfort and assurance Christians have is that the forgiveness of sins and the promise of eternal life has already been paid for by Jesus death on the cross on our behalf. There is NOTHING we can do to earn our way to be friends with God. Christians call this ‘grace’. That is, God has been generous to us by graciously forgiving us, even though we do nothing to deserve it.

So it doesn’t matter how much we do, God has done it ALL for us in Jesus. It’s interesting that at one point the disciples ask Jesus “What must we DO to do the works God requires?” Jesus response was “The work of God is this: to believe in the one he has sent.” [John 6:28-29]. The only thing we can do is to accept God’s offer of forgiveness of sin and the gift of eternal life by putting our trust in Jesus.

So if you believe that Jesus is your Lord and Saviour then you can be 100% guaranteed you have done enough to be a Christian. Of course, following Jesus as Lord means submitting our whole life to him, turning away from ungodly living etc. To help us do that we are encouraged to meet with other Christians so we can be learn more about God, be encouraged in our walk with him etc.

With regard to baptism, I am afraid the person you heard say baptism ‘was the only way to get into heaven’ is mistaken. Water baptism is a good thing for Christians to do - as it is a visual sign of what happens when we are ‘baptised with the Holy Spirit’ [Mark 1:7-8; John 3:5]. However, it is not a condition of eternal life and there are instances in the New Testament where believers weren’t baptised [Luke 23:39-43].

So let me encourage you to rejoice in the assurance of your salvation as you continue to follow our Lord & Saviour – Jesus.

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hi a Christian and i find it a regular struggle against lust and im just wondering if there’s any encouraging verses anyone could give me   I also find it hard to distinguish between what is lust and what isn’t for example is it sinful lust to think about having sex with cartoon characters or look at hetai also is it lustful to image your friend(she’s a girl) naked but not imagine having sex with her thanks

Tim

Dear Tim,

Thanks for your question.  The first thing to say is that you’re not alone in your struggle with lust.  This is an area that pretty much every guy (and most girls, but in different ways) finds very difficult.  Unfortunately the nature of Christian living is that we will always struggle with sin and will stumble. Its part of recognising our own weaknesses and turning to God for help. Ultimately He is there to help and we will never be in a situation that we cannot overcome (1 Cor 10:13). As a result, it’s actually helpful if guys talk to each other about their struggles and are accountable to each other - particularly in this area.  Sin thrives in secrecy! 

A verse that is helpful in terms of encouragment is Philippians 4:8 “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things.”  This verse, while probably not stictly about lust, speaks about fixing our mind on things that are pure.  So this would be a good verse to memorise and think about regularly when tempted with lust.

Another verse that is helpful to ponder and practise is 2 Peter 1:5ff “For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.” If you concentrate on this list of positive attributes - meditating on them and working out how to implement them - then you will be focused on godliness and not sinfulness.

Regarding what is and isn’t lust, it’s not lust to notice an attractive girl.  It is lust if you dwell on that thought and take it further in your mind.  This distinction is helpful, because it is impossible not to notice attractive people (unless you walk around with a bucket on your head :-).  This allows you to thank God for the beautiful and amazing ways God has made people in his creation without feeling guilty about noticing attractive girls. 

So I think it is wrong to imagine having sex, even with cartoon characters, and imagining people naked, as this isn’t just noticing but using people for your own satisfaction.  Also, it is not filling your mind with what is true, noble, right, pure etc. 

I hope this helps.  Please feel free to ask more questions if you would like more information.

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Why do we need the holy spirit

Elizabeth

Hi Elizabeth,

What a great question!

The bible presents the role of the Holy Spirit as a continuation of the work of God the Father and Jesus, the Son in the lives of the believer. As such He is an essential companion of every Christian and is the guarantee and means by which we persevere to the point of reaching heaven. Let me explain.

When God rescued Israel from Egypt he did so so they would become his people and he would become their God (Exodus 6:6-8). This was fulfilled at Mt Sinai when God met with his people and gave them the law. They camped around Mt Sinai (Exodus 19ff) and God dwelt with them, teaching them about how they were to live as his people. This concept of God dwelling with his people is a crucial aspect and in many ways this meeting can be seen as the first “church” of the bible. God continued to dwell with his people first in the tabernacle (read the rest of Exodus especially Ex 40:34-38) and then in the temple (1 Kings 8:10-11). God dwelling with his people was always a part of God’s plan. Indeed God’s greatest act of judgment was to withdraw from his people when their sin became so great (Ezekiel 10) and he sent them away into Babylon.

When we come to the New Testament, John describes Jesus in a very evocative way. In John 1 Jesus is described as God’s Word who is God and who became man and dwelt with us. Here John sees God coming to dwell with his people again. Jesus did all that God had done at Mt Sinai - telling people about God and about how they were to live as his people. He gathered around him his disciples who became the first “christians”. On the eve of his death, he gathered with them and spoke to them about his departure (John 13-16). As you can imagine they were grief stricken. Jesus promised them another companion (or counselor) to take his place and who would be with them forever - the Holy Spirit (John 14:15-31). The Spirit will dwell with (in) them (vs 17-18),  and teach them and remind them of Jesus teaching (vs 26).

This is, of course, what happened at Pentecost (Acts 2) with astonishing results. The disciples were turned from scared people cowering in a room for fear of the Jews into the people who courageously proclaim the news of Jesus despite all that happens to them. The Spirit in them enabled them. It is by the Holy Spirit that God (the Father and the Son) dwell with us, his people, and continue to teach us and help us to stay true to him. That is why we need to Holy Spirit.

As such the role of the Spirit is multi-faceted.

Using the bible, the Spirit teaches and convicts us of the truth and assures us that they are saved (1Jn 3:24, 2Cor 1:22, Eph 1:13; 4:30)

It is the Spirit in our lives that unites us to Christ in his death and resurrection (Rom 6:1-11, Gal 2:20). Being ‘in Christ’ by the Spirit secures our completeness (Col 2:9-10). Being ‘in Christ’ by the Spirit unites us with others (1 Cor 12:12-13, Eph 4:4-6)

He empowers us to do what is right, live in faith and do good works (Ro 7:18, Eph 2:4-10). It is always God’s work in us that means that we are saved in Christ and living new lives for him. It is the Spirit that makes Christians aware of their sin and empowers them to turn away in repentance.

It is the Spirit who distinguishes us from unbelievers (Eph 2:12, 1 Cor 15:21ff) and empowers us for mission in the world (Acts 2:1).

The Spirit is an essential part of the Christian life, the Spirit is how God works in his people until the second coming of Christ. The Spirit helps Christians to understand the word of God and live it out in their lives today. 

There is much more that can be said but I hope this paints an amazing picture of what we have been given in the Holy Spirit and encourages you to read and find out more.

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It is said that Jesus is God’s son, yet it is also said that Jesus is God. How can one being be both the father and son of iself. And how did God have a human son, or a son that could be seen by humans and interact with humans.

anon

Hi friend,

This is a really tricky question, isn’t it! Many Christians have puzzled over this for many years, so it is pretty normal to struggle to understand how the relationship between God and Jesus works. I’m going to try to handle your questions in reverse order if that’s ok.

So the Bible tells us that Jesus isn’t ‘God’s human son’, rather, that Jesus, who is co-eternal with God (that means that like God, he existed forever) became human. Jesus was like God - eternal and perfect - but he became human so that he could enter into our world and die for humans. The Bible treats this as something to marvel at: ... Jesus Christ ‘though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.’ (Philippians 2:6-8) The actual ‘mechanics’ of how God had a human son are not explained to us, but we are left in no doubt that Mary’s conception and pregnancy are miraculous - you could read chapter 1 of the gospel of Luke to see the angel tell Mary that she will fall pregnant. The gospel of John, which is written in very symbolic language at the beginning, speaks about ‘the word becoming flesh’. ‘The word’ is Jesus - who was with God in the beginning - and he became flesh - this is what ‘incarnate’ means - to be made flesh. This makes it clear that Jesus is the eternal God becoming human. So in answer to your second question, it isn’t so much that God had a human son, but that God’s son became human for our sake.

So, to look at the first part of your question, what does it mean for God to have a son? Well, actually, when we say ‘God’ we could almost mean three people - God the Father, God the Son, or God the Holy Spirit. These three are called ‘the trinity’ and each one is called a ‘person’ of the trinity. It is quite hard to understand how these three work together. Some people find it easier to understand with an analogy - so, for example, God is like water - ice, water and steam are all water but they are all different. The analogy fails at various points but that might be a way to start to get your head around it. So a few things about the trinity that we should keep in mind:

* There is only one God - so even as we talk about the three persons of the trinity we are talking about one God. All three persons of the trinity are God. If you want to look at some verses, you could look at Deuteronomy 6:4, Galatians 1:1, John 1:1-18, and Matthew 28:19.

* There is relationship in the trinity - the Son (Jesus) is obedient to the Father (Luke 22:42); the Holy Spirit is sent by the Father and the Son (John 16:15ff).

So the three persons of the trinity are the same God, but they are each distinct. They have different roles, but each action any member of the trinity might do is God’s action, regardless of who did it.
* We see this distinction / unity when Jesus identifies himself with the Father, saying that he and the Father ‘are one’ (John 10:38, 17:11,21), and that he is in the Father and vice versa (John 14:11). Jesus does not say that he IS the Father, or that he and the Father are the SAME, but that they are ONE. So they are distinct, yet unified. 
* Because Jesus and the Father are both one and distinct, we can say that God ‘sent his son into the world’ - (John 3:16), and also that Jesus came into the world (1 Tim 1:15) - we are speaking about essentially the same action on the part of God, but on the one hand, God the Father sends, on the other, God the Son comes.
*We also see the distinction / unity at work when Jesus speaks about sending the Holy Spirit in John 16 - he describes this as both he and the Father coming (see John 16:23).  So the three persons of the trinity are distinct, but they are all God - they all share the same motivations and objectives. They are all co-eternal, they are all perfect.

God is Father, Son, and Holy Spirit - one God, existing in perfect relationship within himself. This is how God can be both Father and Son - because he just is! It’s a bit unsatisfying - to not wrap our heads around it more - but if we want to have a right idea of who God is and what he is like, it’s necessary to hold these strands together.

I hope this goes some way to answering your question. A really helpful thing to do would be to read John 14-16, where Jesus explains some of this himself. In fact, why not read John from the beginning to get the picture of the whole gospel and how it builds together our picture of the relationship of the Son to the Father, especially as the Son came to earth as a man to reveal the Father to us. These are hard things to understand but well worth the mental effort!

I wish you well in your efforts to understand these great things!

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Could you please explain, as simply as possible, the Doctrine of predestination? Which teachings of the Bible is it based on? What are the arguments against this doctrine, and where is their basis in Scripture?

Kathryn

Hi Kathryn,

Predestination is about God being in control of all that happens through history, including his choice of saving some people for himself, while allowing others to go their own way along the path of sin. It is a concept tightly linked to God’s ‘sovereignty’, which is a word used to describe the complete and intimate control God has over his creation.

There are many examples in the bible describing God’s sovereignty, but particular examples related to predestination include Ephesians 1:4-6, 1:11-12 and Matthew 22:14. There are no sound biblical arguments against predestination.

Where the trouble lies is that standing side-by-side with the truth of God’s sovereignty and predestination is the truth of God’s relational nature, human choice and individual responsibility. Examples in the bible include 2Timothy 2:4, Matthew 7:7-8, John 3:18, Romans 1:20 and Romans 2:6-8. This is what many people attribute as our “free choice”.

Somehow in and amongst God’s sovereignty, we are not subject to determinism where we have no ability to make choices (we are not puppets); but somehow in and amongst our ability to make choices, God is not prevented from continuing in his plans for his creation. God may change his mind because of the repentance of people, but still remain completely sovereign.

These two truths appear contradictory to us and we find it difficult, if not impossible, to harmonize them. It’s helpful to realize that while God’s revelation of his character (good, perfect, loving, merciful, just, etc.) is reasonably easy to understand, his ‘being’ is far more difficult to comprehend. That is knowing God is one thing but completely understanding him is far more difficult (that is impossible). We need to learn to be humble and acknowledge that God is greater than we like to imagine. There will be things about God that we don’t understand but this doesn’t mean we are asked to give up all capacity for reason.

This type of difficulty can also be seen in science and psychology. Consider the question of whether we are the product of a bunch of chemical reactions, genetic predispositions and environmental influences, or whether we are free thinking agents who make choices about our lives. Our experience shows us that we are both, as contradictory as they seem. So it is with predestination and human choice and responsibility.

There are two books, available in Christian book stores, you might find helpful and more thorough than is possible to be here. In chapter 11 of Don Carson’s book, ‘How Long, O Lord’, he discusses the combined truths of God’s sovereignty and human responsibility as ‘compatibilism’. He works through many Bible passages and draws out where the tensions lie and where it is reasonable to allow for mystery. In chapter 2 of J.I. Packer’s book, ‘Evangelism and the Sovereignty of God’, he likewise discusses these truths and how they seem to be in tension for us and yet how they can work together.

I hope you find this helpful.
Leigh

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Statement…. “those that accept Jesus as their saviour shall be saved”
I have heard that people who know of Jesus, but reject that he is God due to their short exposure of the idea shall be damned. eg Natives of an outpost spot in the World.  Or what about them if they haven’t ever heard the word Jesus?

Adele

Dear Adele,

That’s an important question. Let’s cover some important foundations before I answer the question.

The Bible does say every person has ignored God and every person has chosen to put themselves above God. This means, putting their thoughts, their ideas, their values and their systems above God’s. Every person has chosen to create their own god that they wish to follow and serve, whilst denying the true living God. The Bible calls this selfish infatuation with ourselves “sin” and before God we are “unrighteous” - that is our relationship with him has been fractured, we are not “right” with him.

“There is no one righteous, not even one;  there is no one who understands, no one who seeks God. All have turned away, they have together become worthless; there is no one who does good, not even one.”
Romans 3:10-12

If God were to leave us to ourselves our future would remain helpless and hopeless.

But God, in his mercy sends us Jesus to do what we cannot do. His selfless act of love exchanges his position with ours to rescue us from our own destruction and doom we brought upon ourselves. As you implied, those who hear, and trust and believe in Jesus will be saved.

Unfortunately many times Jesus followers fail to honour and obey Jesus to tell other people from other cultures the liberating power and freedom Jesus Christ gives men and women, boys and girls. As you know, this means many people may never hear about Jesus. However, despite Christian frailty God does offer us a merciful solution. We read in the Apostle Paul’s letter to the Christians in Rome

“For it is not those who hear the law who are righteous in God’s sight, but it is those who obey the law who will be declared righteous.  (Indeed, when Gentiles, who do not have the law, do by nature things required by the law, they are a law for themselves, even though they do not have the law,  since they show that the requirements of the law are written on their hearts,  their consciences also bearing witness, and their thoughts now accusing, now even defending them.)  This will take place on the day when God will judge men’s secrets through Jesus Christ, as my gospel declares.”
Romans 2:13-16  

Thankfully, this means, God in his mercy will judge these people through the law that they lived by- according to the standard they know to be true. We need to remember God is just in his judgement, he will not hold people to account for something they could not possibly know. So those who have never heard about Jesus will not be judged by their failure to follow him.

However if the numbers could be counted I would hazard to suggest that by and far more people know about Jesus than those who have not. And it is what we do with that knowledge that will determine how God views us.

I hope this helps.
Armen

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Is speaking in tongues and Being slain in the spirit demonic. I speak in tongues and go to a pentecostal church. I\‘m on fire for God and Belive the true word of God and don\‘t base my faith on experiences, signs and wonders and feelings. But I\‘m so confused with the wide range of views from different denominations of churches. I don\‘t always know what is from God and what is from the devil. Theirs so much deception and lies. Please help me before I go crazy!

Cameron

Hi Cameron

The Bible is pretty clear that speaking in tongues is a gift of the Spirit. 1 Corinthians 12 & 14 unpacks this in some detail. What we know from these chapters is that speaking in tongues is one of many gifts of the Spirit [1 Cor 12:8-10]; it’s to be used for speaking to / praising God [1 Cor 14:2] but that it should be exercised in private unless it can be interpreted for others. This is because tongues without interpretation will only edify the speaker and not the congregation [1 Cor 14:2-6, 9, 13, 23].

So feel free to use your gift of tongues to speak to / praise God. It’s a good gift of the Spirit to be used by God’s people. You can read more on this by clicking on these links
http://www.christianity.net.au/questions/why_do_some_christians_speak_in_tongues_and_others_dont/
http://www.christianity.net.au/questions/do_christians_need_to_speak_in_tongues/

The issue of ‘being slain in the Spirit’ is a much trickier topic. It’s difficult to be definitive on this without knowing what is happening when you talk about ‘being slain in the Spirit’.

I think this is an area where you need to proceed with caution. When churches or ministers ‘slay people with the Spirit’, it tends to be done towards the end of a long meeting, where long periods of singing is used to build intensified emotion or euphoria and an expectation of ‘slaying’ is stated / created. Critics of ‘slaying in the Spirit’ label it as a form of hypnosis and psychiatrists cite the experiences of those ‘slain’ matching those of people who are hypnotised.

A few points are worth noting:

1. 1 Cor 14:40 says our meetings should be ‘ordered’. Does the practice of slaying people in the Spirit observe this?

2. The gathering of Christians in the NT is characterised by the teaching of scripture, prayers & fellowship [Acts 2:42]; music & singing [Col 3:16], and sharing the Lords Supper [1 Cor 11:23-26]. Slaying people in the Spirit isn’t typical of the gathering of NT Christians

3. The Bible makes it clear that Christians are filled with the Spirit when they are ‘born again’ or converted [John 3:5-8; Acts 9:17]. Being ‘slain in the Spirit’ implies a deficiency or a topping up of the Spirit is required. While there are times in the Old & New Testament when God’s people are ‘filled with the Spirit’, it is normally to empower them for a special task such as bold preaching [Acts 2:4ff, Acts 4:8, 31; 13:9]

4. In addition, being ‘slain in the Spirit’ tends to be self-focused, where people look for some physical manifestation or experience God. However the work of the Spirit is to enable, equip and edify believers in serving and honouring God. In particular, the role of the Spirit is to glorify and bring honour to Jesus [John 16:7-15]. Is the practice of ‘slaying in the Spirit’ within your meetings doing this?

5. And finally, the Devil is the master of deception and the father of lies [John 8:44]. He tricked Adam & Eve and he continues to prowl ‘around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour’ [1 Pet 5:8]. Jesus says in Matt 12:30 “He who is not with me is against me”. So we should be on our guard against those things which are not biblical because they are not ‘of God’.

My suggestion therefore is weigh this up and test it against scripture. If you are still unsure, speak to a pastor or contact us again at Christianity.net.au

Yours in Christ

Stuart

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Since Jesus already paid for everyone’s sins, why doesn’t God forgive people who reject Jesus?

Kay

Hi Kay, Good question.

It all comes down to what happens when you get forgiven, its much more than just having the slate wiped clean. Lets start from the beginning. When you become a Christian:

1. The Holy Spirit makes you into a new creation (2 Cor 5:17) and unites you to Christ. This means:
- all the benefits of Christ’s Sonship become yours as you become a co-heir (Rom 8:17), including eternal life.
- now you can address God as ‘Father’ (Rom 8:15, Gal 4:6).

2. Another of those benefits is Jesus’ righteousness, which is credited to you as a gift. In return, Jesus takes your guilt. (2 Cor 5:21, Rom 3:21-22).

3. Because of these things, you are forgiven and declared to be righteous before God (Rom 5:1).

So, you see, its not just forgiveness. The mechanism by which you are declared to be righteous before God is because you are united with Christ, meaning that he can bear the punishment you deserve, and you can be credited with his righteousness. The thing is, if you reject Jesus then you are doing more than saying ‘no’ to God’s forgiveness - something we might imagine God would forgive. You are actually rejecting the only means by which you can be saved (Hebrews 2:1-3). Jesus didn’t just die so that sinners could be forgiven. He died the death that sinners deserve, for those sinners who are united to him in that event (Rom 6:1-10), meaning that his resurrection is ours too if we are united to him. This is how you get eternal life.

I know this sounds a bit complicated, but its actually fairly simple. One famous theologian, Martin Luther, compared it to a marriage. When two people are married, you can’t punish one of them without punishing the other. If you put one in jail, the other still suffers. If you fine one, the other bears the financial cost as well. The relationship is too close to separate them. Similarly, if you reward one then the other is honored as well. Now marriage is an imperfect analogy, but it does help us to understand the picture. Christ’s death only ‘works’ for us if we are so close to him that his suffering becomes our suffering, his death our death, and his resurrection our resurrection. In this way he bears our guilt, and in this way we share his life. That means you can’t be forgiven for rejecting Jesus, because there is simply no way that that forgiveness could happen.

Hope that helps.

Nathan

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Who (or what) is the Holy Spirit? And What does it mean by the Fruit and Gifts of the spirit? And Finally how do you make a relationship with Jesus and God stronger?

Jayme

Hello!

Thankyou for your question. As there are many components to your question, my answer will have to be brief, so I encourage you to read the Bible passages I will refer to to get a better picture.

The Holy Spirit is God, the same God as God the Father and God the Son, Jesus Christ. He is equal with the Father and the Son. We refer to them as the three persons of the one God or the Trinity. Yet while they are all God in essence and nature, God the Father, God the Son and the Holy Spirit have different roles as emphasised in the Bible. The main role of the Holy Spirit is to point people to Jesus and help us understand and obey God’s words.

When Jesus tells his disciples about the Holy Spirit, he said, “When he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth.” (John 16:13a)
And, “He will bring glory to me by taking from what is mine and making it known to you.” (John 16:14a)

Every Christian has the Holy Spirit inside them, (Romans 8:9) and he guides us to listen to and obey God’s words. Some other Bible passages that help us understand the Spirit’s role in Christian’s lives are listed below:

Romans 8:9-17, 8:26-27
2 Corinthians 1:21-22
John 14:15-18, 16:12-15

Once we understand the Spirit’s function it helps us understand what is the fruits and gifts of the Spirit.

In Galatians 5:16 God tells us to “live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contratry to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other.”

It then goes on to tells us what are the acts of sinful nature, e.g. sexual immorality, hatred, jealousy, and so on. This is then contrasted with the “fruit of the Spirit”, which are love, patience, self-control … etc (Galatians 5:22-23).

This makes it clear that the fruits of the Spirit refers to the things that we would do if we follow the Holy Spirit’s guide in obeying God. The opposite of that is following your sinful nature, and disobeying God.

Gifts of the spirit, on the other hand, refer to abilities that are given by God to Christians in order that they can serve other people.

In 1 Corinthians 12:7, the Bible tells us that gifts of the Spirit is “given for the common good.” In 1 Corinthians 14:12, “gifts that build up the church” are to be desired. The entire chapters of 1 Corinthians 12 – 14, however, teach us that no two people are the same and we all have our different gifts and functions given by God in order to serve others, and that gifts are not there for our own gratification. “Prophecy,”  i.e. teaching others from the word of God, is the greatest gift, because it builds up people the most. (1 Corinthians 14:1-5; 14:18-19)

Finally, how do our relationship with God grow stronger?

In one sense our relationship with God with as strong as it will ever be, as strong as it will be in heaven. This is because God is committed to it. Rom 8:28ff says that because God has chosen us then nothing in heaven and earth can come between us and God’s love. Its a great comfort and joy!!

So your real question is about how you can become a stronger Christian and not give into sin. Firstly, we have to relate with God in the right way. God tells us that the only way we can come to him is through Jesus. Jesus says “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6) We must believe that Jesus is our Lord and He rules us, and we need to believe that He is our Saviour who died to forgive all our sins, before we can relate to God at all. 

Secondly, we can relate better to God by acknowledging and obeying Him as God, not going about life in our own way. We can do this by listening to Him , i.e. reading the Bible and putting it into practice in our lives. When you do this, you are “living by the Spirit.” (Galatians 5:16). Peter talks about striving to do the good things God wants us to do 2 Peter 1:5ff. Paul talks about setting your eyes on heaven rather than the earth and therefore taking off the old clothes of sin and putting on the new clothes of righteousness Col 3:1ff.

Thirdly, we can relate to God by talking to Him, and praying that He will make our relationship with Him stronger. If you don’t know how to pray, God tells us that the Holy Spirit inside us will help us to pray according to the way God wants us to pray.

“And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints in accordance with God’s will.” Romans 8:27

Ultimately, God is the one who helps us become strong in our relationship with Himself - he wants to do it and he does do it. He brings about this strength by testing and discipline. As hard times comes and you turn to him for help so, as he helps you, you grow in your confidence of his love towards you. This is the thrust of Hebrews 12:1-13.

So set your heart and eyes on heaven, continue to do what God wants you to do, endure hardship and pray and you will grow in your relationship with God.

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I’ve recently been feeling ready to move into a more intimate relationship with a bestfriend, who feels the same way i do. Are there any verses you could direct me to to help me in my decision? and, how can i ensure that our relationship is carried out in a way God would be ok with?

anon

Hi there!

It’s great that you’re keen to look to the Bible for advice when thinking about relationships.

I think a great place to start is to look at what the Bible says about marriage. Although it might seem like marriage is a long, long way away, the aim of Christian dating is to find a Christian partner and so the dating relationship is to be modeled on the marriage relationship. Although marriage might not seem like an option in the short term, intimate (boy-girl) relationships should always hold open the possibility that it might result in marriage.

With that in mind, here are some passages that might help you think through your relationship:

1 Corinthians 7:39
Most women in the first century didn’t have choice about whom they could marry. The one exception was a widow - she had complete choice. Paul tells he she can marry whomever she wishes - as long as they’re a Christian (the way he puts it is someone ‘in the Lord’). So make sure that the person you go out with is someone who is also a Christian.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9
Christians are free to marry or not to marry. There is nothing wrong with going out with someone or not. So don’t feel any pressure that you ‘need’ to have a relationship or take your relationship any further. Staying as you are is perfectly fine. But having said, that, that doesn’t mean you’ve done the wrong thing if you start going out with someone.

Ephesians 5:22-33
Wives are to submit to their husbands. Husbands are to love their wives and lay down their lives for them. So if you’re a girl, make sure you go out with someone that you respect, that you will be able to submit to - someone who will lay down their life for you. And if you’re a guy, make sure you go out with someone that you’re prepared to lay down your life for, and who will respect you and be willing to follow your lead in the relationship.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-8
One area that is often a stumbling block for people going out is falling into sexual temptation. So it’s important to make sure you both are committed to living in a way that is going to help each other in this area. Have a look at How do I avoid doing the wrong thing in a christian relationship?

These a just a few parts of the Bible that might help you in your situation.

Can I encourage you also to find an older Christian that you trust to talk about it? Dating is a complex issue, and it can be really helpful to have someone to talk to about it - not only before you start going out with someone, but when you’re going out with someone as well. Please feel free to ask more questions if you would like to follow up anything mentioned here!

Alex

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If Jesus is the only way to God/eternal life, how can God still be loving and just for those who haven’t had a chance to learn of Jesus (eg grow up in Muslim country)?

Sam

Hi Sam,

Thanks for the question.  Its one that a lot of people struggle with.  So what’s God’s perspective on this?

Firstly, he says that he has lovingly revealed himself in the natural world so that everyone can know him to some degree.  The Bible says:

Since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made. (Romans 1:20)

Yet he also tells us that every single human has suppressed this truth.  Pushed it to the back of our minds.  Instead we make up our own ideas of what God is like.  We (that is, Australians, Hindus, Muslims, Agnostics, Atheists etc) decide his character and we decide what sort of worship we should give.

This is nothing less than rebellion against the ruler of the world.  Justice demands then that we should all be punished.  That means we should be asking; ‘how can God provide a way to eternal life while still being loving and just; that is, without giving us what we deserve?’

Because God is loving he’s opened up the only way possible that on the one had doesn’t give us what we deserve and on the other still satisfies his justice.  God loved us so much that he sent his only son to die in our place.  To take what we deserve.  Jesus willingly accepted our punishment.  That means the only way anyone can possibly have eternal life is to trust in him because just punishment can only be given without us feeling it in him.

Now back to the question. God is a just judge. He will not judge people by what they could not possibly know. If a person had no chance of finding out about Jesus then God will not judge them for not following him. But everyone knows something about God and what they do with that knowledge will determine how they are judged.

The question though for you is this - you do know about God and Jesus. What are you doing about it?

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Hi
Whats with all the different denominations of Christiananity? i e methodist baptist catholic c of e etc. Why so many dinomanations and not just one church. Do they all have different understandings of the Bible.? How did the church get split up in such a way in the first place? Does bieng a part of a denomination stop us from giving our all to Jesus because we are to focused on “how we do things here”?  Would we not be stronger as one church just following Him?  Should we have to believe in denominations if you are part of a church that states in c of e - for exsample?

Anna

Hi Anna,

These are great questions. 

It does seem confusing to have so many denominations.  A good resource on this question can be found at the AFES Website  It does seem odd that Jesus prays to the Father for believers in John 17:22 to be one: ‘May they be one as We are one.’  It does not look that way today.  The early church was one if you read about it’s development in the book of Acts, and will be one in the new heaven and earth. 

A thorough answer to this question needs a book to be written, which there are.  But to be as short as I can, there have been two major divisions in the church resulting in three main groups.  The first division occurred in 1054 A.D between the Roman Catholic West and the Eastern Orthodox church called the ‘east/west schism’ due to political and church differences and theological disagreement. The second major division came in the 16th C when a Catholic monk Martin Luther tried to reform the Catholic church, as he and others feared the Catholic church had departed from the teaching of the Apostles (in the bible).  This is called the ‘Reformation’ and many protested against the Catholic church which is why they are called ‘protestant’ churches.  After the Reformation of the 16th C many Churches have started up separate from the state churches, these independent Churches hold to the core teachings of Christianity, but differ on small matters.

The most important difference in the end falls on one teaching that divides everyone into two baskets.  It is in understanding how someone is saved.  Catholic and Eastern Orthodox teach that it is a two way street, both God and man are active in bringing about salvation.  Protestant denominations (C of E, Methodist, Presbyterian, Baptist etc…) see that the bible teaches only God can save us. (1 Peter 3:18 18 For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive by the Spirit,)  It is only in Jesus life, death and resurrection that secures our salvation, if we can add anything to Jesus work done on the cross, it makes Jesus’ work incomplete and a failure, but God has not failed and salvation is only found in Jesus ‘alone’.  What this is saying is, ‘good works’ do not contribute anything to my salvation, ‘good works’ are a fruit, or product of my salvation.  It is because I am saved that I do good, not as a means to secure my salvation. (Ephesian 2:8-10)

Being part of a denomination or independent church in the end does not matter, as anyone who is united to Christ by faith (trust) in Jesus ‘is’ already united also to one another spiritually regardless of how things look on earth.  One day we will be one when the new heavens and earth are established, until then, sinful saints persevere the best we can. 

Some tips on finding a good church is to go to one that teaches the whole bible, you will see this if they work through a book of the bible at a time (over a number of weeks) and not jump, willy-nilly to bits of the bible (more topical talks).  Otherwise they can be teaching you only the bits they like not the whole council of God. 

Hope this has helped, God bless.

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Hi,
Firstly I want to say that I am a dedicated Christian, have been and always will be.
For the past few weeks my house has had Mormons knocking on our door. Very determined and committed I will say, as they have come back again and again. I am led to believe they will come back again, and would like to know what in the Bible I can put forward to them to basically say they are “wrong”.
I want to take this oppourtunity to introduce them to the real God and Jesus (not what they will be expecting, but much better for them), though I want to know exactly where they get their information from (is it from selective parts of the Bible and/or extra written material and/or their entirely own book). I want to be able to show them hard evidence that God and Jesus exist, and are Lord, and give them reason to actually turn to the Christian faith (I don’t know how likely that is though, but God can do wonderful things).
Any help with what they believe and what Christians should say in response to them would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks, Josh!

Josh

Hi Josh,

I’ve had a similar experience with Mormons, and have chatted a bit with an ex-Mormon Christian, so here are my reflections on it.

Yes, they are wrong and there’s plenty of places in the Bible that contradict their teaching, but pointing to them won’t necessarily convince a Mormon. They assert that new revelation was given to Joseph Smith in the 1800’s, so a “newer is better” argument works for them, even if it’s flawed. They’ll just say that God corrected himself the next time. As you look into the details of this ‘revelation’ it’s all a bit fantastic, with magic spectacles and mysterious golden plates.

Salvation, for a Mormon, is by works, which is why they’re so keen to come back to you. Any part of the Bible that speaks of salvation by grace through faith would be good to have in mind. (e.g. 2tim 3:15, Eph 2:8-9, Heb 11). If they’re missionaries from Utah, say, then they are solidly indoctrinated to believe that any criticism you make is an attack of Satan himself. As you open your mouth, the shutters go up and it’s all over. You can’t really convince them of truths from the Bible, which is really frustrating!

What hope is there then? Lots!

You can actually give them a reason to turn to Jesus: Assurance. Those with faith in Christ WILL be saved aside from works. We have confidence in the hope we share in Christ. It leads to Joy and Love, which is something they don’t have. Pray, and show some love for them, and see what God does… Even giving a cool glass of water would be a shock to them, since they get so many doors slammed in their faces.

(Just a note of caution: Mormons aren’t idiots. There’s something attractive to their lies, so don’t get sucked in!)
Hope this helps.

PS: The book “So What’s the Difference” is a bit dated now, but is still really helpful.

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I had an in depth discussion with a friend who was Christian but turned agnostic/atheist. In this talk she told me that the bible is completely made up by a man called Constantine. This along with other sources was the reason of her destruction of faith. Her opinion really matters to me and is one I respect.
I have been a Christian for some time now, but this statement that the bible was never made by God shatters everything I believe in and the reasons why.
How do I know the bible was really made by God/through people by God when history is so evident?

Ben

Thanks for your question Ben - as you mention, it is a really important issue.
But to put it quite simply, your friend seems to be misinformed.

Constantine was a Roman emperor in the fourth century AD. He was a supporter of the Christian church, reversing the approach of preceding emperors who persecuted the church. One of his significant actions was to gather church leaders from around the Roman empire to a meeting (the ‘Council of Nicea’ in 325AD) to deal with a theological issue that was troubling the church at the time. However, he did not write the Bible, or even the New Testament part of the Bible.

The Old Testament part of the Bible was a recognised collection of scripture before the time of Jesus - a collection that Jesus himself considered to be the word of God. The individual ‘books’ of the New Testament were written during the first century AD by the Apostles of Jesus, or students of the Apostles, and gathered together into a single collection over the ensuing two centuries. Jesus through the ministry of his life, death and resurrection trained, empowered and authorised the Apostles, by the Holy Spirit, to be witnesses to him as the Word of God, and the New Testament is their testimony. All this took place well before the time of Constantine.

Now in the same way that Jesus was an historical figure, the Apostles were historical people - they lived at a particular time and place in history. It follows that their ministries, with the writings that came out of their ministries, bear the markings of the history in which they took place. This does not make the New Testament any less the word of God - it is just that God spoke to real people in real situations.

The same God is concerned for us in our particular situations and he continues to use the Bible to reveal himself and his will to us.

If you want to learn more ...
There is an interview about the legacy of Constantine you can see here Constantine’s Legacy

The following article responds to a claim similar to the one your friend made “Is the Bible True?”

For more detail about the writing of the New Testament and its historical reliability as a witness to Jesus Christ you could have a look at the book “The Christ Files” by John Dickson (also available as a DVD), or “Is The New Testament History?” by Paul Barnett

Hope this clears up the confusion.

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Hi, my name is Damian and i became a Christian almost 8 years ago, i am very thankful that God saved me from the dominion of darkness. My question is in relation to my Mum, Dad and brother who are not Christians and don\‘t have a relationship with Jesus. I have had conversations about my faith in Jesus, and basically i don’t get a response. As they had raised me they know all my faults and wrong doings before i was a Christian, what i can i do or say to show them that i am born again and has transformed me in following Jesus.

Damian

Hi Damian.

What a great question you have asked!

Let me start by saying that sharing the good news of Jesus with your family is often the hardest thing to do. Let me give you three things to do.

First, and perhaps most obviously, PRAY. Pray everyday, pray specifically and pray that God would do his work of bringing them to repentance and faith. It is God’s work and he loves to hear and answer our prayers. Pray too that there might be other people that they know who are Christians who will tell them about Jesus too.

Second, LIVE A GODLY LIFE. 1 Peter 2:12 says, Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us. This verse sounds like it may apply to you epecially if you fear that they know your faults. Work hard at your godliness, service of them and kindnes towards them. They will see this change in you and see the work of Jesus in you and hopefully see that that change comes through Jesus.

Third, TAKE OPPORTUNITIES. I say this as opposed to making opportunities. Sometimes we can have had so many opportunities that we have made to tell those closest to us about Jesus, that we are best to give it a rest for a time and spend more time praying. Then when the time is right, and they raise something, you can make a comment or ask a question that may lead them to think afresh about Jesus and his love for them. What I mean, is don’t keep forcing conversations, but perhaps for a time, wait for them to come up, praying of course that they would. Sometimes a “softly softly” approach is effective - looking for ways to mention things about God rather than seek a full blown discussion.

Above all be assured that God loves your family as much as (if not more) than you do and he knows what he is doing.

I hope this is helpful and I will pray for you now.
Nigel

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In one of the New Testament\‘s epistles (unortunately I can\‘t recall which) there seems to be a distinction between sins that are not strong enough to leave a person outside heaven on their own, and other sins that are so serious that on their own deprive a person of heaven, even if one lives an otherwise decent life. Unfortunately, the sins that fall in the latter category are not named, leaving me unsure as to which ones they are (are they the 10 commandments, for example?). Also, my leader has told me that pre-marital sex is by itself capable of eternally separating human from God as opposed to other sins, but pre-marital sex is not mentioned in the ten commandments. Could you please clarify this distinction?
PS. Please pray for my fiance who is a non-Christian. I love him so much, I will trust in the Lord and marry him.

Athena

Thank you for your questions Athena which I would like to cover in 2 sections, sins that deprive someone of heaven and secondly, Christian sex and marriage.

For the first section, the passage you are thinking of is 1 John 5:16-17.  In that passage the apostle John mysteriously tells the Christian readers to pray for those committing sin, unless they are committing a sin which leads to death.  Looking through John’s letter the possibilities would include denying Jesus (1:7; 2:22-28), disobedience (2:3-6; 3:4-6), hatred of one’s [Christian] brothers or sisters (2:9-11; 3:15-17) or love of the world (2:15-17). A good way to narrow down the possibility is to examine the positive argument - what behaviour guarantees eternal life?  Here we can see several positive arguments such as these:

1 John 3:23-24 “And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. Those who obey his commands live in him, and he in them. And this is how we know that he lives in us: We know it by the Spirit he gave us.”

1 John 4:7-10 “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”

1 John 5:1-5  “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well. This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out his commands. This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world? Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God.”

Based on these passages (also Matthew 12:31-32 and Mark 3:28-29) most Christians believe the unforgivable sin is denying Jesus as our Lord and Saviour either in word or by our actions.

I then view the second part of your question through this lens.

The Christian picture of sex and marriage is I think profound.  Man and Woman are created for each other for life long exclusive union.  In Genesis 2 we are told that a man leaves his mother and father to cling to his wife and they become one flesh, a picture of great unity.  Thus the Bible affirms the goodness of sexual union within the context of marriage.  Husband and wife are called to engage in sex (1 Corinthians 7:3-5) but that the unmarried should be self-controlled and if they cannot they should marry (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).

Your situation is even more difficult by virtue of marriage to a non-Christian which brings its own difficulties.  If you are engaging in sex now then I would give you two encouragements. Firstly, as I’ve hinted at above it is not the sin which excludes you from heaven. If you trust in Jesus as your Saviour and Lord then the passages above make it clear that your sins are forgiven and you are born of God.  Secondly however my encouragement would be to repent, that is cease sex until you are married - be obedient and honour God with your body.  The Christian life is one of repentance and no matter how awkward it may feel, it is good to confess our failures to God, repent, and ask for his forgiveness knowing that he forgives those who seek him because of Jesus’ death on our behalf.  The risk of defying God’s good purposes for sex is that you will harden your heart further against him and fall away from his grace (Hebrews 6:4-12).

Sorry for such a long response but it is my hope and prayer that you will trust that the Lord is good and depend on him through our Lord Jesus Christ.

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Okay so my boyfriend has never been exposed to Christianity at all. And I have taken him to church but it just seems to confuse him because he does not know anything about God. He is very open minded and interested in learning. What would be a good way to ease him into getting to know more about the Christian faith? I was thinking a book…but I have not found a good one…any suggestions? Or maybe even having him come to this website?

Sara

Hi Sara,

Thanks for your question.  Taking your boyfriend to church is a good idea, because there he should be able to hear the Bible read and explained clearly, and also see Christian love in action.  If there are things that he doesn’t understand then perhaps you could ask the minister after the church service to explain them?  Hopefully your church is one where the Bible does get read and explained clearly and where the people do show Christian love to one another!  If this isn’t the case then it could make things harder, but it’s probably still worth persisting with.  After all, becoming a Christian means that we become part of God’s family, so it can’t hurt to start meeting other Christians now. 

Taking him to this website is a good idea.  It’s designed to help answer people’s questions and to teach what Christianity is all about, so it’s pretty much made for this kind of situation.  If he’s got specific questions then he could look at some of the answers that have already been given, or he could ask a question online himself. 

As for books, there have been heaps written to help people understand the basics about Christianity.  If there’s a Christian bookstore near you then you could possibly ask them for advice.  One that I would recommend would be A Fresh Start by John Chapman.  You can order it for $9.95 + postage from this website:  http://www.matthiasmedia.com.au/mmstore/afs.html?id=JWAepvbE

Probably the best book to read though would be the Bible.  The Bible is more like a library of books than a single book itself, so tell him that he doesn’t have to start from the beginning and work his way through.  A good place to begin would be one of the Gospels: Matthew, Mark, Luke or John.  They are the first books in the New Testament, so he could find them by looking them up in the contents page. 

And of course, through all of this, it’s important that you keep praying for him and making sure that you live a godly Christian life yourself.  People often become attracted to Jesus because they see his power at work in other people’s lives.  If he can’t see that being a Christian makes a difference in your life then he probably won’t think it’s worth bothering with. 

I hope that all helps.  I’ll pray that he does indeed become a Christian. 

Cheers,

James

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How do I tell my parents and friends about my belief. I have been a Christian for 4 months and they are going to find out soon anyway but I’d rather be the one to tell them but I don’t know where to start. Help!

Jax

Hi,

Let me start by saying how great it is that you want to tell people about your new Christian belief! The Bible says to believers:

‘you are a chosen people… a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light’
1 Peter 2:9

Praise is not just a religious word, it just means telling people how good something is. Aussies naturally praise sport. We praise Brett Lee (cricket), or Brett Stewart (rugby), or Stephanie Rice (swimming), because they are so good at what they do. Telling people about your new Christian belief is just telling people how good God has been in saving you from your sins and giving you eternal life.

A great opening is if someone asks you, ‘what have you been up to lately?’ You can say, ‘well actually, I became a Christian not too long ago’. Normally and hopefully they will ask you, ‘why?’, and then you can begin to explain to them what it means to you to be a Christian. Often when people ask you this, you don’t know what to say. That’s why the Bible says:

“always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give a reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect”
1 Peter 3:15

So there are two things, 1) give a reason for your hope in Christ, 2) do this with gentleness and respect, because people are naturally defensive and hostile to God, and think that you might be judging them (1 Peter 3:16). But that’s not your fault, it’s just that they need their hearts changed by the goodness of God. That’s why we should still tell them.

Because of this, it’s important to think about the reason for the hope that you have. Start by thinking about some of the great things about being a Christian. Think about why you became a Christian. Was it because you were convinced of the historical truth of Jesus’ death and resurrection? Perhaps that’s a positive that you can talk about when someone asks you how you can be sure of your faith. Maybe you became a Christian because you realised God loves you and sent Jesus to die for you. This can help when someone is down and doesn’t see any hope in life. You can say, ‘well I didn’t used to either, but now I know that I will spend forever with Jesus’, or ‘what gets me through tough times is knowing that God loves me and will look after me’.

Other great things include having a Church family of believers who care for you. We are made for relationships, and God has kindly given us a Church family to look after us and where we can encourage and care for other people.

With your family it’s a little bit trickier. Family relationships are the closest, so you can afford to go slower with them. Also, your parents are older and wiser than you. So you need to respect them, even when they disagree with you. If you tell them you have become a Christian, or are going to Church and they ask you why, make sure you are extra careful to be gentle and respectful. But you should still tell them the reason for the hope that you have. If they tell you not to go, or give you reasons for why you should not believe in Jesus, listen carefully. Don’t argue with them straight away. Say something like, ‘I’ll think about that’, which shows them that you do respect what they say. Then go and think about it. Read the Bible, or ask others if you don’t know how to respond. Then think about how you will speak to them about it. Explain clearly and gently why you don’t agree with them, but tell them you appreciate them caring for you and looking out for your interests. This will show them two things: 1) that you respect them, and are not abandoning them, 2) that you are mature and well thought out. Your Christian belief is not just wishful thinking or the latest fad, but it is meaningful and makes sense. This will go a long way in helping them to understand why you believe and perhaps even come to trust Jesus themselves.

Most importantly, remember that with family, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. No matter what you say, if you are argumentative or unloving, they won’t hear a word. They will see you as an immature child. Rather let them see that your life is being changed by Jesus. When they see the love that’s growing in your life, they will take your words much more seriously. It might take a long time to show them that your faith is real and mature, so pray to God for patience and love.

I hope this helps, and don’t hesitate to ask more specific questions to me, or to Christianity.net.au or another Christian. I will be praying for you.

In Christ,
Clive.

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hi i was thinking to myself what does christianity teach about life, death and destiny. and how this could apply to a act of terrorism in the name of a God or deity.

Joel

Thanks for your question!

Christianity has a lot to say about the issues of life, death and destiny. I’ll answer this first, before I apply this to terrorism carried out in the name of a God or deity.

The first thing the Christianity says about life is that God is the giver of life. The only reason we are here (ultimately) is because God wants us to be here. In the book of Colossians, Chapter 1, verse 16, the apostle Paul says that everything that was made – the entire universe – was made for God, or more particularly, for Jesus Christ (who is God, who came to earth as a man 2000 years ago).  Thus the life that we live is really not our life: it ultimately belongs to God. Our whole life is to be lived in a way that brings him honour. He has shown us how we are to live this way in the Bible: and central to this is for each of us to turn back to God, seek his forgiveness for the way we live and strive to honour and obey him in all we do (Rom 3:10-18). If we turn back to him, put our trust in Jesus, and in what He did for us on the cross, we are guaranteed a fresh start with God, in perfect relationship with Him. This means that we are forgiven by God for our rebellion, and are given eternal life (John 3:16).

Christianity says that death is the penalty that each one of us receives for our rebellion against God (Romans 6:23). Left to ourselves, we are destined to die, and then face God. Facing God is the most terrifying experience for those that have rebelled against him, for it means that we are declared ‘guilty’ of rebelling against him, and are sent to eternal hell for our rebellion (Hebrews 9:27). But if you come back into relationship with God by trusting in Jesus then you are forgiven of all your rebellion, and given eternal life (John 3:16).

Thus a person’s ultimate destiny depends on how they respond to God, and in particular to Jesus Christ. If they continue ignoring him, they will be judged, and sent to hell. But if they take his free offer of forgiveness, then they will receive eternal life, and be with God and His people forever in the New Heavens and the New Earth (see Revelation 21:1-4).

Now as far as terrorism carried out in the name of God or a deity, the Bible is clear that taking another human life is murder (except in exceptional circumstances eg. some situations of war and defence). Thus God commands people not to murder , eg in Exodus 20:13. In fact, Christians are not to terrorise others, but to be law abiding, submitting to governments and doing good (Romans 13:1-5). Thus any person that carries out a terrorist act is showing that they do not understand how God wants them to live – whether or not they terrorise in God’s name. God wants us to come back into relationship with Him, and coming back into relationship with Him transforms our other relationships, so that we wish to do good to other people, and not evil.

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Hey, Ive been christian since the beginning of the year. But lately ive been so tempted to turn away, and go back to my old ways. I dont want to. But I dont know how to stop these horrible feelings. Please help me!!

Shannon

Hi Shannon,

It is good that you have been a christian for a year and it is normal for you have these temptations because that is the nature of the christian life.

As Christians we have been saved by the death of Jesus and are looking forward to living with him in heaven when the time comes. However until then we live in a world that is charactersised by sin and hatred for God. We see the way others live without God and are tempted to think that would it be great to be like them. But God has in store for us something far better, far more satisfying and much more lasting that anything this world has to offer. So good is it that Paul says he counts all that this life offers and gives us as nothing (the word he uses is “sewerage”) compared to what waits for us in heaven.

However we have to wait for it and waiting is a struggle.

However God also knows this and gives us three important things to help us:

1. His word, the bible, has all we need to live a godly life on earth (2 Timothy 3:16ff). So read it, be inspired by it, talk to others about it. It is the food that gives you strength to keep going.

2. God wants us to pray to him. Prayer is more than simply asking to God for things. Prayer is about expressing to God our relationship with him. He wants us to talk to him about everything - how we feel, what causes us joy or pain, what we need, what our friends/family need, our struggles. In Phillipians 4:6-7, God wants us not to be anxious about anything but to bring everything to him in prayer. And teh amazing thing about prayer is that God works through our prayers to give us what we need and want.

3. God has given us other people to encourage us and help us. So meet with them and talk about your temptations and struggles because you will find they struggle in teh same way and together you can struggle and stand firm till the end.

Finally, we will all sin (1 John 1) but this does not mean we have fallen beyond God’s salvation. God loves you and will keep you till the end, he will forgive you when you sin and turn back to him. So do not be afraid - face the temptations with all the power of God and know that God stands with you.

Hang in there. I hope this helps.

cheers
David

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Hi there.
I read the bible and have accepted Jesus as my saviour. Unfortunately i still struggle deep in my heart with doubt. It all seems too good to be true! Am i truly a saved Christian when i can’t seem to find ‘the peace that transcends all understanding’?

Sandy

Hi Sandy,

It’s wonderful that you have accepted Jesus as your saviour. The Bible teaches us in Romans 10:9 that “if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” So you are saved. Your salvation does not rely on how you feel but on what Christ has done for you.

There is great assurance in the Bible for those who are saved, not the least of which is knowing that it is by God’s grace that we come to him in belief in the first place. Paul teaches us that:

“God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ - by grace you have been saved - and raised us up with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace and kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.”
Ephesians 2:4-9

and the Psalms say

“And those who know your name put their trust in you, for you, O Lord , have not forsaken those who seek you.” Psalm 9:10

Jesus tells us in Matthew 7:7-8

“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.”

Having said this, there is also the reality of living in our broken world, with the bombardments of that world coming at us from every angle. One of the outcomes of this is the varying degrees of doubt most Christians experience. People’s doubts can arise from various sources. For you, it would appear that the lack of sensing “the peace that transcends all understanding” is making you wonder if you have saving faith. 

The peace that Paul is speaking of in Philippians 4:7 (the “peace that transcends (NIV) or surpasses (ESV) all understanding”) is not a feeling of peace but the reality of peace beween us and God based on the saving work of Jesus on the cross. Romans 5:1 says “Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.” If you have accepted Christ as your Lord and saviour, you have this peace no matter what you feel. In so many ways our salvation, at so great a cost to our Lord, showing such love and mercy by God and of which we are totally undeserving, does seem too good to be true. But God reveals to us in scripture that it is indeed true.

Once we have chosen to put our trust in Jesus as our Lord and saviour, we embark on a journey of living as God’s children. This will involve a growing in maturity (not necessarily a sudden leap) as we grow in our love, knowledge and service of God. What you do with your doubt can be the difference between helping you or hindering you in your Christian growth. If you use your doubt to spur yourself on to knowing God better, you will know God better. As you hold on to what you know is true despite your doubts your faith will hold its ground. As you read the Bible over time and try to understand God’s character as he reveals himself, and the promises he has made, the grace he has shown us in Christ becomes clearer. As you continue to pray and ask for God to work in you by his Holy Spirit, you will grow in faith and understand what you are reading more and more. As you go to church and hear the Bible faithfully taught, your understanding will increase. As you spend time with other Christians and learn from them you will be encouraged in your perseverence, understanding and faith. Ephesians 1:13 says “In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of his glory”. He has given you his Holy Spirit to enable you to grow as you continue to seek to serve him with the new life he has given you in Christ. Philippians 2:3 gives us the encouragement that “it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.”

So my prayer for you now is the same as Paul’s prayer for the Ephesians (3:16ff)- “that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your heart(s) through faith- that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God”.

I hope this has been helpful to you Sandy, and that God will bless you with ever increasing faith as you continue in your Christian walk.

Leigh

 

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Why are people born sick or deformed,(blind, deaf, etc) is this a result of their sin? if not then why should they suffer because of their parents and/or our “sins”? thats not fair

John

Hi John

Your question is very thoughtful and quite difficult to answer (or at least it has an answer that may be difficult to accept). 

Jesus’ disciples asked Jesus that exact question.  In the gospel of John, chapter 9 we see the disciples asking Jesus why a man was born blind.  I have copied some of the text out below so you can see the disciple’s question and Jesus’ reply for yourself, but if you have a bible it is best to read the whole chapter as well.  The disciples call Jesus Rabbi which just means ‘teacher’.  the text is about a blind man but it would be the same for any serious mental or physical deformity.

As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?”
“Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his life…....

John Chapter 9 verses 1-3

The disciples assume that if the man had been born blind then either he or his parents must of sinned terribly. It reflected the common belief then (and now) that the circumstances of life were a direct result of sin. So they asked Jesus, who they knew understood God perfectly, how could this have happened. Jesus answers the question surprisingly, nobody had sinned to cause this - that is neither the man nor his parents were responsible.  It was the disciples who had assumed it. (some eastern philosophies call this Karma - the idea if you do bad, bad things will happen if you do good, good things will happen). Jesus does give a reason for this man’s blindness - “this happened so that the work of God might be displayed in his life…....” - he is talking about this man specifically.  Jesus goes on to heal the man and through the healing of the man demonstrates that he is in fact God in the flesh.  This is what it means that God’s power might be displayed. 

Yet the question remains what about all the other physical or mental deformities that happen to people at birth is Jesus going to do anything about them?  The answer is yes and no.

The answer is no because in this life the majority of people born with a deformity will live like that for the rest of their life.  It is the sad truth.  Even though they have done nothing to deserve it they will suffer. This is not a direct result of their sin but is part and parcel of living in a sinful world.

You see when Adam and Eve disobeyed God in the Garden of Eden, God punished them. Part of that punishment was to subject all of Creation to “decay” (Romans chapter 8 verses 18-21). I see that much of the suffering and pain we see in the world is tied up with this. God did it not because he is vindictive but because he wants us to be reminded that there is more to life than just what we see around us. we suffer so that we will turn away from our rebellion and turn back to him so that we will not have to suffer the ultimate punishment on the last day. (This is what the apostle Paul is talking about in Acts chapter 17 verses 26-27). This is a difficult thing to grasp and accept - especially if you are the one suffering. But it is not the whole picture.

For Jesus has dealt with our suffering by suffering for us on the cross, paying the penalty for our rebellion and opening up the way for us to come back to God (see God Makes Sense. And when Jesus comes back he will give his followers new bodies that will be free of defects forever. That’s why Jesus healed the man born blind, he showed he is the one who has the power to remove suffering.

The great thing about following Jesus is that anyone can be a follower.  God will accept anyone no matter their deformities, physical or psychological.  All a person needs to do is trust Jesus’ died for there sins on the cross and follow him to the best of their abilities.  We call this grace because forgiveness of our sins, our rejection of God is paid by Jesus, not by us, so it is a gift and therefore is open to anyone who wants it. God promises he will send his Holy Spirit to change those who are trying to follow Jesus to enable them to follow Jesus and when Jesus returns he can transform them completely making them like him, perfect in every way.  So there is hope for the mentally and physically deformed, and that hope is Jesus.

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The endless fragmentation of Protestantism (J.I. Packer tells us taht there are 20000 registered Protestant churches and sects around the world, all apparently professing the same basic beliefs) makes no sense in light of the letter and spirit of the New Testament.

It is so long-lived and entrenched that it indicates a fundamental, systemic flaw in the doctrine that is responsible for it, the supposed authority of scripture alone.  It results from the simple fact that all scripture is open to interpretation.  Even the most literal fundamentalists actually interpret scripture, for example, by ignoring all the Jewish practices expressly prescibed in the Books of Moses.  That is an act of interpretation, deciding, as was done at the very beginning of our religion, that we were no longer to practise the Jewish faith as prescribed in the Old Testament.
The fragmentation of Protestantism is justified by a wonderfully circular argument, that the things we agree on are (of course!) the essentials, and the things that we disagree on are (of course) non-essential. As the current student phrase has it: Yeah right!

Mark

Hi Mark

Apologies for the slow response. You have hit on a real issue and cause for concern among the Christian community with regard to the fragmentation that exists in places.  Your question about whether Protestants have got the interpretation of the Bible wrong is a little difficult to answer because there is such a range of views [as you point out]. So which Protestant view are we to critique?

In general, I think a Protestant reading of the Bible is correct and in line with the teaching of Jesus and the Apostles. However, that doesn’t mean Protestants get it right all the time or are beyond critique.

The authority of scripture is a biblical doctrine and one we need to uphold. If we allow anything else to be an authority in determining our doctrine like individuals or tradition or denominations – then we are open to being led astray by the sinfulness of mankind rather than being led by the inspired word of God. This is what has happened in many liberal churches where the authority of scripture has been denied and this has led to diverging views of scripture. This is happening in the Anglican Church where the authority of scripture is being denied by certain groups in the US who have appointed an openly gay bishop which has led to considerable disunity within the Anglican community.

It’s worthwhile noting, that this isn’t a new problem. False teaching was just as rife in the days of the Apostles as it is today. Paul was constantly rebuking churches not to follow false teaching and reminding to stick only to the Gospel he and the other Apostles taught [Col 2:4, 8; 2 Tim 4:3]. Jesus also warned that false teachers would come [Matt 7:15]. So the situation we have of many Christian sects is not good, but is to be expected.

When it comes to interpreting the Bible, we need to do a number of things to ensure we understand it properly. Firstly, we need to look at it in its context, including how passages fit within God’s entire plan for salvation [i.e. the whole Bible]. Secondly, given Jesus death and resurrection is the focal point of the Bible and God’s plan to save the world, we need to interpret scripture in light of the cross. That is, when reading the OT we want to be asking how this points forward to Jesus and when reading the NT letters, asking how this reflects back on Jesus. It seems to me that many mis-readings of the Bible occur when these things are ignored. So in the example of OT Jewish rituals and cultic practices such as the Passover, animal sacrifices and the role of priests, these things are no longer practised by Christians because Jesus has fulfilled and superseded these things. The old covenant has been surpassed by the new covenant instituted by Jesus [Matt 5:17; Luke 22:20; Heb 8-10].

Going forward we need to continue working hard at reading and understanding the entire Bible so we can properly interpret each bit in light of the rest. We also need to be wise about where to be gracious with others over certain differences and where to stand firm.

Yours in Christ

Stuart

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Im really passionate about telling other people about God. Ive been praying for this friend of mine for quite some time and i dont want her to feel uncomfortable about me evangelizing to her.
I did previously had a deep conversation with her last year about the topic of “God and how much he loved us that he sent his only son Jesus to die for us.” I had a pretty good response from her and she looked rather interested about God but then it died down for some reason.
Now i really dont want it to be like a forced conversation between me & her but im really keen to raise the topic again one day.
So what do i do?

Vanessa

Hi Vanessa,

Firstly, its great to hear about your passion for evangelism! Keep up the good work.

Now, about your friend. It can be really tricky to know what to do at times. You are right not to want to force the conversation too much, because your friend might have a good reason for not wanting to talk about it and forcing the conversation might make things worse. My advice, for what it is worth, is that you try to find out why your friend doesn’t seem interested any more. You could ask directly, something like: “Hey, you know that conversation we had last year about Jesus, you seemed really interested at the time, did something happen?” You might try something more indirect as well, like inviting her to something rather than talking to her directly yourself. “You know how we had that conversation last year about Jesus, I was thinking you might like to come along to church.”

Of course, it might simply be that your friend doesn’t want to hear anything more about Jesus right now, and if thats the case then you should respect that for the time being. If you remain friends then there will always be opportunities later, if you push her away because you insist on talking about Christianity with her then you will have no more opportunities.

That being said, here are some lessons that I had to learn the hard way:

1) God is capable of working without your help. Even if your friend won’t talk about Jesus with you doesn’t mean God is helpless! He can be working in ways that you don’t know about inside her heart.
2) God doesn’t rely on you getting it all right all the time! He uses us to bring people into his kingdom, and that is an honour. But he is perfectly capable of doing it without us too. No matter what you do, even if you make the wrong call with your friend and screw up really badly, nothing can put her out of the reach of God.
3) Therefore prayer is the most important evangelistic activity. You have to rely on God… you literally can’t convert someone yourself - conversion is a new creation (2 Cor 5:17).
4) The next most important thing you can do is continue living your christian life publicly with integrity. Your friend knows you are a christian and she will see that in the way you live.
4) Knowing what to do is difficult and different in each situation. Don’t forget to ask God for wisdom, and he will give it to you (James 1:5).

The take home message for evangelism is that you really can’t go too wrong. Be gentle and respectful (1 Pet 3:15-16), bold and courageous (Josh 1:9) and above all trust God to do the work (Zech 4:6). Think, pray, act and speak wisely. It’s hard, but don’t worry. In the end, the battle is God’s (Prov 21:31) and nobody (including you and your friend) can do anything to thwart God’s plan.

Nathan

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Is it ok for a christian girl to marry a muslim man?

Jennifer

My answer to that is going to be a “no,” but I hope you would read my explanation below. It would be helpful for us to look at the Bible’s definitions of what is a Christian and what is a Muslim.

A Christian is someone who is saved by the death and resurrection of Christ and who follows Jesus as Lord. We can see this in the book of Romans in the New Testament.

That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Romans 10:9

Calling Jesus Lord means acknowledging him as the master of our lives. In the book of Matthew, verse 7:21, it says that

Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
Matt 7:21

So you see a Christian will always try her hardest to obey God, even though she sometimes may fail, she will not willfully want to disobey God. If she deliberately ignores God’s commands, she will not enter the kingdom of heaven even if on the surface she says she is a Christian.

What is a Muslim? Although the Muslim and Christian faiths share a lot of their scriptures in common, their neliefs are fundamentally different at points where it counts. While a Muslim belives Jesus to be a prophet, they do not believe that he is God nor that he rose from the dead. This is why the Muslim belief and the Christian belief can never be compatible, because they believe the opposite things about the most crucial person in the Christian religion, Jesus. (see quote from Romans 10:9 above)

In the book of John it says about Jesus

Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.
John 3:18

A Muslim is someone who stands condemned by God because he does not believe in Jesus.

The Bible makes it clear that if a woman has the freedom to choose her own husband, (which in those times only happens in the rare circumstances that the woman becomes widowed – otherwise marriages were always arranged), they must marry a Christian.

A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.
1 Cor 7:39

This is God’s command, and it is also wise, because God tells us that the marriage relationship is one that should help us to grow in godliness, not hinder us. In fact, husbands are commanded to love their wives and help to make her holy. (See Ephesians 5:25-33) How can a muslim man do this for his wife if he does not even know Jesus?

If you are a Christian yourself, I encourage you to think more deeply about your relationship with God. Are you someone who follows Jesus, or do you just call him Lord without doing God’s will in your life? Are you sure that you will have eternal life when you die? If you want to think deeper about these questions, please have a look around this website that tells you more about Jesus, or maybe pick up the Bible and read about Jesus in the New Testament, and consider his claims as the master of our lives?

 

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This may sound like an odd question, but, is listening to music or watching movies that have sinful themes in them, such as swearwords, and the like, constitute as being a sin? its not like i live my life by these movies and songs, but rather like for example, the beat in a song, or like a specific movie, but however can turn off things of sinful nature that are in them. please help me on this one, as i have become very confused on the matter. thanks.

Bandon

That’s not an odd question at all, Bandon! It’s actually a really important question, because it deals with so much of how we live our life in the world.

Christians are called to avoid sin. But they are not called to avoid all sinful people. The Apostle Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 5:9-10 that we are not to avoid people who are not Christian and who are openly sinful. He says that if we wanted to avoid people like this, we’d have find somewhere else to go, because there’s no place we can avoid them on earth! If a Christian finds himself/herself around someone else who is doing something that is clearly sinful, it is not as though the Christian has sinned. This is just as well, because if it were, we’d struggle to do just about anything, because we see people sinning around us all the time - whether it be sitting on a bus, going to school, going to work, walking down the street… wherever we go! The same is true with things that we watch and listen to. Just because someone else is sinning, doesn’t mean that we need to avoid every aspect of what is going on…

BUT…

Having said that, it’s important to realise that things things we listen to and watch affect us - just in the same way as the people that we have contact with affect us too. This is particularly true when it comes to our own struggles with sin. There are things I can watch and hear that will make life very difficult for me. If I struggle with lust, there will be movie scenes that will cause me to lust - not only at the time that I watch it, but also afterwards as I remember the things I’ve seen. If I struggle with swearing, then being around people who swear all the time (or listening to songs with lots of swearing) may make it harder for me to be pure with my words.

Jesus has some pretty strong words for people when it comes to dealing with sin. He says this on the Sermon on the Mount:

If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.
Matthew 5:29-30

What Jesus is saying is that we need to take drastic action to avoid putting ourselves in situations that will cause us to sin. Cutting off your hand is pretty extreme - Jesus seems pretty concerned about the things that might cause us to sin!

Every person’s struggle with sin is different. One person might struggle with lust, another person might struggle with jealousy, another person might struggle with their physical appearance. We might struggle with all these things and more! Every person needs to examine themselves and work out what things are going to cause problems for them in their life. And then we need to avoid those things at all costs! There is no one list we can come up with to say what things Christians should/shouldn’t watch or listen to. One person might have no problem being around people who swear, while another person might really struggle with it. We need to be honest with ourselves before God and ask him to help us to know our own hearts.

It is also important to think of those around us. We need to be aware of the struggles people around us have, and make sure we don’t put any problems in front of them. It might be fine for me to watch a particular movie, but it might cause my friend to stumble. You might want to have a good read of 1 Corinthians 8, where Paul deals with this issue.

I find the issue of listening to music a difficult one. I often don’t really have any idea what the words of a song are about, especially if I really like the music! However, I do think we need to be careful about the things we fill our mind with. I used to enjoy listening to AC/DC’s song, talking about being on the ‘Highway to Hell’. However, since becoming a Christian, I find it hard to sing along to a song that is so clearly about living against the way Jesus would want me to live.

 

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Raised Catholic, went to Lutheran summer Bible School, attended Catholic College.  I have many doubts about Catholic doctrine and don’t feel I truly belong in that Church.  The US sex scandel and the Pope’s delayed response really added to my doubts.  I myself was literally and figuratively “touched” by that scandel.  I need at least 2 hands to count all the boys we were in teen club with and college with that were abused by priests that went without consequences for their actions. Many of us girls were affected to but nobody bothered to address that.  I am trying to find a new church to be affiliated with but it is overwhelming.  How do I find the place where I fit?

KP

Hi KP,

It sounds like you have had quite an ordeal in your dealings with the church over time! The abuse of parishioners by priests in any institution is unacceptable and should not be tolerated. It is comforting to know that God will repay each according to what they have done. I’m assuming, perhaps naively, that you have spoken to other professional people about things that may have happened in the past with respect to abuse from priests. If you haven’t can I encourage you to talk to someone, there are many quality Christian counsellors who would be good to talk to.

With the question on church, the search for the perfect church will only be over once we are safely in the presence of our Lord Jesus Christ. In the meantime however there are some aspects that we need to look for in a church which will help answer the question of where I fit.

Firstly, church is a place where the Word of God is opened, explained and responded to. This has been the basic pattern since the time when Israel first assembled at Mt Sinai to hear God speak and responded in fear and trembling (Exodus 19 ff). We too meet to hear God speak, this is the charge which Paul leaves to Timothy in 2 Tim 4:2; “Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage – with great patience and careful instruction”. My advice would be to find a church that first and foremost teaches and upholds that the Bible is authoratitive word of God in all matters of godly living.

Secondly, church is a place where we serve and are served. 1 Cor 14 uses the language of building up other people or some translations have edifying. Take for example v12: “Since you are eager to have spiritual gifts, try to excel in gifts that build up the church”. This is important as it takes the focus on meeting together off ourselves and focuses it towards others.

And so the question then becomes, where is the best place for me to serve? This may take a while to discover at a particular gathering of God’s people. And as people get to know you and you get to know them then you will be able to serve them all the more. Church ‘hopping’ from one place to another week after week will do you and others no good. I suggest finding two or three local bible-teaching churches and attending for a few weeks before making a decision to attend one. The decision you make will not be one of right and wrong but rather of wisdom.

A friend of mine decided to move on from his church after feeling he became stale in his service and came to my local church. However after a while decided that because of the demographic of people there he was best suited somewhere else. His decision was not one of sinning or not but rather of wisdom in finding a place to serve.

Although this has been brief I hope this has been helpful for you in your struggle to find a place to serve and fit in.

Dave

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I feel as though I have lost the holy spirit. I used to walk with him and now i feel as though he has deserted me for a sin I made. Is it possible for him to come back so that I may be at peace?

Matt

Hi Matt,

Sorry for taking so long to reply to your question.  It sounds like you use to walk with Jesus, but after you did some particular sin you feel like he does not walk with you anymore, and this is why you don’t feel like you have peace with him?  There are a few things I would like to make clear from the bible about sin, peace and feelings.

Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.  7 And the peace of God, which surpasses every thought, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7

This is a key verse when it comes to peace with God.  Notice that it comes through prayer.  I suspect that because of your sin you feel distant from God and perhaps not able to pray?  It is helpful to remind yourself as a Christian what God has already done for you in regards to your sin.

‘But God proves His own love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ died for us!’
Romans 5:8

Jesus died to pay the full price for our sin.  Past, present and future sins are paid for in full by Jesus death on our behalf.  Notice what we were like when Christ died for us… while we were still sinners… Christ died for us.  In other words, when we were at our very worse… even enemies of God, Christ died for us, that is how much God loves us.  So what ever sin you committed, it is not outside God’s ability to forgive you.  In fact if you trust in Jesus death on your behalf you are already forgiven. 

It might be a matter of asking God to help you forgive yourself.  We will continue to sin, even as Christians.

‘If we say, “We have no sin,” we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  If we say, “We have not sinned,” we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.  My little children, I am writing you these things so that you may not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate with the Father—Jesus Christ the righteous One.’
1 John 1:8 - 2:1

In regard to trusting our feelings I would just want to caution you in how much we can trust our feelings to match with reality. 

 

And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in His Son.  The one who has the Son has life. The one who doesn’t have the Son of God does not have life.  I have written these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, so that you may know that you have eternal life.
1 John 5:11-13

John writes to Christians so that ‘you may know that you have eternal life’.  He would not need to do this if they ‘felt’ like they do have eternal life.  So I would caution trusting in how we feel, and try trusting in what we know God says is true in his word the bible.  So if you have ‘the son [Jesus]’ then you will also have eternal life and peace with God regardless of how you feel.

So my advice is to say sorry to God for what you did, then thank God for Jesus’ death that has taken your sin away, and ask for God’s help to live life his way more and more.

 

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You have alot of questions here, but one very important one is missing! How do i become a Christian? Where do i go, is there a introduction course or a starting point? This may seem alittle lame, but your site doesnt seem to have a section on the process. Thanks, Alexander.

Alexander

Hi Alexander,

My sincere apologies for not getting back to you earlier.

Become a Christian is a momentous and significant thing - the bible describes how all heaven rejoices when one person becomes a Christian.

However despite all this becoming a Christian is very simple.

All you do is pray to God and ask him to forgive you.

You see Christianity is all about recognising that we have offended God by our attitude and actions towards him - we have rejected his right to be our God and ruler.  Christianity is about realising that God has done something about it in the death of his Son Jesus Christ and is now offering humanity a chance for forgiveness and a new life with him. Its about wanting that for yourself.

So becoming a Christian is about changing your mind about God and turning back to him - this is what repentance means - and about trusting all that Jesus has done for you - that is waht faith is. Becoming a Christian is about deciding that rather than continuing to reject God, you want to turn back to him and live with him as your God and ruler. To do this you simply talk to him in prayer about. You may pray something like:

Dear God,
I know that I have not lived as you want me to. I have not loved you as I ought nor loved the people who live around me. I am sorry and want to change.
Thank you for Jesus. Thank you that he lived and died for me and rose again and is the Lord.
Please forgive me and help me to live as you want me to.
Amen.

That is all!!

Yet when you do this God responds! He sends his Holy Spirit upon you to transform you, protect you and help you in your Christian life - you may not feel any different or you may feel something amazing, it doesn’t matter, the reality is that you have been transformed.

Once you have taken this step there are many things that you can do to help. The three most important are :

1. Continue to read God’s word. The work of God’s Spirit is to help you understand more and more about God and Jesus and he does this through helping you to understand the bible. So read it and ask God to help you understand it.

2. Pray. Prayer is your way of speaking with God and expressing your thanks and depenence on him.  Talk to him about everything - how you feel, how you are going and so on. Prayer is powerful (it doesn’t seem like it) but God hears and acts on our prayers.

3. Meet with other Christians.  They will be able to help you as you start out on your walk with God. Visit your local church, ask around your neighborhood or work (you’ll be surprised where you will find other Christians) and tell them about what you have done.

This information is actually available on the site at Becoming a Christian. You may want to check it out some more.

Let me say as someone who has been a Christian for over 30 years that I am overjoyed that you are considering this step and while the Christian life is not easy it is the only way to live.

cheers
David

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Hello,
I have a question that has been bothering me very much, regarding the book of life. i have just recently began my true faith in jesus, but upon reading and obtaining as much knowledge as possible, i am coming across the book of life. which from what i have been reading seems to be a book of predestined names of people who will inherit the gift of heaven. i guess im confused. what if i devote my life to god, and jesus, only to find i am not in this book that was created since the foundation of the earth? this question has led me to much confusion, frustration, and fear. please help.

Again to continue my question of this book of life, can someones name be added since it is predestined? this concept alone, seems very frightening to me, that all along, i may not even be in it.

Brandon

Hi Brandon,

I’ve been thinking through your question, which is a good one. The Bible talks about the “Book of Life” in only 8 verses (Psa. 69:28, Phil. 4:3, Rev. 3:5, Rev. 13:8, Rev. 17:8, Rev. 20:12, Rev. 20:15, Rev. 21:27). As you’ve discovered, it opens up questions about ‘salvation’, ‘assurance’, ‘judgement’ and ‘pre-destination’, and it would be good to explore christianity.net with those keywords in mind.

‘The Book of Life’ is a phrase used to describe the fact that God saves some people from their sins. Those saved have their names written in the ‘book of life’.

The imagery is, firstly, designed to reassure christians. Their name is in the book, so it’s not as if God will forget about them, or they’ll somehow slip through the cracks. Books are reliable at recording information, so they can be trusted to provide an account of the facts. Even in the tumult of the events in Revelation, books are the sure record by which God will judge people. It seems that it is God who writes the names in the book, so the idea of a book is no scarier than the idea that it is God who will judge people in the first place.

You write that you have faith in Jesus (which is great!) and are concerned that devoting your life to Jesus might turn out to be futile. Think about God’s character for a moment. Is He the sort of God who would trick you into serving him, only to turn around and leave you stranded at the end? He gave his only Son to die for sinners like you and me. You can have confidence that he will keep you until the end, and into eternity.

Paul describes it in these terms in Romans 8:28ff

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.

If your name is written in the Book of Life then you have been predestined and chosen by God. And those people God is at work in by his Spirit to call through the gospel, to justify by Jesus’ blood and to glorify on the last day.  If God has chosen you then he will make sure all these things happen. In fact if God has not chosen you then in your sinfulness you would not be bothered by the things of God.

But how do you know God has chosen you? The very fact that you are concerned about whther you will be saved on the last day shows that you are concerned about the things of God. Only someone in whom God is working will be concerned about the things of God.

So rest assured as long as you continue to fix your eyes on Jesus and devote yourself to him, you will be saved.

Ian.

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I have recently enetered a relationship with a christian girl, and both her and i have a growing concern about having a relationship that pleases GOd… so we have been talking and not sure on what boundaries should be set in order for us to glorify God at all cost , we no the main one is no sex before marrige…. but no where in the bible i find is there a mention of relationships and boundaries cause ultimatley back then they didnt date but girls where promsied to men for marriage ... so i was wondering what boundaries should we set in order for us to stray away from temtation, sin and that in our relationship so that it is pleaseing to God and also what can we do to strengthen our relationship in a Godly way were we are encouraging each other and building each other in our relationships with God ??? many thanks,

Dieter

Hi Dieter

It is great to see you being serious about keeping your relationship with your girlfiend pleasing to God.  As one poet has said, “dating is a dangerous game, temptation should be its name!”

Your question sounds very much like “how far can we go?”. Unfortunately, while we would like a definitive answer, the bible doesn’t lay down a set of hard and fast specific boundaries, but rather gives a set of ‘principles’ for relationships.  With these ‘principles’ we must then work out how to apply them in our situation.

But before we look at some of the principles, it is worth noting that God is not a kill-joy.  In fact, his desire is that we live life to the full!  He is the ultimate joy-giver, and his principles point us in the direction of complete joy and how to participate in a sexual relationship with someone that is exciting and fulfilling.

One of the clearest principles on this issue of physical relationships is Ephesians 5:3 – “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.”

Sexual immorality is not just sexual intercourse outside of marriage.  It includes sexual touching, lustful behaviour & even what we look at. The Bible says, to avoid even a hint of sexual immorality. This is the principle.  Our lives are to be free of even the slightest notion of the sexual (unless married and only then with our partner).  What this looks like in your situation specifically, might be different to someone elses.  There are obviously some behaviours which all people agree are ‘off-limits’ – I won’t even mention these! 

But when it comes to other behaviour, you must use your own wisdom as to whether it is sexual or not.  Take hugging for example.  There is a type of hug that is completely non-sexual.  Then there are other hugs that begin to ‘hint of sexual immorality’.  We know the difference, and we are called to avoid even a hint of sexual immorality.

A verse I memorised when I was in your situation was 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 – “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality;  that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable,  not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God”. I encourage you to memorise this verse because it can be a great help in tempting situations. 

There are several practical things that you can do which will help:

  • Read the bible and pray together (this is always a good idea!)
  • Pray for yourself and your partner, that you will be sexually pure and God will guard you against temptation.
  • Talk about it with each other and be honest. This after all is the key to any good and lasting relationship. Ask her what she finds difficult or temting and serve her by avoiding such situations.
  • Avoid situations that you know will be likely to tempt you (being alone in with her in a private place for example or if you are in a room together always leave the door open). This does not mean you cannot have privacy to talk about things together but seek to have these in places where you cannot be tempted to go further.
  • Ask a select group of friends to “keep you honest”. Give them permission to aks you about it and be honest with them.

May God bless you in your relationship as you strive to honour Him in every way.

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What did Jesus mean when he said he came to fulfil the law?

Tania

Hi Tania. 

This is a question I’ve often asked myself so thanks for giving me the chance to work it out.

Firstly, Jesus obeyed the Law perfectly in a way that the Israelites never had.  When Satan tempted Jesus to sin, Jesus refused based on what God said in the Law (Matt 4:1-10).  Jesus is the perfect Israelite.

Secondly, the Law never assumed that the Israelites would be perfect.  Although they deserved to die for their sin God set up a system where an animal would die on their behalf.  Now, an animal can never really take the place of a human.  But God was pointing the way forward to when he would deal properly with sin through his perfect son, Jesus.  Jesus died in the place of sinners.  Matthew shows us why Jesus died in the story of Barabbas where the guilty man goes free but the innocent Jesus dies (Matt 27:15-26).  The New Testament makes it clear that if we put our trust in Jesus as our saviour we no-longer face the penalty for our sin.  Instead, Jesus has taken this penalty on himself.  If we don’t trust him, we must take the penalty ourselves (John 3:36).

Thirdly, the Law predicted a time when the Israelites would turn away from God to such a degree that God would kick them out of the land he was giving them.  They would go into exile.  But the Law also promised that God would bring them home and deal with their sin by cleaning up their hearts.  Then they’d finally love God with all their hearts (Deuteronomy 29:1-30:10).  That promise was fulfilled in Jesus.  Jesus expects his followers to live a righteous life because of what he’s done to their hearts (Matthew 5:20).

This doesn’t mean we need to obey the Law in the same way as Israel.  It was given to Israel to show them their sin and prepare them for the arrival of Jesus.  But we are expected to obey the principle of the Law, which is love.  This is much harder.  Notice how Jesus takes parts of the Law draws out the loving principal (Matt 5:21-42).

It also doesn’t mean we’re expected to be perfect this side of Heaven.  We need to constantly rely on Jesus for forgiveness while also relying on him to change our hearts and help us do good.  Have you asked Jesus for both these things?

Dave

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The Catholic church says purgatory exists and give examples from scripture to support this (eg 1 Corinthians 3:11-15).  How do you respond to this? (I am an active Anglican and have been researching various pieces on Catholicism because of WYD).

Craig

Thanks Craig,

If you’ve been looking into Catholicism you’re probably aware that the key difference is understanding grace, justification (declaring guiltless) and sanctification (made holy).  Protestants understand the Scriptures as saying that grace is an undeserved gift of God that has saved us (Ephesians 2:1-10) from being dead in our sins.  The “dead” part is important.  We were dead in our sins, rather than merely sick.  Moreover we have now been completely justified and sanctified before God despite being formerly dead in sins.

NIV 1 Corinthians 6:11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

The result of this is that we are already pure and perfect in God’s eyes not (obviously!) because of ourselves but because of the great gift of Jesus’ substitutionary death.  He took our sins leaving us spotless (Colossians 1:21-23).

The Catholic view is different to this.  Catholic teaching declares that grace is a substance that the church distributes in the sacraments.  By co-operating with this “gift” you gradually increase in sanctification and justification.  Humanly this teaching is understandable.  We do not look very sanctified here and so it seems logical to argue that sanctification is a process within which we co-operate with God until we achieve complete sanctification.  On this basis, purgatory is understood as the final step to sanctification, a time of cleansing suffering.

Of course - such a view must diminish the view of Jesus’ atoning death and his ability to cleanse us with his blood (1 Peter 1:18-19).  That is why we reject purgatory, because it declares Jesus’ death insufficient.

With respect to 1 Corinthians 3, the important message from that section is that Jesus is the foundation (11).  Hence our salvation, our good works all are built upon him and his atoning death. What we build will be tested on the last day “by fire” to see its worth. Our reward is to see our work (by this I take it to be people) last into eternity (what a reward) or our punishment is to see a wasted life. Yet our salvation is neither threatened nor enhanced by this suffering through fire. So human philosophy and ingenuity (such as purgatory) will be “burnt up” and disclosed to be empty on that final day.  Being saved “as through fire” itself declares the builder is saved, perhaps “by the skin of his teeth” might be a more comtemporary idea.  Nevertheless there is no punishment to be endured for those whose hope is in Christ.

I hope this helps.

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What does it mean to know God, rather than to know about God???

Emma

Hi Emma and thanks for your question.

The fundamental difference between knowing about God and knowing God is about personal relationships. Because God is a person, you can know ‘about’ him but you don’t really ‘know’ him until you have a personal relationship with him. For instance I can know about the Prime Minister, Kevin Rudd, but I wouldn’t say that I know him. To know him I have to meet him and get to know him. We have to reveal things to each other and be willing to share in each others lives. The staggering promise of the Bible is that we can know God like this and that He wants us to know him and share in his eternal life!

I think one of the fundamental differences between Christianity and other religions is that we can know God as a person. How do we know that God is a person? Well, He came down to earth and became a man in the person of Jesus Christ. Jesus didn’t come just to heal and teach them how to be better people. He came primarily to reveal who (not ‘what’) God is and how we can have a relationship with him. God is one eternal God, but he exists in the relationship of three persons - Father, Son and Spirit. These three persons existed in one God for all eternity. We tend to think of relationships as being between human beings. But way before the creation of the world, relationship existed within God. This three-person relationship is what we call the ‘Trinity’.

If you think this is pretty weird, so did the people who first followed him. They were Jews who always thought of God as one being, but Jesus did things that only God could do and revealed himself to be divine (read some of the gospels). He also claimed that he was the ONLY way to have a relationship with God the Father. He says, ‘I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me’ (John 14:6). In fact the very reason that Jesus came to earth is because God wants to have a personal relationship with us. Jesus says, ‘He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.’ God wants all people to know him personally and he has sent His Son into the world so that we may truly know him.

The only problem is, people don’t naturally want to know God. We were created to know and love God and to submit to his good and loving rule over us. Unfortunately, from the very beginning we didn’t like the idea of submitting to God’s rule. We wanted to rule ourselves without him, to run our lives how we thought best. We think God should be friends with us, but only as our equals. But God made us and the world, so he is the rightful ruler of it. Our response to God is what the Bible calls sin. But God will not let us treat him as less than God. One day we will be judged for the way we treat God.

But the GREAT news is that Jesus came to reveal who God is, and to take our punishment for the way we’ve treated God. When Jesus died on the cross, he took our death and allowed us to be forgiven and have a relationship with God. God and Jesus love us so much that they made this huge sacrifice in order to have a relationship with us. Now all we have to do is say ‘yes’ to having a relationship with God. If you want to have a relationship with God, then just ask him. Read his word the Bible and ask a Christian friend to help you know where to start.

You don’t just have to know about God. You can KNOW God today! If you are interested you can read more about it at http://www.christianity.net.au/god

All the best,
Clive.

P.S. Sorry the reply is late.

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How do I explain the gospel to someone who doesn’t know about Jesus?

Helen

Hi Helen,

Thats a good question and worth asking and thinking about.

The answer depends a great deal upon the other person and their circumstances. It depends upon their openness, their previous knowledge, how much time I had, whether I would see them again and so on. So I would approach a stranger on a bus differently to the way I would a close friend.

However given that, there are a few simple principles that you can use.

Pray. After all God is the one whose responsibility it is to convert them. So ask him for the right words to say and ask him to call the other person to himself.

Know the gospel. Peter calls us to “be prepared to give an answer to anyone who asks us to give the reason for the hope we have in heaven”. (1 Peter 3:15). So work out what you have put your hope in and why.

Get to know and understand the other person. Most people come into a knowledge of God through a relationship with a Christian. So get to know them and let them get to know you. By understanding them you can tailor your presentation of the gospel to pick them up from where thay are at and lead them to Christ. This is what Paul did in Athens in Acts 17.

Get them to read the bible The bible is the source of all our knowledge of God and is the tool that is used by the Spirit of God to convince people. Most people thn they knw what the bible says but few have actually read it. So try always to encourage a person to read the bible for themselves (usually a gospel like Mark or Luke) or better still try to get them to read it with you.

When they read the bible the aim is to get them to consider who they think Jesus is and what are they going to do about him. So these are the questions you need to gently enurage them to consider.

Be gentle and gracious as you seek to challenge them. This is the intent of Colossians 4:5-6. People do not respond well to conflict, so don’t think that winning arguments will win souls. Rather gentle and gracious telling people the truth will woo them into the kngdom.

Talk about your own experiences. This can be far less threatening and can also show that Christianity is livable.

Use other resources. There are plenty of resources available to help you bring the gospel to friends. There are small tracts, books, films and CDs that they can watch, read or listen to. It would be good to create a library of such material for yourself so you can lend them to friends. I suggest you visit:

http://www.matthiasmedia.com.au

for some suggestions. You could also encourage your friends to visit:

http://www.christianity.net.au

to investigate christianity and ask questions.

I hope this is helpful for you.

cheers
David

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Why does God allow some people to be born into poverty and some to be born with a “silver spoon?”

Diane

That is a really great question, and one that is not easy to answer.

The problem lies not in the fact that there i not an answer but that the answer is complex and maybe not as specific as we would want it to be. What the bible does is paint a picture of why these sorts of things do happen. It paints a picture of the reality that we live in, and tells us about the God who rules over this reality, so that we might understand to some degree (but not completely) why these things happen.

The picture that the bible paints begins with the fact that this world is “fallen” – that is, it is cursed and broken. This stems from humanity’s rejection of God’s rule over their lives, presented to us in the first book of the bible - Genesis 3. As a result of this rejection suffering and death have became the norm for humanity. Since then, its a fact of life that people suffer and die, whether from war, disease, or poverty. Inequality is a sad part of this reality, and the bible is clear about this – it doesn’t cover up this tragic truth.

However while the situation may seem unfair and tragic, it is not hopeless. The bible clearly says that God rules over this world, and He has a purpose in allowing everything to happen. So even though there is suffering, inequality and poverty, it’s not because God has somehow “dropped the ball” on ruling the universe: everything that happens, was meant to happen, because God is ultimately the one the makes/allows things to happen. Jesus talks about not a bird falling out of the sky without God’s permission (Matthew Chapter 10, verse 39), and the apostle Paul talks about how God determines when and where people should live (Acts Chapter 17, verse 26). Paul goes onto say that God does this so that people might reach out for Him, and get to know Him – whether they be rich or poor (see Acts Chapter 17, verse 27).

The final thing to say about this inequality and suffering, is that God is not unaware of it but has done something decisive about it. In his Son, Jesus Christ, God entered this world of inequality, suffering and sin and died on the cross because of it. You see God takes our rebellion seriously and will hold us to account and since we all sin the outcome of this meeting will not be good for us. Yet at the same time he loves us and so takes the punishmnet for our rebellion upon himself - Jesus dying on the cross - so that through him we may be forgiven and not have to face the consequences of our sin. So while inequality and suffering is the reality of this world brought on by our sin, God has dealt with it and is giving us time to accept his offer before he says “enough”.

So in other words, there is inequality in this world because it is a broken world, caused by humanity’s rebellion against God’s rule. Yet God is holding back his judgement of our rebellion, allowing and even using the suffering and inequaity of the world, in order to give us a chance to recognise our rebellon and turn back to him. He understands our suffering (after all he suffered on the cross unjustly for our sakes) but also recognises that the alternative - his judgement and anger - is far worse for us; so he gives us time to turn back. This is why there is inequality and suffering in the world.

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God is all-knowing, so when he made mankind, he must have known that we would sin against him.  He also knew (and predestined) those he would save, and those he wouldn’t.  So is it just for him to create people who would suffer punishment for sin that they couldn’t have avoided?

On a similar note, did God create Satan?  If so, why?

Alex

Hi Alex,

Thank you for the question. It is a tricky question because it suggests that God is unfair in the way he deals with us and to a certain extent this is true but not in the way you think.

When God created the world, he made human beings with the will and ability to obey him, and also to disobey him.  So it is not that God made us to sin.  He actually made us so that we can have a joyful and obedient relationship with him.  But as we choose to go against God’s will, we sin and we break off our relationship with God.  I think this is not hard to see in our everyday lives too.  As we come to our decision making, we are often faced with the choice between doing the right thing and doing the wrong thing.  Unfortunately, often we choose to do what we want to do instead of obeying God.  So we do make deliberate choice to go against God. 

Since God is just in His character, He can’t let our sin unpunished. So the just thing for God to do is to punish us.  But since God loves us, he planned to save some even before the world was created.  His plan was to send Jesus Christ to die in our place, to take the punishment for us.  Since He is all-knowing, He knew exactly who He wanted to save.  He does not have to do this but he chooses to because of his kindness towards us.  So that’s why you will find that the Bible does not talk about who God pre-destined not to save, because all of us deserve not to be saved.  But out of his generosity, he chose to save some. 

Therefore, it is just for God to punish us, since we choose to sin against Him by our own choice.  But it is a surprising generosity that God chooses to save some.

Now it may seem unfair that God saves some but not others but we need to remember that God is God! He made the world and owns it. He and he alone has the right to do with it as he wills. We have not right to tell him what to do. The amazing thing is, though, that rather than being an aloof God who does not care, he is a loving God who has done everything possible to save those he has chosen to save. However he has not told us who and he has not told us why and while we may wonder about this, we cannot tell him he is wrong in doing what he has done.

To answer your second question, the Bible upholds that God is the creator of all things, including things on earth and things in heaven.  This includes heavenly beings, like the angels mentioned in the Bible.  Satan is understood to be a fallen angel who, like humans, makes deliberate choices to disobey God.  The greatest power Satan has is to lie to us things about God.  As we listen to his lies, we sin against God and suffer the due punishment.  That means we cannot really blame God for putting Satan here since we can choose not to listen to what Satan says.  At the same time, because of Jesus’ death for us, when we put our trust in his death for us, we will no longer suffer any punishment.  So the power of Satan is disabled and we no longer need to fear him. 

As you can see in the answers of both questions, the centre of all things is about what Jesus has done for us.  It’s important to trust him and know his impact in our lives.

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If Jesus was God and saviour. And God is our only saviour, dosn’t that mean that God the Father became a man and died for me. Besides Jesus said the father in me and you’ve seen me you’ve seen the father. And if Jesus made all things and gave me life dosn’t that make him the father in the flesh? or what did the father do. or If the comforter was residing with them will be in them dos’nt that mean that Jesus is in me who is the father, and the same spirit in the prophets in the old testament. It does say Father,son, holy spirit, these 3 are 1. Not separate.

Jeremy

Hi Jeremy,

Understanding the trinity is no small thing. It took the church almost 400 years (and several heresies) to be able to come to an agreement as to what is meant by God - the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. So this answer may take some rereadng to fully understand. I would also encourage you to read and reflect on the bible passages.

The Jews wanted to stone Jesus because he ‘being a man’, claimed he was God (John 10:33).  Jesus doesn’t dispute that he is a man, and both he and the Jews are talking about God as a third party.  He says he is the Son of this God, they say that’s blasphemy.  Jesus has just said, ‘I and the Father are one’ (in John 10:30).  But he doesn’t say ‘I am the Father.’ 

The Father is in the Son, and the Son is in the Father (John 10:38), but they relate to each other - they are not ‘the same’.  John 1:1 says, ‘The Word was with God’ (distinction), ‘and the Word was God’.  We can’t say, ‘The Son is the Father’, but we can say ‘the Son and the Father are One’.  They are not one Son, or one Father, but One God.  They relate to each other by the Holy Spirit. 

They relate eternally and perfectly – they are always relating, and are never separate.  The three ‘persons’ of the Trinity (the ‘threeness’) are not separate.  But they are always Father, Son and Spirit, because they are always relating as the Father, the Son and the Spirit.  So although the three persons are not separate, they are distinct.  They are not ‘the same’.

They never act separately – For example, God is active in creation, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. 
(For references, see:
Genesis 1:1, Deuteronomy 32:6 and Malachi 2:10 for the Father;
Colossians 1:15-17 or Psalm 33:6 for the Son (or the Word);
and Psalm 33:6 or Psalm 104:30 for the Holy Spirit. )
But they act distinctly.  For instance when the Son becomes a man, in the ‘incarnation’, the Father sends the Son in the power of the Spirit.  The Son is incarnate, the Father isn’t, the Spirit isn’t.  But we can still say ‘God is incarnate’.

Plus, we never see/hear/interact with one separately - you’re relating to them all.  When you have God’s Holy Spirit living in you, he is the Spirit of the Father and the Son (‘God’ and ‘Christ’ in the words that Romans 8:9 uses), so the Father and the Son live in you (John 14:23).  Jesus Christ, God the Son, is in you by His Spirit, and God the Father is in you by His Spirit.  The same Spirit, but again, Jesus is not the Father. 

By the way, that was why the Old Testament prophets could say “The LORD says”: because God lived in them and spoke through them.  It means we can trust their words, and Jesus’ words – in fact the whole message of the Bible - as being the word of God, not just of human beings (see 1 Thessalonians 2:13).

Hope this helps.

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how can i say sorry for something that happened 20 years ago? is it wrong to drag up the past?

daryl

Dear friend,

This is a complicated question, and I think it’s important to think through the things I say in light of your specific circumstances. Because I don’t know the particulars at all, have a think through how these things might apply. Please don’t think I am guessing at your motives - I am just trying to cover my bases so that you can make a wise decision!

1. Ask yourself: What are your motives?

Does the person you want to apologise to know about the wrongdoing or will it be news to them? Is this likely to bring them some resolution or will it only serve to upset them and clear your conscience? I’m not saying that you shouldn’t tell them, but I think you need to make sure that you can raise the issue and confess and apologise in a way that will cause the least possible hurt. If our goal is to love God, and to love our neighbors, as the Bible tells us, then we need to think about this, especially when you could be picking at old wounds. How is what you say likely to affect them? If what you say is going to cause them a tremendous hurt that they wouldn’t have felt otherwise, think hard about why you want to raise the issue, and think hard about how you can minimise the blow.

2. Remember: Honesty is God’s way

The first person you need to say sorry to is God. Satan is the father of lies. Denying our sin honours him and hurts our heavenly father. It sounds as though you have admitted that whatever you did was wrong, but make sure you pray to God about it and say you’re sorry. Also know that because of Jesus’ death on the cross, you can be forgiven for this wrongdoing. What great news!

Whether or not you need to disclose all of the past circumstances to the person you have wronged will need to be thought through carefully, and you can pray and ask God to give you wisdom to figure out how to approach it.

In general, when apologising, some things that might be helpful to remember:

1. It’s about the other person. Their response might be hurtful to you, but you are trying to do the right thing by them. This means not talking about how they might have deserved it and trying to graciously accept their response.

2. Take responsibility. It’s great that God has laid this thing on your heart to apologise for. Make sure that you take responsibility for your actions. It is so much more meaningful than making excuses.

3. It might be helpful to explain to the person why you have chosen to bring this up now after all these years. It might be helpful for them to know that you still feel bad about it.

4. Be prepared to make amends. Not knowing the particulars of the situation, all I can say is that it might be meaningful to offer to make amends, for example, if you stole something. Not because it makes up for what happened, but because it can mean alot to the person who was wronged.

5. Regardless of the person’s response, remember that if you have said sorry to God, then he has forgiven you.

I suppose in the end, in most circumstances, I would prefer to confess my wrongdoing to the other person. Lies are as much a sin as the original deed. But we need to always be sure that we are seeking the other person’s best interest when we approach or raise these things. Be gentle, be humble. Pray for God’s wisdom. I hope that this works out for you, and, if you do talk about this past event with this person, that God will be glorified by the way you conduct yourself.

Grace and Peace in Christ to you.

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Is it wrong to question God and Miracles?

Hannah

Hi Hannah,
Thanks for your question.
It’s a bit difficult to give a simple answer to your question as there are a number of very different situations that you could be asking about.

If you are asking, ‘is it wrong to have, at various times, doubts about whether there is a god and whether the miracles in the Bible occurred?’ then there is nothing wrong - lots of people have doubts. Doubts are just a symptom that there is something that needs to be addressed in our lives; perhaps there is an area of our understanding where we simply need more information, perhaps there is an aspect of our lives that is at odds with following Jesus that we don’t want to change. The key in these situations is to seek answers - read the Bible, ask God to give you understanding, speak to a Christian Bible teacher, with Christians that know you well (or that can get to know you). Often it is through the process of having doubts, and seeking answers to our doubts, that we actually grow in our understanding and faith.

There is also a healthy ‘questioning’ that followers of Christ are encouraged to have with regard to miracles and the people that claim to perform them. Jesus warned (for example in Mark 13:22-23) that there would be people who claimed to have divine authority and insight, who would perhaps perform impressive “miracles”, but whose teaching, in the end, would not be what the Bible taught and who would lead people away from following Jesus.

The most important thing about asking questions and seeking answers the being willing to change your point of view on the basis of those questions and answers. Much of the harm of organised religion comes from the demand to believe in certain things without questioning. Such “blind” belief is not biblical. If God is true and the bible is true then it will always stand up to our questions. But if it is false then our questions will make that clear and we can walk away from it.

So there is a questioning of God that is wrong, that arises out of a commitment to a worldview that denies even the possibility of miracles and God - a commitment to ‘fault finding’, if you like. The problem with this position is that is those who hold it often fail to apply the same level of skepticism and critique to their own assumptions and beliefs that they apply to the evidence surrounding the existence of God and the miracles in the Bible. A number of people who I have spoken to who claim to be atheists fall into this category. This is not a questioning that seeks answers, it is a questioning that merely seeks to maintain and confirm its own presumptions.

I am not sure if this addresses the issues you were wanting dealt with Hannah, so feel free to ask a follow up question.

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My boyfriend and I began dating when we were 15 and 16 and now almost 4 years later we are still together. I couldn’t love anyone more than I do him, and I know he is the guy I want to marry and he feels the same. Sexual Temptation is also a real problem for us, especially because the first 2 years of our relationship we were doing things with each other that we shouldn’t have (not sexual intercourse but other stuff) until we stopped 2 years into the relationship. We want to get married eventually but we don’t know how to make the decision. What age does God think it’s ok to get married? How can we make a Godly decision of when to get married? Does the Bible say something about making the decision to marry?

Anon

Hi,

I can’t think of any Biblical reason why you two should not get married. You are male and female, you are both unmarried to another, I presume you are not too closely related and you are over the legal age of consent. Best of all, you both appear to want to serve our loving Father in heaven.

Getting married is a big step and so it is wise to also take into account some practical considerations first.

The Bible teaches us to honour our parents and so it would be good if you can take into account the wisdom of your parents. Does one of you have a job to support the new responsibilities you will have as an independent couple (if you are not already independent). Do you have a place to live. Age gap can be a consideration for some, but for you two it is not at all large and even if your boyfriend is the younger it is of no real concern.

If you go to the minister at your local Bible believing church he will have a marriage course that may help you both better understand what you will face in your marriage and what areas in your relationship could benefit from advice. One good course that I’m aware of is called “Prepare”. Also, if you are readers, there are many great books in Christian bookshops on the marriage relationship and also for those thinking of getting married. Some of the authors I like are Gary Chapman, Larry Crabb, Henry Cloud and John Townsend, and Ed and Gay Wheat. 

If you both maintain your committment to having Christ as the foundation of your relationship and continue to work at living the way we are taught in the Bible, I can’t see that you will not have a wonderfully loving and successful marriage despite all the ups and downs that come with living in our broken world. 

I pray that God will bless you both in your journey together.

Leigh

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I went to KYCK recently, which was awesome and i felt good that there where so many Christians to talk to but now a week later i dont feel that sense of being able to talk to anyone about my faith. Not even at my Christian group at school. Why is that?

Hamish

Hi Hamish,

You’re not alone!  Many Christians describe what you are experiencing as a ‘mountain top experience’.  What they mean is, when we gather together at Katoomba with thousands of other Christians and hear great talks we are greatly encouraged.  There is a buzz about it that gets us pumped up as Christians and we are in a safe environment to discuss issues with others.  This is one of the reasons Christian conventions are so good.  The only down side is when we come back to our weekly routines again not everyone else has this excitement.

It would be great if that was not the case, but for most, this is reality.  To add to this, talking to people about Jesus can bring conflict with people who have different views, and no one likes conflict.  Even the apostle Paul who seemed fearless and unashamed of the gospel can write in Ephesians 6:20 ‘Pray that I might be bold enough in Him to speak as I should.’  So I urge that you pray also to be bold, even despite our fears to speak.

Just a few other thoughts.  Hebrews 10:24-25 says:  ‘And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.’

This verse urges us to keep meeting together ‘all the more’ in light of Jesus return.  What I find is when I meet with Christians, say only once a week, in a meeting that is open to the public (that is, non-Christians can be present, like in a school environment) it does not enable the closeness of relationships and depth of discussion you will have at a convention.  So if there is a way to meet more regularly with those who would be keen for deeper discussion that might be a way forward.  Also talk to the Christian leader of your school group about how you are feeling, and perhaps they can even open a discussion on the topic to the group and talk about ways of improving openness within the group.

Something else to keep in mind, as you continue to grow in your knowledge of Jesus as you read the bible, you confidence to speak about him will grow too.  So remember to prioritize reading your bible to know God so well, you feel confident to speak about him.
Thanks for your question.  I pray you will continue to grow in your love and desire for Christ, and out of that will flow a passion to continue to share him with others.

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Im really trying to get my friends from schools to becomes christians but they are so resistant to come to my youth group i pray for them, but they still wont come any ideas?

Michael

G’day Michael,

Thanks for your question. I think it is really great that you are wanting your friends to come to Christ,it shows that you have are concerned about their eternal destiny. I have a couple of thoughts that may help you.

Firstly, we can’t make anyone become a Christian. The Bible shows us that for people to cross from being slaves to sin to being slaves of righteousness is impossible. It is not something we can make them do nor is it something they can do by themselves. It is the work of God. Knowing this helps us not to undermine the value of praying for our friends. Further to this, the work of God is powerful. This helps us to know that no matter how resistant your friends maybe God can still work in them and turn them from their sin. You only have to think of the resistance that Paul showed towards Christians as he persecuted them to see the powerful work of God in his life. So, don’t undervalue praying for your friends - it is the first and most appropriate place to begin in wanting to see your mates come to know Jesus.

Secondly, people only become Christians through new birth as they encounter Jesus in the Bible. Jesus in his encounter with the Jewish leader Nicodemus in John 3:3 says that, “No one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born again” and in v5-6, “I tell you the truth, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born of wter and the Spirit. Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to Spirit. You should not be surprised at my saying , ‘You must be born again’”. The Bible reinforces my first point about it being the work of God.  It also reveals to us the person of Jesus Christ. Ultimately this is what you want your friends to grapple with. Who do they say Jesus Christ is? They don’t have to come to youth group to get to know Jesus - you could talk to them about Jesus or you could give them a copy of Mark’s gospel to read or you could point them at this website! Getting them to read the story of Jesus helps them to discover who Jesus is and to strip away any misconceived ideas they had about who Jesus is.

Thirdly, we are called to be people who live a beautiful way of life (1Peter 2:12 - a ‘good’ life). We know that salvation is the work of God but we are also to be a witness to the power of the gospel. Your friends seeing the difference that Christianity makes will cause them to give glory to God. And yes, this happens. I have just come back from lunch with someone who said he went away with some Christians on a camp and was astounded by their character and witness that he became a Christian over the course of the weekend.

Lastly, be patient and trust God. Patient that God will work in HIS good time as much as we would like Him to bea to our drum, he doesn’t. And trust God that he knows what he is doing with regards to your friends and their salvation.

I hope this was helpful,

Dave

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I have been brought up first as a Jehova’s witness then my father joined a radical church. Both my parents are devout christians and attend church every sunday. I’m worried that I am not a christian as I have doubts about the bible. Also the issue of heaven and hell scares me and really worry if this is true or not. I would like to believe in christianity but it is these doubts which let me down. I have been baptised 3 times and have moved church many times. Please help.

Michelle

Hi Michelle,

It is so important to be certain of your salvation so this is really the best question you could ask.

A christian is a person who relies on Jesus to save them and who follows Jesus as Lord of his life.

The Bible says
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” (John 3:16)

We are sinners in the eyes of God and because God is just, he punishes us for our sins. The punishment is the condemnation to an eternity without God (this is what hell is).

God knows that there is no way we can save ourselves, because we cannot help but sin and can never reach God’s perfect standards. But because God loves us so much, he gives us Jesus.

Jesus died for us so we can be forgiven by God. By dying on the cross, Jesus took the punishment that we deserved, so giving us eternal life. Eternal life means being with God for eternity (this is what heaven is).

But God also raised Jesus up from the dead, and made him the Lord / master of everything in heaven and on earth. So to believe in Jesus, we also have to treat him as the Lord / master of the universe, including our own lives. We need to follow Jesus in everything we do if we say we believe in him.

So if you admit that you are a sinner needing Jesus, and you rely on Jesus’ death to save you from punishment of your sins, and you are willing to follow Jesus as the Lord of your life, then you are a christian! If you believe these things, then you are a christian regardless of whether you have been baptised, whether your family is christian or which church you go to.

However to be a christian does mean that you need to believe the Bible, because it is from the Bible that we learn about the salvation offered by Jesus, and the Bible is also the way we learn about how to follow Jesus.

The Bible is indeed a very valuable book, because it is the only way God has promised to speak to mankind. The best way to find out if the Bible is true is to read it for yourself. I would start with one of the gospels (the books of Matthew, Mark, Luke or John.) It is also helpful to be part of a church that places an emphasis on teaching the Bible, where the sermon explains passages from the Bible week by week, and where members are committed to study the Bible seriously together in small groups.

The following link has a web site which runs through the christian belief in a short and clear presentation. Why don’t you have a look at it now and make sure you are in a right relationship with God?

Two Ways To Live

You could also look at God Makes Sense. And of course if you have any other questions please feel free to come back and ask.

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Can you expain your views of the deity & humanity of Jesus??

Renee

Hi Renee,

What a question! These are big issues that Christians have wrestled with throughout the centuries. The idea of someone being both God and human is mind-blowing - and it’s very tough to get your head around. 

Jesus is fully God
At the start of his gospel, John explains what it means for Jesus to be God (John 1:1-5). Firstly, he explains that it means Jesus is eternal. In other words, He was not created, but has always existed. Secondly, it means that Jesus is the creator of all things that have been created. There is nothing that exists that doesn’t have the label ‘made by Jesus’. All life finds its source in the person of Jesus. Paul writes the same things in Colossians 1:16-17.

Jesus is God on earth
John goes on to explain the staggering fact of the ‘incarnation’ (John 1:14-18): This God - the creator and sustainer of all things - chose to enter his creation. He became truly human and lived among us. In the (human) person of Jesus we see God fully.

Jesus is fully human
The picture the gospel writers give us of Jesus is one of someone that is distinctly human. He became flesh (John 1:14). He got hungry and was tempted like we are (Luke 4:1-13). Even after his death and resurrection, Jesus goes to great lengths to show he is still fully human; he shows his hands and feet, and eats with them, all to show that he is not a ghost (Luke 24:36-43). And he was raised as a human and is still human now, the first of many humans in heaven.

Jesus can help because he is both God and human
The fact that Jesus is both God and man is very important for us. As a human who shares in our human weaknesses, he knows what it is like to be human and tempted and is therefore able to represent us in the presence of the Father where he pleads to Him for us (Hebrews 5 and 7). Because he is fully God, he is able to show us what God is like (John 14:8-11) bu more important because he is God, he is able to pay for our sins and bring us into a relationship with God again (Colossians 1:19-20). In other words, the problem that we find ourselves in, the alienation that our sin brings between us and God, Jesus can fix because he is both man and God, he is able to reconcile us.

I hope this has helped you in your thinking about Jesus…. Feel free to ask some follow up questions!

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